shadeyinka:


Thank God for a good husband, then you have an obligation not to take him forgranted. I still think its a good experience for him though.

Mindfulness:


There is a lot that men can actually do to support their wives and in the preparation they can be taught what they can do and many women appreciate this kind of support. Today many midwives make husbands assist them and successfully so.

Mindfulness:


Really? How do you know?

goonsmi:
Personally I can't stand it. I am not comfortable with the sight of blood and maybe I am too emotional to witness such. I can't even watch the video that someone sent to me relating to that .




But then I don't need to go through such a process before I know how to appreciate my wife and kids. I love kids a lot and as a single guy I know how to relate and care well for little kids and most around me are always comfortable in my care.

5minsmadness:


No it wont be ok.

Most men who "want to be romantic" and insist on staying almost always end up freaking out and constitute a nuisance and can even bring confusion to the whole process.

We had a program once where we organised antenatal visits involving the men coming with thier wives. After two visits a general consensus was passed by the women to leave the men at home.

I've told the story here before of thr guy who insisted on watching the birth of his first child. That he had prepared himself, watched videos, blah blah. When the head of the baby popped out, he fainted right there in the labour room. So we now had to deal with 2 patients instead of one.

5minsmadness:


No it wont be ok.

Most men who "want to be romantic" and insist on staying almost always end up freaking out and constitute a nuisance and can even bring confusion to the whole process.

We had a program once where we organised antenatal visits involving the men coming with thier wives. After two visits a general consensus was passed by the women to leave the men at home.

I've told the story here before of thr guy who insisted on watching the birth of his first child. That he had prepared himself, watched videos, blah blah. When the head of the baby popped out, he fainted right there in the labour room. So we now had to deal with 2 patients instead of one.

lezznjr:
masquerading man hater.

cococandy:
My husband was there. Every step. I appreciate it. And it helped me through it. He helped me push (literally ) and cut the cord. So I'd encourage it.

But Force? No I don't think so. As a woman in labor, you want someone who wants to be there with you. Not someone who is reluctantly staying and not helping the situation.

millyj:
Even if most men want to be their wives on that day not all hospitals allow it

millyj:
Even if most men want to be their wives on that day not all hospitals allow it

southernbelle:


Yea, but I just wouldn't want him there.

shadeyinka:

OK but what if he insists?

southernbelle:


Then i'll let him have his way.

shadeyinka:


Germans read everywhere the go, in the bus, train , plane etc they seems always having something to read. I guess its cultural (other westerners are not as prolific anyway).

We watch home videos in Nigeria: we hardly read its general

5minsmadness:


No it wont be ok.

Most men who "want to be romantic" and insist on staying almost always end up freaking out and constitute a nuisance and can even bring confusion to the whole process.

We had a program once where we organised antenatal visits involving the men coming with thier wives. After two visits a general consensus was passed by the women to leave the men at home.

I've told the story here before of thr guy who insisted on watching the birth of his first child. That he had prepared himself, watched videos, blah blah. When the head of the baby popped out, he fainted right there in the labour room. So we now had to deal with 2 patients instead of one.

Mindfulness:


And do they tell women to stop screaming during delivery?

I hope you won't make any sound if one of the females here decides to kick you where you would least want to be kicked.

shadeyinka:



LOL!
I have actually run away to my village as I speak, under the cocoa tree. One baba is preparing some odenshi and other female proof concusion for me. LOL

I guess I am whipping up sentiments only because I am a man." After all, what practical experience does he have to lecture us!"

I apologize! I didn't intend to put down our women folks no! Far from it.

My point is (which maybe only ladies should discuss ) is:
Since nothing can reduce the pain of childbirth (except medical):
1. Are there things women can do to endure the pain?
2. Is Screaming , Cursing and Tantrums a strong therapeutic pain management strategy?

Unfortunately, I only had just three record of success: with just one patient (my wife) so you see, my position is bad bad bad! So, I understand the sentiment.

A lady should have raised the thread and maybe younger ladies in the house would learn.

.but I have no regret about this, at least we are all learning.

Shalom

cococandy:
My husband was there. Every step. I appreciate it. And it helped me through it. He helped me push (literally ) and cut the cord. So I'd encourage it.

But Force? No I don't think so. As a woman in labor, you want someone who wants to be there with you. Not someone who is reluctantly staying and not helping the situation.

Mindfulness:


I have no problem with your opinion whether you are a man or not as long as you keep it polite, respectful and friendly and you do but neither do I see why women shouldn't scream. It's not a problem, is it? Why bother at all?

I have never known there are women who don't scream and shout but I know that some women are louder than others. We can't all be the same, can we?

I even make some noise when I suffer from menstrual pains. It isn't loud but it helps me.

shadeyinka:


Perfectly in agreement with thou.
Keep that fire of love burning oh. It requires hardwork to sustain that which you have.

Stay blessed

shadeyinka:


I guess different strokes for different folks.

Nice chatting with you though.

Stay blessed

5minsmadness:


No it wont be ok.

Most men who "want to be romantic" and insist on staying almost always end up freaking out and constitute a nuisance and can even bring confusion to the whole process.

We had a program once where we organised antenatal visits involving the men coming with thier wives. After two visits a general consensus was passed by the women to leave the men at home.

I've told the story here before of thr guy who insisted on watching the birth of his first child. That he had prepared himself, watched videos, blah blah. When the head of the baby popped out, he fainted right there in the labour room. So we now had to deal with 2 patients instead of one

shadeyinka:
In Nigeria, one hardly see a married man following his wife for antenatal examinations at the hospital.

Would it be OK if men are compelled to be by their wives during childbirth?

Wouldn't this make the men appreciate their wives more?

What's your reaction to this?

lordnicklaus:


Well bro, I clearly vouch for this but one could get bitten by a wife about to be delivered as at that moment she is probably aroused by pain and could go berserk.