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Re: The Desperation To Get Married by shadeyinka(m): 9:55pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Its actually not difficult for a man to find someone to marry. However, some conditions have to be met 1. Fairly decent Job 2. Average looks 3. Respectable Personality 4. Fair prospect in life When these four are complete, the next thing is actually an internal battle to be fought and won. 1. There is no perfect lady anywhere 2. Choose a girl in your social class or lower 3. Learn the art of courting a lady Finis! On the spiritual side Pray, Look, Like, Study, Pray, Propose, Get Answer,.. For the Ladies, it is far much difficult. If a lady is interested in marriage let her not wait to be 23 years old. The earlier the better. Ladies, its not by good looks oh! Its not by dress sense or fashion! Its by saying YES to the right man at the RIGHT time. You never know when the last eligible bachelor will propose. Don't wait until you complete your PhD before you entertain that man. Your location matters too. You need a decent husband material and you go sit for club house. You go wait taya! 5 Likes |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by Coldfeets: 9:55pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
What's this nigga talkin' about? Ladies beware!!! I hope this nigga is not codedly trying to grab some really desperate ladies out there while using reverse psychology? Nigga, we are men and unless you are the only son or something like that, fact is men have nothing to do with desperation when it comes to marriage We choose when, where, with who, in short... everything That's just one of the few remaining privileges that the society has bestowed upon us. Nature also gave us a little helping hand in that regards too by prolonging our expiry date so what desperation are you really talking about? I think you are just pressurizing yourself now unnecessarily by allowing societal pressure to get the best of you now and not necessarily because you see the need in getting married because I can't recall you mentioning any worthwhile reason for you to get married in your monologue except that you are just feeling desperate. Or maybe, you are now beginning to panic because fingers are now pointing and tongues are now wagging that you could be gay or something like that, right? And you are now getting desperate to prove to the world that you are not Well, never mind me. You have your reasons. For most guys especially in this part of the world, that reason is usually finance. On one hand, you have men who are mainly financially handicapped to sustain a healthy marriage. And on the other hand, you have women who are obsessed with getting married but are not readily disposed towards financially contributing to the success of the union because they strongly and myopically believe it's strictly a man's job to financially sustain the union even in the face of reality of unemployment and rising cost of living. The result is more and more men waiting for a longer while to be fully 'ready' in all ramifications before they even start considering the idea of getting married. Anyway, whatever be your situation, I wish you good luck in advance in finding that special girl who will help you end that worrisome desperation you are talkin' about. As for me, I will be getting married in em...em... Nah, I am never ever going to get married. 2 Likes |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by Taryur3(m): 10:00pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
cindybaby22:Is he delaying you?police no dey catch late comer u know? Buh 41? Haba...just tell him to impregnate one girl DT u will take of dt |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by justy15: 10:00pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
I agree with you totally, this is a feeling common among both folks but what I think precipates this mostly among men is not being financially buoyant yet to enter into such responsibility. I for one my forecast was to marry at 28 but now 30 n that didn't happen because am not yet stable financially n the feeling to settle down is quite overwhelming |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by DarkHenrie(m): 10:02pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
The fact that you actually declined traveling abroad because you wanted to stay back and get married to a Nigerian lady is the ridiculous part in all of this. I think that clearly shows your perception of marriage and the value you place on the same. You seem to have been desparate about marriage since seven years to make you turn down leaving the country. Perhaps this desperation of yours is entirely self-inflicted and nothing new in you at all. I'll suggest you take it easy on yourself henceforth. 2 Likes |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by HMZi: 10:07pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Those of us wey kuku get fine and sensible village chics need not worry,if marriage mata choke us,sharply mumsy go text me the latest bae 2 marry..lol.. . . i feel 4 this guy,but he has many options,he probably set his standards to high... 1 Like |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by misscall247: 10:08pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
cindybaby22:hahahahaha |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by Nobody: 10:10pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Cutehector:oops sorry. you getting a bit rusty. you should brush up on understanding sarcasm. buhari need to double up. |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by saintfrank(m): 10:11pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Dammn this post has got my cracking my head after reading, and most of the comment also make me wana nudge most pple. Dis post its all over me as a man….am in my mid thirties still not married’ What kind of life is this no wife no kid’s even babe mama I don’t have….sometimes I think felt someone is just pulling my heart out of my chest when I start thinking that am still single, I think am having emotional trauma. But it’s really high time we have dating section on this forum, a legitimate platform where single guy’s and ladies can meet up. My uncle once told me that I we’re all get to a certain stage in life where we start craving to have togetherness with a woman, and longing to be with one forever... 1 Like |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by advocatebaba(m): 10:12pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
mysticgal:GUYS FEEL D DESPERATION BT SAYING IT OUT IS RARE |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by Ratello: 10:14pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
cindybaby22:I love that your elder brother for real. |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by Melsan: 10:16pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
gidjah:mi wa,eyin nko?adupe fun oluwa..eku airi Eni ai Bere eni |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by Titilayooni(f): 10:19pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
proddey:am surprised this is coming from a man....a big AMEN to that,just be calm about it and let GOD do the work |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by Nobody: 10:20pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Raise your hand if you're desperate to get married. I may be of help. Anyways, Innovation is good. Check out the cool TAPme app your fellow Nigerians are working on. Don't be left out. This app will one day take over from Whatsapp and Allo. Work/coding in progress... Check it out and join the #TeamTAPme to motivate your fellow Nigerians/Africans. www.nairaland.com/3365339/tapme-whatsapp-leaving-allo-coming#49591010 So, when any of you finally gets married don't forget to tell your SO to install TAPme on his or her phone to enable the two of you TAP each other better via TAPme and not Whatsapp.
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Re: The Desperation To Get Married by giftiy(m): 10:21pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Are you sure his machine gun is still intact? cindybaby22: |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by onos217(m): 10:23pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Our ladies seem to be the usual suspect in regard to desperatation to get married. But, from the post our brother dropped, it seems the tide has turned. It's no wonder our dear ladies could not contain their joy with each of them happily typing their way to reaffirm that the desperation to get married apply to both gender. Our ladies no tide has turned;the case of brother is just 1 out of 100, and one thing is certain; it is not everybody that would get married. You never can tell our brother might just be one of them but doesn't know 2 Likes |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by Ratello: 10:24pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Coldfeets: You state the facts. Marriage need to be properly looked into before taking that step. 2 Likes |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by ndcide(m): 10:28pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
used to think like the @op, but i realized i have to compromise to choose a lady. i really ever believed i'll have to compromise. |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by agrovick(m): 10:33pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Everything has its own appointed time. |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by wadetaw202: 10:33pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
cindybaby22: Only God knows how many PM this person go dey receive per day. See as she fine like sweet potato. |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by histemple: 10:35pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
cindybaby22: Please direct him to (MFM)) prayer city for deliverance. Lol. |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by macjireh: 10:47pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
cindybaby22: ur bro na gay |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by chronique(m): 10:50pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Not at all. At least,I earn enough to take care of myself and at least 5 adults monthly. It's not always about money but sometimes,about finding the right person. At a point,most of the girls I ended up liking and falling in love wth,ended up being of a different religion and since I broke up with my fiancee in 2011/12 over religious issues despite loving her dearly,I made a promise not to ever date outside my religion. And of course,the process of finding and falling in love with someone that matches your desire/taste,isn't as simple as abc. You have to search,study,observe and evaluate such a person,before taking the step to date. It doesn't happen overnight. Cutehector: 1 Like |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by HomeTutor1(f): 10:50pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
After reading through some of the comments, I think the earlier the better for a lady to settle down before focusing on career. But what do you do when the right and serious partner is not coming for the good lady? what do you do when your past experiences with some guys is affecting your decision on moving ahead... |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by jclassiq(m): 10:52pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
VolTOxic: and what are you laughing at exactly, bruh? |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by Cutehector(m): 10:53pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
chronique:why not engage a long time female friend you already know? Starting up new relationships is pretty tasking. |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by beautiful232(f): 10:55pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
[quote author=Taryur3 post=49589980][/quote] thanks 1 Like |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by fexyrich(m): 10:59pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Iamhatey:sometimes the girl u really want is not available and the ones who u don't consider ideal for marriage would be d ones running afta u...dats d situation at times 1 Like |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by Rexnegro(m): 11:02pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
proddey:Amen In JESUS Name ..i feel Your pain bro. |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by goingape: 11:05pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
marry marry marry! the best is to stay out of marriage. I have channeled that marriage whatever thinking to achieving my goals. (to be honest I don't feel like meeting up with women or toasting or approaching because I'm tired. just tired of there behavior, tired of everything about black women,) those of you men who are feeling desperate to marry i think something is wrong with ya all! probable idleness. 1 Like |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by chronique(m): 11:05pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Bad news is that "I don't have any long time female friend that isn't married". Even my juniors from school,are married. Cutehector: |
Re: The Desperation To Get Married by Nobody: 11:06pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Marriage is over rated, ask brangelina. 1 Like |
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