How do you react when your heart has been broken by someone whom you love? Are you a stoic? Or do you sulk and grumble and complain about it? Do you end up hating the person? Do you vow to give hell to the opposite sex because of what has been done to you? Would you go the whole gamut to become outright gay/lesbian? Please be honest in your response.

personally, i feel trying to wreck vengeance or venturing into homosexuality and all such stuff are not called for. true, one cant take away the fact that one would definitely feel angry and hurt but then, what has happened has happened. i'll try to pick up the pieces of my shattered heart, mend it and move on while i try to guard it jealously so that i dont fall a second-time victim.

The best thing to do wen your heart is broken is to let go

@Dvampire, tru talk. Bt l'l also revisit hapenins in d r/shp dt broke my hrt,n c were l may av gone wrong,so as nt 2 repeat it.

Word of advice: Always envision being heartbroken even in the sweetest moments of the relationship, so that when it happens, it will not be a shocker because with naija babes u cannot predict the future; So, like my bestest friend and mentor in female affairs (Bobby!) always says, "With Nigerian women, expect not the unexpected, but the impossible".

WHITEX THE MADMAN

But honestly, even if you expect it,it's not the same as when it happens.

@Radiant: I dont even wanna talk to u right now cos i just recieved a msg laced with stamps from magheru

Anyways, that method has worked for me over the years, once u master it, it gives u freedom to say things u would hardly say (for fear of ending the relationship), do things u would normally avoid. It made me alot more open-minded and straightforward, i dont beat around the bush anymore_{if u know what i mean}
Its a good approach and i'm sure some will agree, but just as one man's food is another man's poison; i dont expect it to work for everyone. Some people just dread the thought of a blissful relationship coming to an end, but they forget that the hottest love has the coldest end

_{yeye pikin}

maybe u'll sulk

u might cry

u might hate everyone around u

u might wallow in sorrow

u might be depressed and fraustrated

but one thing for sure is that, with time. . u'll get over it.

Busta:

maybe u'll sulk

u might cry

u might hate everyone around u

u might wallow in sorrow

u might be depressed and fraustrated

but one thing for sure is that, with time. . u'll get over it.

word!

I once had a neighbor, a lady, who turned fully lesbian because she had been jilted. Till date, she's refused to marry or have anything to do with any man.

Hmmmm!

@whitelexi,i feel u boy,u yarn well.expect the unexpected from ladies not only nigerian girls.

If there is any set of ladies you must fear, it definitely is American women. They can enter into and come out of relationships as if they were buildings. Nigerian ladies are considerate at least.

whitelexi, word

whitelexi:

Word of advice: Always envision being heartbroken even in the sweetest moments of the relationship, so that when it happens, it will not be a shocker because with naija babes u cannot predict the future; So, like my bestest friend and mentor in female affairs (Bobby!) always says, "With Nigerian women, expect not the unexpected, but the impossible".

i agree with you 100% thats trhe approach i give any relationship i get into no matter how sweet it its i never give my whole heart into it, i leave space for eff ups

-you could handle it the way i started handling mine: sulk!!! as in really sulk!!! feel sorry for yourself and think that nothing good in life ever lasts

-you could handle a heart-break the way mukina would, take every oppurtunity you get to nail the integrity of the opposite sex and say constantly that you'd never give yourself again to any other person

-you could go the way of other cowards (the word's mine): Sleep around with any willing individual (ehm, i said willing o!!! no raping pls!!!) or just go gay/lesbo,

-you could go the way of the pessimists: and say its just not possible to av a successful relationship, not hold a grudge about anyone but just search for "happines in other places"

-or you could pick yourself up, be honest enough to evaluate the causes of the previous heartbreak(s), determine to be better where its your fault and then dare to move on in life.

I personaly reccommend the last possibility, i've found out that no mata the numba of previous heart-breaks you've had, it only takes the right partner to make it seem like they were just a figment of ur imagination

Chiori:

I once had a neighbor, a lady, who turned fully lesbian because she had been jilted. Till date, she's refused to marry or have anything to do with any man.

. that's a good one

men heartbreak is so killing.
hmmmmmmmm just had one.
Before it happened i thought i would die the truth is am still alive and not ready to die.
But the effect really bad.especially when you thought you gave your best

kachii:

am still alive and not ready to die.

I like that.

time heals can be a myth.i just try to keep the negatives in my mind and eventually i forget he exists.Its not easy but one day u just wake and the thot of him gives u the creeps

hhhmmmm

What do you want me to do?
i'll just put in more efforts and make my life look more meaningful so if we happen to meet, my levels would be far above her's .
by this time, she would be the one regreting why she left me.

not only broken by the oposite sex, but even by my other friends. When they break my heart, everybody'll notice i'm not okay, and how's that??

no more chit, talk-chat-talks in the house.

When u start appreciating life, u will definitely start handling break-ups more appropriately, its not the end of life. Its just a temporary setback, a trivial loss of mental and emotional stability, can be handled properly by showing maturity - if u're highly motivated, people wont even notice!

_{on very special arrangement, the devil can go to heaven}

and may i ask, who was that dedicated to??