Yumi:

I would move on girl men only say things like that when they want to see other people.  Maybe someone else has caught his eye and he wants to move on.

lion phil:

leff the guy but u fit consider me shhaa!! i go send u mail

Dclique:

Lol,
See thief! .

Yumi:

Oh and don't worry he will be back in a few months time when he's realised how nice you really were and what he's lost. Men never seem to appreciate a good woman till they have lost her.

topup:

He's not being honest, humans are selfish, no human would let another go, unless they didn't 'want' them.
Sorry, you're too good for that anyway, surely someone else will not play games.
Another girl probably gave in quicker, and he's probably dating someone else right now, or he's simply realised that he doesn't want to date anyone right now. Somehow the relationship has led him where he doesn't want to be.
I think it's good that he at least ended it now.

Yumi's right, men only say things like 'working on themselves' when they don't want the relationship, since rarely do they call up to tell you, "I've figured myself out, I'm ready for a relationship with you." XP.

After all no one wants to seem like a nutcase, but they're always making themselves seem complicated, mysterious and deep.

Disclaimer: Unfortunately when he comes back, he might disguise himself as wanting to just be friends again, and to be honest, he probably won't display any of the signs they show women in Hollywood movies. He probably won't beg for you back, or do a big romantic gesture, he would probably do it slyly, slowly working his way through friendship and back into your current thoughts and then at the end of it all, he might just leave again (when things get too serious).

Might might might!!

TheSeeker:

I disagree with you and your response seem likely feminist (sorry if I misconstrued your opinion). The poster is saying, if I understand what she meant at all, that she has been in constant communication with this guy but she didn't state at any point that they were BOTH hoping to have a relationship. She probably may have had the idea at the back of her mind, or at least hope they'd come there but I'm not sure it was ever their discussion because if it was he'd never have left at that point; he would have made it clear to her that he wasn't ready, so it was all her idea and illusion.

I can see where the guy is coming from. He knew they were going to end up in a relationship and he was honest enough to let her know before they ever got started. What's wrong with that? I don't see anything wrong here. OK, let's have the assumption that he had it in mind to start a relationship with her, does it occur to you he must have studied her and feel she isn't the kind of woman he wants? And he doesn't want to hurt her feelings by telling her what's exactly wrong because some of the factors that rules her out as his kind of woman may be embarrassing, mean or hurtful. You can look at it from that point as well.

I don't see him as selfish. I know a lot of people will think he was leading her on but all they ever had together was just friendship with no intent of having a relationship. He finds out exactly that they can't make it together being in a relationship and he caromed.

On another note, he may have found out he can't meet up with her requirements hence, the need for him to work on his personality and be a better man and at the same time not wanting to ruin the personality he had already created. If you ask me, I'll tell you he did the best thing. Isn't it norm that you know more about someone before you fall in a relationship with them? He did, found out it couldn't work and did the best thing by telling her. It's as simple as that and I don't see any selfishness there.

Yumi:

Either way he don't want to be with her, so hes lying to her really by saying he is not ready.  What he should say is we are not right for each other and we need to move on.  Eliminates her waiting around for him if she really loves him.