We broke up over a reason so unreasonable, and I have not been able to get over her. She was the best thing that happened to me back then when I was still growing up in this relationship thingy. She was as energetic as I was, always pushing me, always criticizing, very objective, beautiful and classy, very friendly at the same time. She gets so moody sometimes and it makes her so adorable and lovable. Yet we still broke up.

I met her after she broke up with her former boyfriend. She was extremely difficult at first, making sure she did not fail in passing the message as to how much she disliked guys. However, there was something about her I really liked, her beauty, the flash of her eyes, the laughter, her deep throated voice. I just fell in love with everything.

We met, talked for sometime, and then after about three months of getting to know each other, she agreed to go out with me. After service year and into the real world, I got my first job with a bank. She supported me all through the process, wanting to be with me, pray with me, love me too. We had our issues, yes and we thought we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. 6 months into the relationship, we started getting uncomfortable with each other. She wanted more, I wanted more.

She craved more loving and attention; I wanted to move to Lagos. It got so bad that I was simply carried away and over ambitious that I forgot I had a girlfriend, and she in turn found solace in the arms of another boy. Life! We allowed it to degenerate so bad that we broke up exactly a year to the dated we started dating.

Till today, I still ask myself, why did we even break up? It sounded foolish on our path and I couldn’t muster enough courage to ask her why. We had huge dreams and wanted to be better. She was everything I wanted but then, she messed up! I did too anyway!

I am sure I’m not the only one who gets to miss his ex, a lot of guys/ ladies would be experiencing this as well. You will begin to ask yourself: why the break, what went wrong, do I need re-evaluation going forward, do I miss him/her, Am I happy leaving him/her. Well, considering the fact that all that glitters are not gold, and the need to check if obviously you have outgrown that feeling over the years or the feeling of missing your ex keeps coming back, then you need toascertain some basic facts for you to truly understand that having her back might not be a bad idea.

1. Dating someone else and you always think about him/ her:

You started out your relationship with another person, yet you think about your ex and still want to be with him/ her. The fun you had, the whirlwind romance, the emotions is something you can’t just deal with. There is something missing in your present relationship and you had with that particular relationship. Missing your ex is very normal anyway and does not mean you want to get back, but when these emotions do not go away, you really need to hook up again.

2. You think they are with someone else and you can’t just think of it

Men, this part is crazy though. You can’t just think of it. You realize how awesome he/she was and then you can’t bring yourself into believing that someone else will enjoy that awesomeness. Something you have always reveled in.
You have given it enough time.

Time, they say heals all wounds. After so many years of being apart, have you tried reaching out to him/her. Maybe you even needed the time to grow up and then get back to talking, who knows? Maybe you needed the space to handle issues more maturely. The funny thing about relationships like this is the fact that you most times even forget what you two fought about. When you both realize that you may want to give it another try. Why waste time?

3. The issue can be fixed

You need to consider the reason why you broke up, and see if it is no longer a problem. If it isn’t, go ahead and make a call, and try to reach out. You may have ended things because he was a workaholic, she was too flashy, he was very possessive and she was difficult. Once you realize the issues are gone and no longer there anymore. Give it a shot!

4. You both want same thing

In your subsequent relationships, you may have realized that you don’t want what your partners want. I know this could be deflating when you realize that both of you don’t share the same ideals. Instead of hoping to the next guy/babe on the line. Do a drawback and check up on the ex you truly miss. See if what he/she wants to completely aligns with your thoughts and convictions and make a go for it.

5. The Grass wasn’t really greener on the other side

Now you have broken up, tried different guys and girls, yet you realized the grass isn’t greener on the other side. You might even been a goner when the grass is dead. LOL

In the event that you both realized this, then why not attempt to head back to the grass you once planted and attempt to water it.

6.You both believe in second chances

This is the most important part. There is no particular rule in relationships which says there shouldn’t be second chances. The point is, both of you should be wise and mature enough to want to give it your best shot. Both of you should be able to learn, forgive and re-ignite the passion. If you both are ready to work on your relationship. Do not hesitate to go for it. It could be the best thing to ever happen to you.

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*walks outta thread*Those cutlass(men) aren't loyal.

Too long


No video?

Florblu:
*walks outta thread*Those cutlass(men) aren't loyal.

Lo!....some are!

Mchew, just tell us u miss the awesome sex she gives u.. instead of typing all these hogwash

slyIsaac:
Too long


No video?

Lazy bone

talk2alabama:
Mchew, just tell us u miss the awesome sex she gives u.. instead of typing all these hogwash

LMAO, is it about the sex to you bro?

deturla:


LMAO, is it about the sex to you bro?

of course, what will there ever be again dat will make a man miss a woman?



Women sef do miss men who give dem bomb sex, especially those who are women beaters, they are just hard to let go


They be like



He beats me but I still love him?


What makes her to love him?


Answer: goooooooooooooooooooood sex

Your fault. Leave the girl in peace.

make ur current gf catch u sogbo

ednut1:
make ur current gf catch u sogbo

Hehehe......Baddest, I know you miss her too! Oya Come holla for BBM!

i dont miss my ex dont kno if im normal like dat once i break up with everything ends dat moment

Do i need help?

deturla:



Hehehe......Baddest, I know you miss her too! Oya Come holla for BBM!

ah no de miss anyone abeg, I only miss dat 3 lettered word . who missing epp

talk2alabama:
of course, what will there ever be again dat will make a man miss a woman?



Women sef do miss men who give dem bomb sex, especially those who are women beaters, they are just hard to let go


They be like



He beats me but I still love him?


What makes her to love him?


Answer: goooooooooooooooooooood sex

Hahahahahahah..... It may not be about the sex bro. Sometimes it's just the way we are wired of late and that is why we yhink and believe girls stay only because of good sex.

Hmmn.....There are some good girls anyway, sex or not. You miss them because you made that mistake of leaving them. Got that?

deturla:



Hahahahahahah..... It may not be about the sex bro. Sometimes it's just the way we are wired of late and that is why we yhink and believe girls stay only because of good sex.

Hmmn.....There are some good girls anyway, sex or not. You miss them because you made that mistake of leaving them. Got that?

yeah yeah, was jus kidding. I still miss Ann, my ex. she really liked me chei..

foolinlove:
Your fault. Leave the girl in peace.

Our fault, not mine.

Yes, we both miss each other!

deturla:


Our fault, not mine.

Yes, we both miss each other!

So get back together. Why u need our advice?

halfricanadian:
i dont miss my ex dont kno if im normal like dat once i break up with everything ends dat moment

Do i need help?

It's not a psycho case halfricanadian, it just means that you never really loved your Exes, maybe 'twas just mutual attraction that you envisaged taking to the next level.

foolinlove:


So get back together. Why u need our advice?

Foolinlove, calm down nah! Some other people might need this! I'm sure there some Nairalanders who still miss, like me. hehehe

deturla:


Foolinlove, calm down nah! Some other people might need this! I'm sure there some Nairalanders who still miss, like me. hehehe

I'm just bitter coz no a$$ miss me.

deturla:


It's not a psycho case halfricanadian, it just means that you never really loved your Exes, maybe 'twas just mutual attraction that you envisaged taking to the next level.

I truly loved them i kno no jokes i dont date if im nt in love bt oncs i say its over dats d end

halfricanadian:
i dont miss my ex dont kno if im normal like dat once i break up with everything ends dat moment

Do i need help?

Lots of it..

slyIsaac:

Lots of it..

Where can i get it?

slyIsaac:

Lots of it..

Where can she get it?

foolinlove:


I'm just bitter coz no a$$ miss me.

Maybe they do!

Oya Use You Two Legs and Clap for Yourself.

halfricanadian:
i dont miss my ex dont kno if im normal like dat once i break up with everything ends dat moment

Do i need help?

What's your problem? I don't know why you decided to turn yourself to a stupid troll. Be real and stop all this nonsense comment up and down for once. If you need a dick go and look or beg for one. >

Bamidelefundz:


What's your problem? I don't know why you decided to turn yourself to a stupid troll. Be real and stop all this nonsense comment up and down for once. If you need a dick go and look or beg for one. >

Yeah ryt tanx u not even nice

I was once in ur shoe but am over him now

deturla:



Maybe they do!

Something I've learned about men is that they say what they feel when they have no reason to lie. Like, they wont say they love you unless they want something (like sex or money) or actually feel something (unlikely).
If they don't say anything, they don't feel anything.