lovean:
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm,very serious case,but just for peace sake,don't beat her up or anything of such.....firstly she abandons a 3years relationship just lyk that for only God knows what reason, then she shows up nine months later acting lyk d queen,who de heck does she tink she is u probably must have had her heart broken to pieces now she wanna destroy yah life......well I advice u try to make evidence of her harassments lyk a video or some tin....mind u make as many as possible, tell ur present girl everything that happens cause ur ex is desperate and is capable of anything... keep an eye on ur gf till u get enough evidence on ur ex...make several copies of the evidence then u can go to a police station...they can't just ignore evidences lyk dat....if her parents block one police station go and report at other police stations with ur evidences......for now watch yah back and ur baes ...ur ex is capable of anything..... tell ur ex no matter wat she does there's no going back she acting lyk an animal can't make u go back to her instead ur getting to know her other side better....make she just move on joor.

thanks bro. I must stop deleting her messages, and start storing them to make a case for myself. She just wants to bully me to submission with her connections or whatever because she knows I am a nobody connection wise

IsraelMonday:

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Virginity na Chieftaincy title..?

it isn't bro, but don't u ever promise a woman marriage if u know u won't marry her. Don't make her while away her time with u when u know she's gat no future wit u..

BeeBeeOoh:
it isn't bro, but don't u ever promise a woman marriage if u know u won't marry her. Don't make her while away her time with u when u know she's gat no future wit u..

Was That What I Asked You..?
I PERCEIVE BENIN WEED HERE..

you have to stay calm, call this babe, sit her down and calmly explain to her that you are done with her PERIOD, and warn her that the next time she makes the mistake of going near any of your friends/family members etc.... she will taste her own medicine
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But OP,what if your ex is a nairalander/visits nairaland and is also reading our suggestions and also giving her own contributions too?


You dun ever reason the possibility and implications? Lol

sumborri:
thanks bro. I must stop deleting her messages, and start storing them to make a case for myself. She just wants to bully me to submission with her connections or whatever because she knows I am a nobody connection wise

....just take gud care of ur bae n protect her from harm ...best of luck.

popez:
But OP,what if your ex is a nairalander/visits nairaland and is also reading our suggestions and also giving her own contributions too?


You dun ever reason the possibility and implications? Lol

if she's wise enough.. She wil stay clear of this ma Guy..

popez:
But OP,what if your ex is a nairalander/visits nairaland and is also reading our suggestions and also giving her own contributions too?


You dun ever reason the possibility and implications? Lol

actually didn't think of that. But well at least she can read comments here and see she is behaving irrationally

MRBrownJ:
you have to stay calm, call this babe, sit her down and calmly explain to her that you are done with her PERIOD, and warn her that the next time she makes the mistake of going near any of your friends/family members etc.... she will taste her own medicine. then find 2/3 female goons ready and willing to deal with that mad woman, if she ever tries her shiiit again.

sometimes only madness cures madness.

dat violence is what I am thinking about, but I felt it could make matters worse since this is nigeria and she has a lot of connected people while I have nobody.

This one pass me oo. confused stupid ex

WOW

Well first thing is she ain't going anywhere and like you said she is well connected...you don't need well connected people,you need the mobs...

You mentioned her parents doesn't know bout what she did abi??..I think you need to sit down and talk with her...you need a recorder,you can use your phone ..talk about the past and am sure she will still talk about the abortion thing and all what she did,remember its going to be recorded...let your present gf have a copy just for safe storage...

The mobs are your neighbours who know about her,your friends,family...

I think you need to see her parents ,go to her family house and pay them a visit ...talk to them and play the recorded record...I think its best you go with your present gf...remember you are not dealing with a lady here but a wounded lion...she being a threat to your gf is very bad o..I personally won't be comfortable with that if I were to be the one...

Your gf should realize two heads are better than one and o think she should be able to help you handle this being a lady too...calling it quits isn't the best option ..it is an option but it isn't the best...

Well you said she is from a influential family abi try not to let your temper act hastily so you don't end up regretting it...

Am sure her parents aren't aware of her abortion,they won't be pleased about it...you should be able to know how to thread along with her having dated her for a while..

I hope this works for you...

"You never know what you have until you lose it"...this applies to her

dejifalade

show her d other side of u... she wanna blackmail u.. Just small beating will do

hmm

sumborri:
I am intending going to pick her up for a three day torture with my army goons. Yet something in me tells me dat move will make things worse.

Just ignore her completely. Don't talk to her. Block all her numbers on your phones. Don't react emotionally to anything she does. Also, why did you have to promise to marry her? Please make up your mind to never torture anybody for any reason. That's immoral and wicked and against the law. Don't even think about such things. Just ignore her and protect yourself and your fiancee and she will eventually lose interest. That's all. Perhaps you can give her one final apology and then from that point forward you should ignore her completely. If she slaps you, dodge, etc.

She never jam madness


Bully kor, banner ni.


Bro, you do not need any connection on issues like this. Haba, did you steal her money? To marry is not by force o.

Hire 2 female soldiers It is simple, and file a report at a Police Station.

Even though she deserves it please do not beat her up. I know its unfair but you cannot hit back at a woman even when she slaps you. The world is twisted to accept that women should get away with assault.

Try to record her threats. Expose a video to her family showing her threats with you accusing and her defending her abortion and infidelity. Let them see what their daughter really is.

If your new babe wants to leave let her go for her own safety. Crazy women are dangerous. Better to expose their threats to the world early enough.

She'll stalk you for a while before one unfortunate guy will fall for her and rescue you.

Seun:
Just ignore her completely. Don't talk to her. Block all her numbers on your phones. Don't react emotionally to anything she does. Also, why did you have to promise to marry her? Please make up your mind to never torture anybody for any reason. That's immoral and wicked and against the law. Don't even think about such things. Just ignore her and protect yourself and your fiancee and she will eventually lose interest. That's all. Perhaps you can give her one final apology and then from that point forward you should ignore her completely. If she slaps you, dodge, etc.

Seun Seun. You are in romance section nowadays. Nice one.

Guy no tell me say u be weakling like dis o...she got pregnant for anoda man and aborted it now she is back......during the time she was messing did u tell her is over between u guyz?its as simple as that no matter the kind connection she get arrange agud lawyer gather enuf reasonable and tangible evidence againts her......arrest her and make sure the order comes from the state cid....file a law suit againts her, to treath to life, public assult, violating ur new gf human right and above all terrorism....make sure her family those crazy friends of hers and community gets Involved and het ur people to back u up too......na she go beg you tire sef....by the time she don sign better undertaker for ur head and ur gf own....thank me later....this one na real small matter....

HungerBAD:
Never lay your hands on a woman.

I second you.....

Op,; you know people wey dey make mouth sey them get police connection might just be bluffing,,,, I advise you take her to the police, get some evidence and witness(if need be) of all the threat she's been making....... Charge her to court with a restraining order never to come close to you... That's my 2cent

this is a very delicate issue and it requires handling it with wisdom. I will advice you apply to a nearby police station to report the matter. because if you continue to keep mute, you may be endangering your life and that of your fiancee. such a girl will go to any length to get back at you because she already knows she has lost out totally.

sumborri:
actually she has very well connected family members. And I don't know if the police case won't be compromised. I have thought of doing that but I don't yet have the connections in this world , incase the matter become a game of whom u know. I don't know any body in that regard

Is this the same girl you pranked or another one. Seriously bro If you are a religious person you need to pray against enemies of Goodness.

Seun:
Just ignore her completely. Don't talk to her. Block all her numbers on your phones. Don't react emotionally to anything she does. Also, why did you have to promise to marry her? Please make up your mind to never torture anybody for any reason. That's immoral and wicked and against the law. Don't even think about such things. Just ignore her and protect yourself and your fiancee and she will eventually lose interest. That's all. Perhaps you can give her one final apology and then from that point forward you should ignore her completely. If she slaps you, dodge, etc.

I made that ill fated promise when the going was good oga boss. She slept with another and went on awol for months and I in turned moved on. Anyway I have heard you sir, and I have been dodging her and her missed calls with other numbers. She only wanted to provoke me so I hit her then she would use her connections to send me to kiri kiri like she has threatened many times. Am wiser.

pamcode:
Is this the same girl you pranked or another one. Seriously bro If you are a religious person you need to pray against enemies of Goodness.

ironically the fiance in this story is the one is foolishly lost due to my prank. Guess it was God's way of punishing me. Plus her anger at me was also based on this headache she was bearing added to the prank. Thanks bro

Get a restraining order against dis yo crazy ex

alexistaiwo:
guy. You are in big mess. this is why I always advocate firmness when dealing with the female folks. if you haven't been a sissy when you were dating her. she won't think of threatening you. simple solution to your problem:
Find a friend who has a military brother preferably Air Force and just pay the military guy to escort you with about 3 of his squad to go and visit her family members. When you get there, don't say anything at all even if questions were to be thrown at you. let the military guys do all the talking and tell them to gently instruct her family to advise her to leave you in peace or else she will have them to deal with. Trust me it works every time.
enough said thank me later.

Bro, the bolded statement has proven that we still have some real men on nairaland. I agree with you. Besides, I wonder why he was so quick to promise marriage.

sumborri:
We dated for three years, once she entered camp, my calls became annoying, days will go by and no call, text or chat from her. I stopped calling to see her reaction, and to my disbelief she stopped calling, there was no quarel or bad blood when she left. Anyway my guys who were in same camp, quixkly told me of her maami market and soccer fleld waka and I thus forgot that relationship.

Fast forward to 9months later, I was dating someone else and happily too, when I returned from work and met her at my door step. I inquired who died, and she started begging and accusing me of neglect etc. Even after telling her of all I heard, she tried to make it all my fault. Anyway I quickly told her , these weren't necesary cos I have moved on. Then she told me dat she had an abortion for a guy during camp because she realised I am the man for her , and thus didn't want to have his baby despite that he wanted to marry her.

I looked at the mirror to be sure "fool" wasn't written on my fore head. I walked her out and since then all I get keeps ranging from pleas, to threats to my woman. She says I disvirgined her with promise to marry her (yes I said that when we met). She even visited my home once and tried to make a scene. I refused her entry cos my woman was inside, and she screamed , slapped me a couple of times even my neighbours had to warn me about the mad women I bring home. I have tried to be a gentleman and ignore her but she has done what I won't take.

she technically went to my woman's home with some friends of hers, she bolted the door, and they kept shouting outside that they came with razor blade to disfigure her fine face, dat she has connections with police and nothing will happen. After neighbours calmed her down, they left and my woman has threaten to leave (as adviced by her mum).


Now this mad woman is a girl who knows about my violent tendencies. this is a girl who I have begged and adviced to leave me alone, this is a girl I have tried my best to be gentlemanly despite all her provocations.

I am intending going to pick her up for a three day torture with my army goons. Yet something in me tells me dat move will make things worse.

What do I do ? The best option appears to pack out and change my contact , but she knows where I work and I can't afford that there, plus should I run away from a woman ? Don't wanna lose my gf cos of a mad EX.

Oga, the bolded statement got me annoyed. You were too quick to promise marriage. Apparently your head was in cloud nine due to the sweetness of her pussy. You were a real wussy. Anyway, just have a one-on-one discussion with her. Dialogue has always been the answer. Fire for fire won't solve the problem. NDA and BOKO HARAM comes to mind.

I'll be back with my analysis of the situation.
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