A woman desires to be loved and a man craves respect, both unconditionally as it seems. The problem is EGO in the man and woman turns up the crazy-cycle and near-fist cuffs are experienced in varying degrees of sampled marriages. Sometimes I wonder if it is ever worth the trouble, that a man should make a home with a woman in obedience to the creator. What do NLers say, Keep ones peace by staying away or srtrive to find a path that is all-too narrow and near inadmissible, a foray into 'katakata' and shared strife?
At least with one alone no inadequacies matter, ones voice can't be too loud in & for self-decision makings-no hullabaloo, neither over the shoulder comments.

But the story changes when one has to live according to prescribed tenents of the thou shall nots, so to keep the acts of loving and respecting going. I dare say the line of stray is too thin, of acts of loving and respecting.
Imagine you used to take decision on the go, no frowning nor scowling faces to consider-just simply you. No hassles, no worries.
Now a shipmate comes aboard, doesn't share in your like and a compromise has to be reached-a 50-50 deal that keeps the loving and respecting going. Sometimes it's doable, other times the rift is palpable. Reminisce, singlehood vs what you have now, ha! The acts of loving and respecting. Make una yarn.