iamNotAlone:
He talks like a woman when he's angry. Overtly jealous , reads meaning to every of my moves.
If you see us on the street, you will think we are a perfect couple because of the way he treats me in public.
This is someone I tried so hard to make my family accept and right now my family likes him a lot because he has managed to put up a good image with them.

This guy is frustrating me a lot,suspects every move I make,quarrels like a woman, always going through my phone like I am hiding something in d phone. I am not happy most times and thinking of leaving but I don't know how to go about it..........I don't know what and how to tell my people cos they will start shouting on me and saying all sorts.
Again, he's always around me, wouldn't give me space. People think it's love but he's choking me.
I can't deal no more..... Pls, Fam.....what do I do

ULSHERLAN:
Alot of ladies out there are dying to have their guys all around them but here we have someone who thinks he is choking her. Well he could be choking you and i think you probably gave him reasons not to trust you and that's why he has been checking your phones to connect some dots. To even think that you wanna tell you parents about this means you have a back up plan already. Anyways my dear, Youarealone in this

estym:
I have been a fan of Nairaland for more than 2yrs now, but I decided to register now so I can comment on this post, that will tell you how important this is to me.
Poster pls, run as fast as ur legs can carry you from this guy cos he is going to make ur life a living hell when you eventually settle down with him.
Forget about family cos he that wears the shoe knows where it pinched. I am talking from experience and I thank God that I took the right decision even when my own family members were against it, but I stood my ground that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, a word is enough for the wise pls

Smileprince:
So many immature going into a relationship these days. Have been reading comments have not seen a lady advise on trying to make it work.
Hmmm is relationship now all about yourself and how you feel alone.? What about what the other person feels?
It's so painful that only few is saying something about making it workout for you.

Now about his behaviour am totally against it, it's not nice to do all that. But do you now see such problems as not having any solution.?

Talk to him one on one. Ask him how exactly he wants you to behave in this relationship. Allow him to lay down his rules and scrutinise it. What you can do tell him you'll do it. But what you can't do tell him you can't do it. And tell him how you feel comfortable with him. And ask him what's going to make him comfortable with you.

All I see is that most relationship lack intimate communication and it's killing every relationship. You can't pour out your heart as a man. And as a woman you can't also speak what makes you comfortable.

Ladies instead of trashing what they hate about their guy. They'll start losing interest. Which is very bad about ladies of now. None of you think of how to make it work and also learn to do what he likes and adapt. All you people is for a guy to always adapt to your behaviours and make you comfortable all times. How about him? What effort are you making to make him comfortable too.

See leave him today. You'll find out something bad about your next relationship. No guy is 100% learn to adapt and adjust to people.
U re d man I see here.

CioAngels estym greatgod2012 Evacroft iamNotAlone

veave:




So you now in her mind. Dont just insinuate. Laid a complaint, you should advice her based on what she wrote. Or better still probe further to satisfy your thoughts, Dont just go about assuming. Where did you see her write that someone else is in the picture? Eh?

mimzy:


He is possessive, doesn't necessarily mean he does not love you.



The fact that he is a jealous and possessive lover does not mean he is not capable of treating you right in public or in private.


Please explain what you mean by the emboldened, is it that you have painted him to be who he is not to the members of your family or what?


All these are signs of insecurity, while i am not in support of his attitudes, have you also taken your time to have a tête-à-tête with him, have you tried to understand your man's love language? Men can be really funny at times and you will be surprised at your findings when you have a heart-to-heart convo with him.



You are the one in the relationship, you know where the shoe pinches, you are the one that will say "I do forever" to the guy in question, so put aside what your family members will think or say. But, trust me my dear, the grass is not always greener on the other side, your relationship with him still has a very good chance of survival.


After all said and done, we can only but proffer advise, the final decision lies in your hands, BE WISE MY SISTER!!!

Evacroft:

Hey pls open ur eyes well . Read my comment, I said to double check on overly quiet person. And I still stand by that. Some pple and there fish brain,when a lady picks up a man's phone she is definately said to be stupid to do so and actually wants to kill herself if she finds he is doing anytin wrong,but wen a man does it it is cos u re doing someti wrong as a woman. OP,i really will sound it off again run for ur live, why don't u find out how he treated his exes,not from him though, he will continue to claim it's the love he has for u that keeps bringing the insecurities but actually it is who he is. Once all u wrote are what he does pls run. Has he started crying after hurting u?yeah that is wen the manipulation starts, I experienced this and thank God I ran with the help of fam and friends,he threatened me so much that I couldn't go out all alone but thank God today I have a hubby that loves me the way a woman shld be loved. If he doesn't trust u he shld leave instead of feeling insecure.

iamNotAlone:
He talks like a woman when he's angry. Overtly jealous , reads meaning to every of my moves.
If you see us on the street, you will think we are a perfect couple because of the way he treats me in public.
This is someone I tried so hard to make my family accept and right now my family likes him a lot because he has managed to put up a good image with them.

This guy is frustrating me a lot,suspects every move I make,quarrels like a woman, always going through my phone like I am hiding something in d phone. I am not happy most times and thinking of leaving but I don't know how to go about it..........I don't know what and how to tell my people cos they will start shouting on me and saying all sorts.
Again, he's always around me, wouldn't give me space. People think it's love but he's choking me.
I can't deal no more..... Pls, Fam.....what do I do

iamNotAlone:
He talks like a woman when he's angry. Overtly jealous , reads meaning to every of my moves.
If you see us on the street, you will think we are a perfect couple because of the way he treats me in public.
This is someone I tried so hard to make my family accept and right now my family likes him a lot because he has managed to put up a good image with them.

This guy is frustrating me a lot,suspects every move I make,quarrels like a woman, always going through my phone like I am hiding something in d phone. I am not happy most times and thinking of leaving but I don't know how to go about it..........I don't know what and how to tell my people cos they will start shouting on me and saying all sorts.
Again, he's always around me, wouldn't give me space. People think it's love but he's choking me.
I can't deal no more..... Pls, Fam.....what do I do

infogenius:


My dear these are warning signs of a bad marriage ahead.
I will advice you opt out the relationship. But how you may ask.

I don't want you to mince words about this at all.

Tell your people about him, share your fears and what you
are going through with your mother and tell her your resolution.
Of course to WALK AWAY.

Next, tell him when you are together in clear language
that you want to move on and let him know your reasons
and your fears.

The truth is that you may be entering a death trap if you
do not make moves about the dissolution of this relationship now and end up marrying
him.

A broken relationship is way ahead better than an abusive and
broken marriage.
Marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured so think twice.

You cannot continue with this relationship i must admit.

iamNotAlone:
He talks like a woman when he's angry. Overtly jealous , reads meaning to every of my moves.
If you see us on the street, you will think we are a perfect couple because of the way he treats me in public.
This is someone I tried so hard to make my family accept and right now my family likes him a lot because he has managed to put up a good image with them.

This guy is frustrating me a lot,suspects every move I make,quarrels like a woman, always going through my phone like I am hiding something in d phone. I am not happy most times and thinking of leaving but I don't know how to go about it..........I don't know what and how to tell my people cos they will start shouting on me and saying all sorts.
Again, he's always around me, wouldn't give me space. People think it's love but he's choking me.
I can't deal no more..... Pls, Fam.....what do I do

DrHighchief:
What makes u feel d next relationship u wil go into will be better than d present? If d next relationship is not also favourable, will u also jump out for another one?

ULSHERLAN:
Alot of ladies out there are dying to have their guys all around them but here we have someone who thinks he is choking her. Well he could be choking you and i think you probably gave him reasons not to trust you and that's why he has been checking your phones to connect some dots. To even think that you wanna tell you parents about this means you have a back up plan already. Anyways my dear, Youarealone in this

laikas:
wetin dis one dey talk, cos u're male. u guys are so annoyin.

Kgdavid:


It will not be right to give you advice based on what you have posted here, since you have only spoken about the negatives, but surely there must have been some positives. What drew you to this guy in the first place? The question you have to answer for yourself is does his good outweigh the bad?

I always tell people that there should be one thing in particular that you are holding on to as the reason why you love this person and believe they are right for you. If you don't have that, kindly tell him thanks for his time and jejelly place yourself back in a position where your blessing can locate you.

Just know that everyone will likely have some negatives. It's only a question of what you can deal with.

Nightie:


Dnt knw much abt relationships.

Zoharariel:


Same here babie, but there's always a starting point. We can learn from each other.

Babie, I am not yet in luv with you, but the cosmic spirit in me tells me that you were my wife in the 14th century, and at that time - we both lived in the land of Kemet.

Let us stop delaying our destinies; Come, let me inject the seed of heaven into your fertile womb. Yes?

iamNotAlone:
He talks like a woman when he's angry. Overtly jealous , reads meaning to every of my moves.
If you see us on the street, you will think we are a perfect couple because of the way he treats me in public.
This is someone I tried so hard to make my family accept and right now my family likes him a lot because he has managed to put up a good image with them.

This guy is frustrating me a lot,suspects every move I make,quarrels like a woman, always going through my phone like I am hiding something in d phone. I am not happy most times and thinking of leaving but I don't know how to go about it..........I don't know what and how to tell my people cos they will start shouting on me and saying all sorts.
Again, he's always around me, wouldn't give me space. People think it's love but he's choking me.
I can't deal no more..... Pls, Fam.....what do I do

iamNotAlone:
He talks like a woman when he's angry. Overtly jealous , reads meaning to every of my moves.
If you see us on the street, you will think we are a perfect couple because of the way he treats me in public.
This is someone I tried so hard to make my family accept and right now my family likes him a lot because he has managed to put up a good image with them.

This guy is frustrating me a lot,suspects every move I make,quarrels like a woman, always going through my phone like I am hiding something in d phone. I am not happy most times and thinking of leaving but I don't know how to go about it..........I don't know what and how to tell my people cos they will start shouting on me and saying all sorts.
Again, he's always around me, wouldn't give me space. People think it's love but he's choking me.
I can't deal no more..... Pls, Fam.....what do I do

ststyreal:

For your own future peace of mind and happiness, gently quit the relationship now. The guy loves u but the truth is that he is too jealous and over possessive. A time will come after marriage that he will get upset at u mentioning your parents in most of your discussions even to visit your own parents will be another thug of war. Talking from first hand experience, just quit the relationship. Yes, they love with all their heart but the jealousy stuff in them tends to make your love for him minimal.