harsysky:


I'll answer that. For a soft man and a die-hard woman, Wisdom, which is the principal thing for both the " soft man and strong man" must come into play. How?

Man is Man. We are the stronger vessel because of our MENTAL STRENGTH and not physical strength. A soft man should be after the root of the whole problem because I believe he knows his wife too well before he married her. Finding the root cause and settling it from there is far better than hitting.

Kondomatik:
No man knew his woman before he married her.

rokiatu:
You deserve a medal for this.

harsysky:


You're right to some extent. Let me ask you based on all you've said.
What if this woman of yours doesn't change all through the series of beatings, what will you do?

kunleshaam:
I just pass such exam 2day where a lady gave me the insult of my life. I was in d same room with dis lady for abt 20min she said all sorts of rubbish to me. Anger was boiling in me but I said to my self I will not say a word. Finish arranging my camera took my laptop and left the house. I could not believe I made it thru such insult of a life time, So anger can destroy & ultimately kill. So #Work on ur Inner Man.

Kondomatik:
You dey laugh? I personally don't sub to the idea that a real man doesn't hit a woman no matter what.

No! A real man hits a woman when need be.

That's all.

Y'know, I was talking with a sister one day when this talk came up and I told her to goan and ask real women how to treat a man and then come back to tell me if a man in his senses will hit such woman.

You're a bitch but you want your man to treat you like a queen because you have breast? No way.

Work for it. Earn it.

A woman have to love a man first to know him, a man has to know a woman first to love her.

You see the different?

If a woman insults me all night long, I will shut her mouth with the back of palm and she dare not complain because we are even.

She lost hold of her tongue and I lost control of my hand.

End of discussion.

Nobody should hit anybody or insult anybody.

The rule is simple.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

No preferential treatment because you have vagina.

We are human with blood not gods so don't give us more than we can take.

Kondomatik:
You dey laugh? I personally don't sub to the idea that a real man doesn't hit a woman no matter what.

No! A real man hits a woman when need be.

That's all.

Y'know, I was talking with a sister one day when this talk came up and I told her to goan and ask real women how to treat a man and then come back to tell me if a man in his senses will hit such woman.

You're a bitch but you want your man to treat you like a queen because you have breast? No way.

Work for it. Earn it.

A woman have to love a man first to know him, a man has to know a woman first to love her.

You see the different?

If a woman insults me all night long, I will shut her mouth with the back of palm and she dare not complain because we are even.

She lost hold of her tongue and I lost control of my hand.

End of discussion.

Nobody should hit anybody or insult anybody.

The rule is simple.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

No preferential treatment because you have vagina.

We are human with blood not gods so don't give us more than we can take.

Often time we hear women say "Trust me, I finished him with my mouth".

You see? They know how powerful their tongue is and how to use it to be-little a man but when the finished man raises hand they scream woman beater.

Excuse me!

Joy1706:

If a woman insults you, can't you insult her back? That's why you have a mouth. Don't go and hit someone who would take it a step further by stabbing you. Don't touch me for any reason if I've not touched you else ...... use ur mouth if u can't take the insults

harsysky:
The strength of a man is on how he controls anger and not his ability to hit a woman

I remember a time i was playing scrabble with my girlfriend. she got angry because of a nasty comment i made , and she scattered the whole piece. I fumed, lost my breath in anger, and all I was thinking was to hit her. Then I heard my conscience talk to me as usual,

" Harsysky! if you touch her, you will lose my respect forever. i want you to keep earning it".

I don't think i would ever trade my conscience' respect for anything in this world-- it's my reputation. what i did was to smile at my girlfriend and made her realise it was my fault. To those who beat their girlfriend or wife or any random girl, is it a sign of being man enough? i think it's being kid enough. Even kids these days don't do it.

if you are a wife-beater, girlfriend- beater, you are a disgrace, and you don't respect yourself as far as i'm concerned.

MrCork:



..u hate incrredible hulk?

halfricanadian:


Tanx

Reason why i wanna get married to a guy dat will see me as human play with me cherish me love me and all

Nt d one dat will expect me to b worshipping him wen d bible clearly stated u cant serve two masters im to worship God and honour nd respect my husband

JESUSBOIY:
he suffered 2 toast u, becum maga 4 u,paid ur bride price, feeds and leads u, so y shouldn't u worship him?

halfricanadian:


Would never worship him cos he never created me
Why shd i worship human dat can kill d body

Wen i can worship d God dat can kill both d body nd soul

JESUSBOIY:
dont worry. Wen u marry u will knw !

JESUSBOIY:
dont worry. Wen u marry u will knw !

harsysky:


What does "to worship" mean from your own perspective, Jesusboiy?

JESUSBOIY:
to do everytin he says,neva hurt him, agree 2 all his decisions!

harsysky:

Agree to all? Whether it's gonna hurt her or not?

JESUSBOIY:
u tink say e easy 2 pay bride price, huh?

harsysky:


So, because I paid her bride price, I should treat her like a trash. Na wa for you o. Now I know your type. "My wife must be a slave because I bought her with money". Change that mentality or you're gonna hate your life.

JESUSBOIY:
am not saying i will turn wifey 2 a slave, re read my former posts.. .

Owobobrown:
I guess this is her first time, let see how you will bottled up your anger when this can of situation keeps on repeating itself

harsysky:


I'll handle it like a man. Men don't throw a tantrum. Then, I stop making her angry.

harsysky:


I'll handle it like a man. Men don't throw a tantrum. Then, I stop making her angry.

harsysky:
The strength of a man is on how he controls anger and not his ability to hit a woman

I remember a time i was playing scrabble with my girlfriend. she got angry because of a nasty comment i made , and she scattered the whole piece. I fumed, lost my breath in anger, and all I was thinking was to hit her. Then I heard my conscience talk to me as usual,

" Harsysky! if you touch her, you will lose my respect forever. i want you to keep earning it".

I don't think i would ever trade my conscience' respect for anything in this world-- it's my reputation. what i did was to smile at my girlfriend and made her realise it was my fault. To those who beat their girlfriend or wife or any random girl, is it a sign of being man enough? i think it's being kid enough. Even kids these days don't do it.

if you are a wife-beater, girlfriend- beater, you are a disgrace, and you don't respect yourself as far as i'm concerned.

Ifakiland:

ure a mumu...so gals are allowed to insult us, slap us, bite us, but we are only allowed to be looking like "chinedu" Abi. when a gal get violent and physical with me...she becomes a male, and I engage her in a fite with d hope she doesn't beat me...I'll pick her up...slam her on a bed or couch. it's pple like u pastor will slap and ull say touch not d annoited. oponu. am yet to see dat gal dat will be voilent with me and I'll not take to d ring to fight. sebi u want to be treated like a male...I'll treat u as one.