~Sissy~:

doesnt really matter that much. if his actions shows that he loves/cares about you then the words should be of less importance. in my view, if he shows you love through his actions not saying those words mean less. not everyone is actually into those lovey lovey things/words

blandyne:

@ Sissy, Iice and treetop20
I also believe that action matters the most. However, when you really love someone wouldn't you want them to know. Let them know that you do,  i mean saying those 3 words and adding actions to it won't hurt at all. Well if you really mean it of course.

Treetop20:

saying it also doesn't hurt but actions should show it
saying things and actually meaning them are two different things

Its better to mean it while saying it. That word is used too loosely these days.

blandyne:

@ Sissy, Iice and treetop20
I also believe that action matters the most. However, when you really love someone wouldn't you want them to know. Let them know that you do, i mean saying those 3 words and adding actions to it won't hurt at all. Well if you really mean it of course.

Fiona0007:

Well, this is a big deal for men and could be nerve wrecking!
How do we girls know if men don't say it? ok, show in your actions, but it doesn't count!
But don't say it unless you really mean it.

Musty450:

@ thread; i find the above quote, sad but true; the thing is that saying it is sorta a leap of faith; i mean why say it if you aint sure it ll be reciprocated
My dad always used to say:
"Never make any assumptions Son"

If you really and truly love your partner then you should say the words, leap of faith or not.

And, if you re not good and ready then DONT

blandyne:

I understand everyone points, and they all make sense. But, where talking about grown folks not teenagers, It's very hard for me to say" I love u" to a man because i hate being vulnerable. Yet It feels sooooooo good when you realize that u do love someone. The sad part is he might not feel the same way and here comes rejection.


Even though his actions will show you if he does love you or not, just like you said NEVER MAKE ANY ASSUMPTIONS.Therefore i believe that you will never know for sure unless that person says the words and acts accordingly.
Now let just say one of the partners declares his/her love to the other, and him/her didn't say it back. What should that person do, stay in the relationship or move on ?

TheSeeker:

So which would you prefer: That he says it and doesn't act accordingly or acts in a way that shows it and keeps mum? My advice to you is, if you think he's shown it beyond doubt that he loves you, you had better not push this 'I love you' talk too far

davidylan:

depends, some men are just not verbally expressive or see such words as a sign of emotional weakness. Believe me, saying those words are the hardest thing a SINCERE man can ever tell you.

Now let just say one of the partners  declares his/her love to the other, and him/her didn't say it back. What should that person do, stay in the relationship or move on ?

blandyne:

I understand everyone points, and they all make sense. But, where talking about grown folks not teenagers,  It's very hard for me to say" I love u" to a man because i hate being vulnerable. Yet It feels sooooooo good when you realize that u do love someone. The sad part is he might not feel the same way and here comes rejection.


Even though his actions will show you if he does love you or not, just like you said NEVER MAKE ANY ASSUMPTIONS.Therefore i believe that you will never know for sure unless that person says the words and acts accordingly.

Now let just say one of the partners  declares his/her love to the other, and him/her didn't say it back. What should that person do, stay in the relationship or move on ?