Hello nairalanders, i need your candid advice on an issue. I'm in my late twenties, self employed and a single mother of 2. I had my first child when i was in the university, the father and i used to be in touch until he traveled to the UK, he stopped calling so i moved on. After my youth service, i met another guy. I told him about my love child, he said it is not a problem. We did small introduction and fixed 2015 for our wedding. I got pregnant, he was happy about it but later called the pregnancy a bastard and he cut all ties with me. I gave birth to the baby, she is 2years now and i made up my mind not to love or marry again after having 2kids for 2men. Recently the guy who i had my first child for called and pleaded that he wants to marry me. I told him i have another child for another man, he didn't believe me though and asked his sister to talk to me. Now the sister wants me to marry him with another's man child even after telling her everything. Please my good people, can such marriage work?

Hmmmmmm.....prayer needed not advise

Well it depends.... If the guy truly loves you and wants to be with you, I believe your having another man's child won't stop him... And I must give you kudos for coming out straight with him about the child... What you need to do now is take things slow with him watch his attitude towards both kids, and towards you too.. Take your time and don't rush things.

Thanks much, I appreciate

JeffreyJamez:
Well it depends.... If the guy truly loves you and wants to be with you, I believe your having another man's child won't stop him... And I must give you kudos for coming out straight with him about the child... What you need to do now is take things slow with him watch his attitude towards both kids, and towards you too.. Take your time and don't rush things.

Bimpeade2016:
Thanks much, I appreciate

I wish you the best

[size=16pt]But sorry to say ooo, you open 'that' place easily and sharpely. I wish you the best in your decision.

Think twice b4 you quote me pls [/size]

ummm!!! if you know he's truly love you and both of your kids then thats ok, but if he only love his child then thats dumb....its all depends on you if you know thats a right person for you....




you will know he's the right person for you when you ask God to help you with that situations...

MissHatey:
[size=16pt]But sorry to say ooo, you open 'that' place easily and sharpely. I wish you the best in your decision.

Think twice b4 you quote me pls [/size]

mumu

SAINTSAMURAII:
mumu

[size=16pt]i'm not surprised, I know you will not think![/size]

if i quote u what will happen dear

MissHatey:
[size=16pt]But sorry to say ooo, you open 'that' place easily and sharpely. I wish you the best in your decision.

Think twice b4 you quote me pls [/size]

keep calm bae...go ahead and marry him...just make sure he doesnt get to the promiseland..until after you guys tie the nut ...you hear wetin i talk close your legs ..for now

Let me say that he came back to atone for his misdeed of leaving you in the first place which exposed you to the inhuman treatment of the latter man.

You must be certain with all sincerity that he is back for good and not rush into marriage. I know it's not easy but try not to appear helpless so you are not taken advantage of.

Prayers would help too....

I wish you the best....

Thanks

2dice01:
keep calm bae...go ahead and marry him...just make sure he doesnt get to the promiseland..until after you guys tie the nut ...you hear wetin i talk close your legs ..for now

adewumiopeyemi:
if i quote u what will happen dear

Who's ur dear

U....

MissHatey:


Who's ur dear

adewumiopeyemi:
U....

V..W..X..Y..Z

papinx:
Let me say that he came back to atone for his misdeed of leaving you in the first place which exposed you to the inhuman treatment of the latter man.

You must be certain with all sincerity that he is back for good and not rush into marriage. I know it's not easy but try not to appear helpless so you are not taken advantage of.

Prayers would help too....

I wish you the best....

Thanks and God bless

@ 21 .... two kids for diff men.... ahn an, na wa oo ....mak I kuku keep shut....

You have 2 kids already, why don't you focus on raising both of them as a single mother with equal love rather than marrying a man who will always favour one over another

its so unfortunate! The second guy just came to take a taste of you! karma is a bitch!
If u still have feelings for the first guy, you can give him a trial but tie your legs like mermaid style. Don't allow anyone to take advantage of you again. Most importantly, go to God in prayer, ask him to give you wisdom to make good decision that would favor you and your kids.

@rosalieene, @emperorlee and @2bb4cb3e thanks y'all. God bless

2BB4CB3E:
D&C is 3000, i dont understand why you didn't do the right thing then in school!
well if you are a girl and you are reading this, if you get pregnant outside marriage remove it, even if the guy promises heaven and earth remove it for YOUR OWN good!
now back to op, men naturally have a soft spot for woman who have kids for them! i dont have a kid! so dont ask me why?
Today is sunday i hope you are in church doing thankgiving because God wants to rearrange ur life!
you dont need to think dear! you called the child "A love child" you probaly still do love him! Go back asap and be happy!
note of caution tho: your child for the 2nd man! what i need to say is long so i will return and modify wen i get home.

You're right.

2BB4CB3E:
you are welcome! yea and about the 2nd kid!
before i forget.... men are very territorial! i dont know the age differences between the kids but i will advice you to allow them to be close!
that way you wont allow the child or your HUSBAND to feel awkward or start having funny tots
its easy take them out together! buy the kids toys that they can play together that isn't COMPETITIVE
the closer the kids are the easier things will be for your husband and you
hope you understand dear

Yes i do. The kids are 10yrs and 2yrs