Swizdom:


I know you mean well SAMBARRY, but most of your advice comes up as generalization. It is just like seeing a depressed man weeping and you say to him, " you will be fine." Of course he knows but wants to be taken through the thought process to be fine.

The way you hammer on "work hard" like it is a prerequisite for success. It is not. Just the same way love alone isn't the prerequisite for a happy home. There people who work extremely hard but what they get the next day is their sack letter. There are people who have worked hard in their business and what they see the next day is fire consuming the whole thing.

I like your advice per se but others here hit the nail more on the head than yours (no offense). I respect you a lot not even on this thread. Life is full of ups and downs. It is a risk but with God it is vert, very easy no matter the circumstance. No wonder King Solomon said everything is about time and chance. I have come to realize that what he meant was that the chance should be taken by us and not wait till it comes. Nice day ahead!

SAMBARRY:
see how person type like gentleman and even though he didn't fully agree with me on my own perspectives he still did it with class and grace.

Thank you jare for the complements.omo luabi. YOUr mother train you well.she will reap from you in Jesus name

Swizdom:


Thanks maam... God bless you abundantly. Keep doing your good work.

Kkposky:


70k is enough to start up a family, my brother. Don't mind what people are saying..how many Nigerians are earning more than that.. Most of people saying it is not enough are jobless and dreaming of get a job of 200k.. "may their dreams come true "

nuelyoyo:
Truth is, there is never a perfect time to marry, it all depends on the mindset of the would be couple.

dfrost:


God bless you brother. My exact thoughts. Start small and work your way up the ladder.

I've never seen any small and humble beginning that goes down easily. I'm not saying that those that get a fat salary won't go far either.

All I'm saying is starting small teaches one to become more prudent and a good manager of his finances.

If you get the big bucks rolling in, good for you.

I'll always be on the side that if your aim is to get married and you have the means, start early. I'm pushing my younger brother to get married next year. I don't mind supporting him. He's earning a little but with the pillars of the family by his side, he will surely thrive.

Part of the problem we have in the Nigerian ecosystem is we all believe "my money is my money". We always forget that our families prayed for us too. Our younger ones or older ones supported us one way or the other. Let's cast our minds back. I can't say much.

The movie Godfather 1, 2, 3 really shaped my thinking as a young man. I took the positives out of it.

Family support is key for an early start. If the families don't demand much during pre and post wedding, then the OP is good to go.

dfrost:


Bravò, hombre. Nice words. Make brain wella.

Iamhatey:
holla hombre.
I was banned in that section. I'm back now.
Como pasaste la manana

dfrost:


Ha? Who banned my español señora?

Anyway, welcome back.

Muy bien. Como es ta? Buenas noches, mujèr.

Iamhatey:
gracias

Buenas noches hombre

See you in that thread

Swizdom:


My man, you actually said enough on this thread. Each of your comments comes with it wisdom upon wisdom. I tap into it.

Iamhatey:
holla
Gracias. Tú hablo éspanol

Skoopy:


gracias tambien mi amigo espanol.

Iamhatey:
holla

Tú escribo in éspanol

Skoopy:


solo aprendiendo

DaGeneral:
“we nor go fear darkness com piss on top bed na".Life as I see am na every mallam to his kettle.

dfrost:


Sí, beuno.

Join us at the thread for those learning espanol. Adiós, hombre. Buenas noches.

dfrost:


This your phrase do scatter my brain. One bottle of, of, of.... Eva water for you. My type of homie that hits it on the head. I for say make we hang out one day but make we dey yarn for NL small small. If you dey make correct comment, I go follow you for back. Lemme have a peek at your past comments/posts.

I avoid some monikers on NL like tomorrow no dey. Some too dey carry matter for head like gala.

DaGeneral:
Bros you harsh o.. Even Bible say take a little wine for the stomach sake...loll
Nothing do you bros,i hardly comment unless where my personal experience n encounters can help..

dfrost:


No worry. From water, we will migrate to wine. .

On your last comment, same with me.

DaGeneral:

Base on say na from clap dem dey enter dance.. No lele mk the Eva water big size then..

dfrost:


God bless you brother. My exact thoughts. Start small and work your way up the ladder.

I've never seen any small and humble beginning that goes down easily. I'm not saying that those that get a fat salary won't go far either.

All I'm saying is starting small teaches one to become more prudent and a good manager of his finances.

If you get the big bucks rolling in, good for you.

I'll always be on the side that if your aim is to get married and you have the means, start early. I'm pushing my younger brother to get married next year. I don't mind supporting him. He's earning a little but with the pillars of the family by his side, he will surely thrive.

Part of the problem we have in the Nigerian ecosystem is we all believe "my money is my money". We always forget that our families prayed for us too. Our younger ones or older ones supported us one way or the other. Let's cast our minds back. I can't say much.

The movie Godfather 1, 2, 3 really shaped my thinking as a young man. I took the positives out of it.

Family support is key for an early start. If the families don't demand much during pre and post wedding, then the OP is good to go.

well said.

DaGeneral:

Base on say na from clap dem dey enter dance.. No lele mk the Eva water big size then..

VikingsOO7:

well said.

Handsomecole:
I don't know how to advice you. But Ist minus 22K bag of rice from your salary.

zubby55:
It depends on how you plan yourself...am earning 70k in Abj and still leaving very fine with my family and I hve also build a house by God's grace I will move in next year before my rent expires

pamelga:
I just got a job dat pays 70k per month couple with other allowances. Considering the economy, can I begin a family with this pay...
Advice please!