stephenmorris:
you are damn wrong so for example because i don't have a job ,i should surrender my honor as a man to a woman

chigoizie7:


Let them be learning nonsense here.

As for me, I will respect my wife the way she deserves, but any day she disrespect my family is the day she is leaving my house, if she like make she born jesus christ for me, I don't care what u all think or will say, she is my wife, "YES", but they are my family, my blood, my everything, they were there for me when I was a nobody, when I was nothing to write home about, we suffered together, conquered together, now I will come and disrespect them just because I married a woman who is 100% " REPLACEABLE". My family ain't replaceable.

JUSTbuchi:
than your siblings you mean?? Guess you don't know there's a huge probability that that so called wife would dump you but you always gat ur siblings/children till death takes the toll

FortuneTeller:


My brother does not live with me because he has a job and a family. However he has visited my home many times and washed dishes. Before I know it, he has done one small thing to lessen my burden. I do not see him as any less of a man. I see him as a loving brother.

I feel much of our way of thinking is a poverty mentality. When people are living comfortably and happily, such things tend to mean less. I've seen many Naija guys change their mindset once they are living in better conditions (i.e. US): washing dishes, carrying babies, helping cook, etc. When life is good, it seems people treat each other better. I've change so much myself. I feel free and happy and I enjoy my family much more now. It's just my humble observation.

Pidggin:


I read it perfectly and I do feel sorry you think this way. I am also praying you birth only boys so you get no one to help you out in the kitchen, good luck dear

bodmas119:
My younger brother is living with us but my wife used to complaint to me he doesn't wash plates, pls how should I handle the matter peacefully coz am confused?

JUSTbuchi:
dunno why u guys like misquoting someone


Where did the op mention that his wife washes his brother's cloth and all that?? My solid point is doing the dishes for your brother in-law isn't something to nag about. Maybe there are other things the op's wife nags about that the op himself isn't telling us

cococandy:
Marry your family. I'm sure you have females in your family. That way problem will be solved.

JUSTbuchi:
I'd want to believe you are far more enlightened than you've just portrayed here

Now calm down and read again- a real woman wouldn't nag over such, maybe your mom isn't that kinda species

Loisemm:


Is it too much for a wife older than you to want you to wash your OWN plates after you eat?!
That's simple courtesy now for live-in house GUESTS! You don't expect your hosts to do all your dishes everyday and still feed and accommodate you for free. Ahn ahn.. If the lady is complaining, she has a right to. Its her house!

mamachizzy:

like I said, its a personal thing. of course my sons will learn how to do kitchen/ house chores. My sons will learn how to cook, wash, clean, do everything. I never said my sons won't enter the kitchen did I? don't put words in my mouth. I just have a problem with a grown man washing plates for me. that's all

JUSTbuchi:
can't help but laugh

Look here mahn, your destined wife would never nag over something like this, she loves you too much to make an issue of that!!


You made a point that contradicts your view, that brain of yours needs to be cleaned

Loisemm:


Is it too much for a wife older than you to want you to wash your OWN plates after you eat?!
That's simple courtesy now for live-in house GUESTS! You don't expect your hosts to do all your dishes everyday and still feed and accommodate you for free. Ahn ahn.. If the lady is complaining, she has a right to. Its her house!

Ifakiland:

Glad u sed wife...not slave. Now run along am tru with u!
If u value ur family so much more Dan ur future wife I guess u pick ur sis or a cousin and marry! Fish brain!
U don't need anybody to tell u ur wife becomes closer to u Dan ur family as soon as u marry her, dis is d person ure gonna share a bed/room/house with....she culd kill u in d middle of d nite and u say ur family is closer Oya nah....odinma!

bodmas119:
My younger brother is living with us but my wife used to complaint to me he doesn't wash plates, pls how should I handle the matter peacefully coz am confused?

stephenmorris:
you are damn wrong so for example because i don't have a job ,i should surrender my honor as a man to a woman

Acheron:
If your brother is an adult then he should wash his own plate after every meal if your wife consider washing an extra plate a difficult task.

If your younger brother is in his teens, he should assist your wife with washing.

JUSTbuchi:
this isn't about using your wife like a slave, believe me a real woman wouldn't make a big deal out of this, she wouldn't even raise an eyebrow!! Only women who gat the kinda ego that would raise a dead man rant over things like this

Loisemm:

Who does the cooking for your younger bro to eat?

*modified -
since he fetches water and helps with other chores, its alright. He should wash his plates after eating and all will be well. I guess he may be leaving his plates in the sink for madam to wash. For me, that's not right if he is younger. I shake my head at the men here saying he should leave his plates for the woman of the house to wash! U will make ur extended family lose respect for your wife if u allow that.
Personally, if u try that with me as a younger Inlaw, I will help u wash it the first few times in case u didn't do it deliberately. After that, I will set ur dirty plate aside and u will come n wash it whenever u are ready.
I might add that if you are not ready to wash your own plates, then be ready to stop eating in the house soon. Na so them dey turn the co-owner of the house to housemaid if care isn't taken!

daryoor:
if the people in this incidence are yoruba, then the wife should not complain, the culture does not allow you to call the little guy by name talkless of demanding he wash the plates at home. the guy should only respect himself and wash his own plate. then if she's heavily pregnant he should help her out often.


respect your brother that has been with you unconditionally all your life. love your wife unconditionally but in situations like this you need to remember that, that b.itch chose you because of what you have.

doveda:
What stvpid honor? Won't you take care of yourself if you were living alone? To hell with your fvcking penis, if you are living with others and you can't help out, you should be thrown out in the middle of the night.


If you wan form honor, you won't be living with your brother and his wife.




Losers forming ego

cococandy:

What's your honor? Being jobless?

mamachizzy:
Me personally will never let a man enter my kitchen and wash plates. be it my husband, brother or even brother in law. I think there are other more manly chores around the house that he can help ur wife with. like fetching water or cleaning the house. But if washing of plates will constitute a problem in ur house, then let ur brother was his plate immediately he is done eating

stephenmorris:
you females are just very very rude sometimes i even get angry why i support the feminism movement lol

Konzent:
I think you need wisdom here more than any other thing said . First understand that your brother is feeding his ego and would not want to go down and wash the plates. Allow him there, rather define the tasks in the house and give him a portion of work that would be more dignifying. This would also relief your wife of some work and placate her. If she still complains, know she has something personal against your brother.

doveda:
You think I care about feminism I don't. Good that you consider yourself a feminist, I don't. It is common sense that you help out in good faith especially when you are not paying rent. It is common sense to know that house chores aren't gender specific, it is basically about taking care of oneself. If you can't afford a maid and you feel too big to take care of yourself, you are better off living on the street.


You are so rude. How dare you tell me that I am rude . Who claimed to be above everyone else because he is older than 17

If you weren't an hypocrite, you won't use words like honour, man, and woman to talk about house chores. Next time don't assume the person you are quoting is stvpid, you can go ahead with fooling id.iots that you care about a movement when in reality, you don't.

doveda:
Only men and boys with stvpid ego won't help out with house chores.


PS: there a nothing like a real woman. It is common see you help out with house chores if you are in other people's homes, and it won't be disrespect if you tell the person nicely to either help out or leave your house.

JUSTbuchi:
here we go again....read the pages abeg....the man said his brother helps out with other chores like fetching of water and all that, why complain about the dishes??

And you said there's nothing like a real woman??.... Let's not quibble over details here, we all know there's what we call girlfriend material and wife material

bodmas119:
My younger brother is living with us but my wife used to complaint to me he doesn't wash plates, pls how should I handle the matter peacefully coz am confused?

bodmas119:
me and this girl dated for four years, she was so in support of me then, take good care and also make sure everything is perfectly OK with me, but to my surprised she call me one day and said 2my ear, I tink we need to put an end to this relationship because I don't have anything so we quit. after four years we met @ shopping mall in Lagos, when she saw me she knew things are change for good. but now she wanted to come back. should I still accept her back or not.

bodmas119:
pls is it proper for me to go back with my ex girlfriend, we met again and had sex together last week after six years of separation and now she has been on my neck, pls what should I do?

doveda:
If he helps with other chores...no wahala
If he doesn't... wahala


Yes, there is nothing like a real woman or a real man