calliope:
same here...i hate my dad.

abeg no killam o. Tell him were he wrong u am sure both of u wil be frnds cos u are an adult now

BABANGBALI:
God bless you and your entire generation

Amen

I can relate with your experience bro. Fast forward to the present I now understand some of my dads decisions and acts and guess what... Am forever grateful. So cheer up my bro, father meant the best for you. Forgiveness is the surest path to healing. Cheers

#000000

johnson232:
i am sure he detest u as well...

Yes, and the rest of my siblings.

Terrible thing to say about ur parent who worked under rain & sun for to be what u are today. Be very careful cos what goes around comes around. I hope ur kids treat & have same feelings u have for ur dad for u. Obey ur mother & father so thy days may be long.

Guy no be only you,i don tell my own make him pray for two tins...1. make i die bfor am 2. make i no gt money. Bt if God no ansa him prayers for dos two tins hmmm!! Make i stop for here sha.... Bt as for my mum she is my pillar

krak101:
I can relate with your experience bro. Fast forward to the present I now understand some of my dads decisions and acts and guess what... Am forever grateful. So cheer up my bro, father meant the best for you. Forgiveness is the surest path to healing. Cheers

leave he guy alone,na wetin him sabi?wen the old man die,na dat time him go appreciate him.


















Iranu osi

ebamma:
Make i talk true.


I suppose hate my Old man pass you sef,

but i don't.
Me were him don beat with bicycle chain,


Punch me like Mike Tyson,


Flog me with the biggest cane.

But that didn't make me hate him,

It only made me want to be a better man than him.


That's why i hate seeing kids being beaten,


many a times, i always intervene and stop their Parents from beating 'em.

Bros, U be retired badoo ooooo

BICYCLE CHAIN!!!!!!

favourmic:




What your offence then? Or he just chained you without no reason?

No offence justifies such action,jeez!
Would your father attempt such now that you are a grown man? I'm willing to bet the answer is no! Because he would meet equal force.
Doing that to a defenceless child is NOT acceptable in any form. That is taking advantage of a person who is physically weaker.
No wonder the country is full of wife beaters, people who are abused often go on to become abusers themselves.

Some ppl wish dat dey ve a dad and u re here hating him 4 trying 2 shape u 2 b a better man in future. Even if ur dad didn't pamper u, at least ur mum did.when one person is fire d other will b water so it can blend. At least he took care of ur responsibilities. Stop bearing grudges 4 him, u re d one suffering it, In his mind he's only training u, so 4give & 4get and b happy. Enjoy every moments of ur life,Life is 2 short 2 waste on grudges. Laugh when u can, apologize when u should... and let go of what u can't change.

ebamma:
Make i talk true.


I suppose hate my Old man pass you sef,

but i don't.
Me were him don beat with bicycle chain,


Punch me like Mike Tyson,


Flog me with the biggest cane.

But that didn't make me hate him,

It only made me want to be a better man than him.


That's why i hate seeing kids being beaten,


many a times, i always intervene and stop their Parents from beating 'em.

U just got me nostalgic!!
Nowadays, I see my dad's reasons for his actions then and also his flaws in the past. I try not to make the same mistakes he made.
What more can we do than to learn from the mistakes of our parents!

waxxydude:
Was cool with my parents. But the only thing i hated bout my dad was how the man dashes me knock whether excited or angered.

The 1st day i dodge his knock (@ 17) the guy say i don join cult. chai. e nor gree me sleep for house.. omo na ma pastor, shurch members and neighbours beg for me dah day o.

Nigga talk true U did more than dodge His knock to deserve this

tayooluwole:
This is how I feel when ever my Mum tells me that my Dad will be travelling on a long journey... I don't like seeing my Dad around at all, he is too harsh and authoritative

lolz u'r not well,dis ur pic nah die.... @airforce forgive n forget,it's not easy but just try.I feel ur pain.... @father n father to be pls learn to be kind to dis kids,let wisdom guide u when directing their steps.thnks

VanBommel:
I've been there too, but I've forgiven him although it hasn't been easy cos sometimes my thoughts unknowingly wanders there

It got 2 d point I felt he wasn't my dad... But we are just carbon copy

Several African parents still have a long way to go in showing love and care to their children. Some display harshness and brutality as if that's the best way to train a child.

E say childhood girlfriend,

free2ryhme:

congrats for coming online to rubbish your dad
seun go give you medal
he that is without sin cast the first stone
guy you should learn that somethings are better left unsaid
mstchew!!!!

Don't mind him!

I had a very abusive father. I left my home when I was 16 and was wanted by the Interpol . I lived in 4 countries so far .. I am who I am today thanks to my parents .. I do have sporadic contact with my mom ..I don't blame her for not being able to protect us kids ..she was severely abused her self ... I have not spoken to the father I call sperm donator since I left ..but tell u this Airforce1 u have to forgive but not forgetting .. Because ur bitterness can consume u otherwise ..live us life ..ur grown now but never ever do what he did to u..to your children ..protect them and love them

You gotta show him some love, man.

Consiglier:
Fatherhood is a thankless job. Its too bad many a child have no love for their father and his only offence being obeying the biblical injunction; spare the rod and spoil the child.

I want to be a father and friend to my daughter, but I will not hesitate to punish her appropriately if the need arises and other avenues explored to no avail.

But then, I believe men should be indifferent to their children's feeling for them; either love or hate. All we need is your respect and to guide you in the right path and at all cost

Rod doesn't necessarily mean physical cane. There are better effective ways of instilling discipline, and this shouldn't be by assault. A lot of parents miss it with their children.
We should learn to resolve conflicts and issues without the use of violence, and we should teach our children that . I'm sure that's what Christ would want .
It's ideal parents live exemplary lives for their kids to follow, but a lot dont do that and, they T hink its by assaulting their kids that will make the children turn out right.

Airforce1:
So today I took my niece to go play with her mates at Sweet sensation children funfair in my crib..
She was so happy playing with her mates and I on the other side keeping an eye on her got carried away by the thought of not having enough love by that man that called himself my father back in the days as a kid.

I remember my dad beating me up at every slightest provocation even on children's day.

He is a bad man
I remember catching him with a strange woman while momma was away
But he fucking deceived me she was his course mate back in university.

What made me hate him more was the day he flogged me in the presence of my child hood girl friend .
I can't forget that day.
He messed me up so badly that I had to run to momma to ask if that man was actually my father.

I hate him with passion.

Till these present day that I'm grown up , I don't even call him , I don't care about him... I only care about mom because she gave me confidence , showed me love and treat me right .


So to the parents reading my story, you've got to be not just mom and dad to your children , you've got to be friends with them too so they don't go online and write my kind of story about you when they became adults.


Thanks for reading.
Airforce!

It is too bad but then never make light the place of Father in your destiny irrespective of whatever he may have done to you. A wise Son gets the blessing and support of His dad but a kid who try to play smart might end up incurring curse!
He is your Father and you came from his loins.. His words and prayers can take you a long way.

That reminds me of a slap I received from my old man in front of a girl I was toasting when I was a teenager, but I dont hate him I love my dad.

Your dad did you no wrong. You just want to hate the man. Even if he is that bad, giving you life is the most precious gift you can ever have. Thank God, you are his image. Cherish him while he still has life.

I love my dad more than I love myself, I first thank God for his life before mine, my other loved ones and friends.
OP, I won't tell you to forget about it because it's not easy but forgive and let it go. Just ask God to help to help you out and he will.

@op. U feel hurt its understandable but u must learn to let go of the hurts. Sometimes u need to see the positive side to every "negative", event in life. I'm certain if the heart can be viewed as a mirror, u will be able to see the measure of love ur dad has for u. Also u should know by now that African parents show love in diverse forms even in the most unexpected manner. Let the pains go cos it will help u never to be guided by fear of not scolding ur child so u dnt walk in ur fathers shoes. How would you feel if ur grown child looks u in d face and tells u how much he detest u for not rebuking him/her or not using the rod on them to avoid them making dangerous mistakes or decisions? Love has got two faces, the good side and the strict side. Even if u get to see the strict side more, its still love OK.

waxxydude:
Was cool with my parents. But the only thing i hated bout my dad was how the man dashes me knock whether excited or angered.

The 1st day i dodge his knock (@ 17) the guy say i don join cult. chai. e nor gree me sleep for house.. omo na ma pastor, shurch members and neighbours beg for me dah day o.

Couldn't help laughing

I wish I had a father.. I will turn the whole world upside down just to see him again

Sunnycliff:
And you will one day be a dad and your son will hate you!

Karma treats all misgivings squarely

His son will treat him that way only if he does what his father did.

Let's stop condoning bad behaviour.

i dont think its a enough reason to hate ur dad too this extent, me as a girl growing up, my father dealt with me ruthlessly. in fact i cant begin to narrate wat my own dad did to me, its was stroke of luck that am not disfigured in any form.
can u imagine me using banana leaf to write in school as punishment, and that is just the least. but from wat i saw or see now he did it out of love not for hatred. but i still will lay me life for my dad, cos i dont know wat would have become of me today.
so dude u no see anything. forgive him, cos one day when he is gone u will regret.

airforce1. You didnt see anything. My dad beat for useless things. He'd fold a wire in three or four and whoop me for small things. Which child chop beating reach me sev? Dad would beat me till I bled. He'd beat you anywhere.... His left hand na die

I'm not going to say I hate him but I don't love him either, we dont have a relationship, hardly talk together, I'm most times jealous of my friend when I see how him and his father relates, even calls his father old man and playing PES 2 with him.... my dad will never smile, only derives pleasure in beating and abusing me and my siblings.... I've only made up my mind I'll never be anything like him when I have my own kids.