There's ds gal. We met @ church. She happens 2b a friend of my friend. She spoke to him abt me, now she's come to me, letting me know she likes me n funnily say she's certain i feel d same way abt her (No, I don't). How do I politely (n without inflicting any hurt) let her know i do not find interest in ds serious proposal??

Pls treat seriously

Stress the 'No' when u say it to her, dont give her the chance to even want to persuade u, say it like your mind is made up. . . She will free u immediately

Ignore her.


When she smiles, look like this

When she touches you, look like this


When she calls you say "O' boy" wetin do you ?

posakosa:

Ignore her.


When she smiles, look like this

When she touches you, look like this


When she calls you say "O' boy" wetin do you ?

LOL

posakosa:

Ignore her.


When she smiles, look like this

When she touches you, look like this


When she calls you say "O' boy" wetin do you ?

LMAO

Hello

               In my opinion, if a guy isn't interested in me, and he wants to let me know w/out Inflicting pain then his approach should be something like this.

                                         1 pull me aside where there is a private place to talk. 
                                         2. Find something nice about me (I think you are a very beautiful lady)
                                         3. at this point he should tell me in a very serious manner, I'm not ready or i'm not seeking anything  beyond friendship with you, 
                                         4. At this point he should add his best wishes and excuse himself!!!   



      Very simple and the girl should respect you for your honesty,  well unless she's American then she may find you even more likeable and then stalk you hehehe joking,  hope all work-out for ya goodluck!!!!!!

I hope this little advice works;

Don’t collect her number; if you’ve already collected it, avoid calling her frequently

Try and avoid one on one meetings with her

Whenever she’s around you, always act like you’re in a hurry to leave

Don’t say nice things to her

Try this and with time she would begin to notice that you’re not serious with her and believe me, she would be the one to leave you – you don’t have to break her heart.

@CrazyKid               

            I’m sorry but I totally disagree with what you are suggesting,  this guy said,  How do I politely (n without inflicting any hurt) let her know I do not find interest in ds serious proposal??

             Keep in mind that the two have mutual friends so for future encounters he must be polite so that he wont have to deal with the bitterness from the female that's being rejected. Besides what if has a negative affect on the mutual friend? trust me your advice is how a immature kid would go about the situation, no offense

LuvAfrican:

Hello

In my opinion, if a guy isn't interested in me, and he wants to let me know w/out Inflicting pain then his approach should be something like this.

1 pull me aside where there is a private place to talk.
2. Find something nice about me (I think you are a very beautiful lady)
3. at this point he should tell me in a very serious manner, I'm not ready or i'm not seeking anything beyond friendship with you,
4. At this point he should add his best wishes and excuse himself!!!



Very simple and the girl should respect you for your honesty, well unless she's American then she may find you even more likeable and then stalk you hehehe joking, hope all work-out for ya goodluck!!!!!!

And what makes you think this bunch of rubbish makes any sense.

You don't even know how foolish and childish you sound by this comment you made; when people are looking for advice; if you have none to offer; just keep silent so that you won't expose your stupidity to the whole world.

@KC
 
        OMG!!!!! I shouldn't entertain such ignorance but what the heck!!!!             

          One way to cover up stupidity and a lack of intellectual abilities is thru hostilely and rudeness, I think when you go attacking people for their opinions you are clearly brainless miss lady. Hence there is no wrong or right opinion here, however be for you comment make sure you read cleary, (that was my purpose for my statement to you),  he asked for a friendly way to approach the situation, YOU will be fine try reading a book or something I heard it helps cure ignorance!!!!

Chineke! another fight,

LuvAfrican:

@KC

OMG!!!!! I shouldn't entertain such ignorance but what the heck!!!!

One way to cover up stupidity and a lack of intellectual abilities is thru hostilely and rudeness, I think when you go attacking people for their opinions you are clearly brainless miss lady. Hence there is no wrong or right opinion here, however be for you comment make sure you read cleary, (that was my purpose for my statement to you), he asked for a friendly way to approach the situation, YOU will be fine try reading a book or something I heard it helps cure ignorance!!!!

You’re a brainless idiot; it seems you’re so stupid to know that you were the one that first called my opinion childish; was the advice I gave meant for you?

Please if you have nothing to do, go and continue your prostitution trade and don’t bring your frustration opon me you shameless LovePeddler

^^^^

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Its ok eh, no more fighting ok ?

posakosa:

Ignore her.


When she smiles, look like this 

When she touches you, look like this 

Poster - There should be a time when one says something and stands by it
irrespective of who it hurts. Say Your 'NO' and mean it.
She is really too fast . . . .Drawing a conclusion that You feel the same way she feels
even when You haven't said a thing?
Talk about being faster than one's shadow!!

errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, how about you just tell her. 'Nahhhhhhhhh I'm not feeling you like that' .There is no 'nice' way about it. You tell a woman she looks beautiful but you're not interested right now. . .she will think , 'yeh but he thinks I am beautiful, maybe he will be interested in me later' and she will stick around like like a fly on sh!t. Some people try to read inbetween the lines of things that aren't actually there. Please, tell her you aint interested full stop. No forming. abeg!  

posakosa:

Ignore her.


When she smiles, look like this

When she touches you, look like this


When she calls you say "O' boy" wetin do you ?

  Omo I agree with u jare. May I also add if she keeps calling ur phone(or stalking u),shout on top of our voice,'OMO I SAY I NO WAN DO,WETIN BE UR PAVALA. NAH BY FORCE DEM DEY DO AM'

Secretz:

There is no 'nice' way about it. You tell a woman she looks beautiful but you're not interested right now. . .she will think , 'yeh but he thinks I am beautiful, maybe he will be interested in me later' and she will stick around like like a fly on sh!t. Some people try to read inbetween the lines of things that aren't actually there.

Yes O!!
Esp. for someone like her. The guy hasn't said any nice thing yet
and she thinks he's interested. When he begins to say things like ''You're pretty''
she interprets it as ''I want You in bed''.

Missy B:

Yes O!!
Esp. for someone like her. The guy hasn't said any nice thing yet
and she thinks he's interested. When he begins to say things like ''You're pretty''
she interpretes it as ''I want You in bed''.

ROFLMAO!!! That had me going . . . . and you know that is what she will actually be hearing even though that is not what is he telling her. She seems NUTZ! He should just tell her the truth and in addition add Posakosa's suggestion . . . .

There's ds gal. We met @ church. She happens 2b a friend of my friend. She spoke to him abt me, now she's come to me, letting me know she likes me n funnily say she's certain i feel d same way abt her (No, I don't). How do I politely (n without inflicting any hurt) let her know i do not find interest in ds serious proposal??

@poster I like your courage coming out to seek for advice on this issue. I dont believe you sorry to say am a man am not a woman a man dont do thing like this rather he knows how to go about it not coming here to show off. I'm not insulting you but deal with it by yourself

seems am missing something here. you"re a female aint you ? if that yes sorry about my last post

Secretz:

errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, how about you just tell her. 'Nahhhhhhhhh I'm not feeling you like that' .There is no 'nice' way about it. You tell a woman she looks beautiful but you're not interested right now. . .she will think , 'yeh but he thinks I am beautiful, maybe he will be interested in me later' and she will stick around like like a fly on sh!t.

Ds quite funny but u'r right, though. Thanks

posakosa:

Ignore her.


When she smiles, look like this

When she touches you, look like this

lol

deji2009:

seems am missing something here. you"re a female aint you ? if that yes sorry about my last post

I'm obviously a guy. u think every1 who comes here tries to engender a hypothetical story in other to applaud d contributions that it elicit? It's happened to me b4 n I made a mess outta d gal, but was a lot younger then. So i see no reason y coming here to seek more advice is a prb to u. Is it a new thing, or does it sound so special