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Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by Ranchhoddas: 7:37am On Oct 07, 2016 |
SpicyJosBabe:Why do I get the feeling that your mind is made up already? |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by Ranchhoddas: 7:40am On Oct 07, 2016 |
Acidosis:This is a rather lame comeback. 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by killsmith(f): 8:28am On Oct 07, 2016 |
Throw the gold away....go marry brother Paul the prayer warrior, who'd end up cheating with sister Mary the choir mistress....iranu.... 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by Acidosis(m): 8:53am On Oct 07, 2016 |
Ranchhoddas: Perhaps the reader is just too lame to understand that over a million congregation wouldn't flock around a man without a cogent reason. |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by SpicyJosBabe(f): 9:46am On Oct 07, 2016 |
simplex2: Wow, datz lovely. But pls what is the real difference between an atheist and an agnostic? I practically see them as the same thing. |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by Ranchhoddas: 9:50am On Oct 07, 2016 |
Acidosis:Classic case of ''one million people cannot be wrong'' (argumentum ad populum) fallacy. Do you know how many people follow the Dalai Lama? Or is it because he hasn't commercialized his followership... I am Christian by the way. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by SpicyJosBabe(f): 9:51am On Oct 07, 2016 |
Ranchhoddas: That comment doesn't my mind is made up already. Even if i won't continue with the relationship, it doesn't mean i will not acknowledge the truth, and the truth is that we have good and bad people in all divides. |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by Nobody: 9:55am On Oct 07, 2016 |
SpicyJosBabe:an atheist doesn't beleive in god because he knows god doesnt exist while an agnostic might beleive in god but is not sure if god exists or not 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by SpicyJosBabe(f): 10:05am On Oct 07, 2016 |
RaptObserver: nubian999: Thank you dearies. I guess before i take any decision i have to really have a heart to heart talk with him on so many issues and i guess i will take my final decision and conclusion based on his responses. I will go back to him and see if we can make arrangements and plans of the present and future compromises and sacrifices we are bound to make if we are ever going to be together. If he will be willing to compromise many things i will accept him, if he won't i will have no option but to leave him because it is very obvious that a die hard atheist and a comitted religious person can never really be together. Our society is a dominantly religious and christian society and so atheists really have to make a lot of compromises to be with we christians. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by SpicyJosBabe(f): 10:20am On Oct 07, 2016 |
My only fear and uncertainty in all these is the unstable nature of men. Men are known to change very much after marriage and i really don't know why. The man who will be pampering you today and making so much promises on how he will sacrifice a lot for you will instantly change tomorrow after you have started answering his name and will now start dictating and setting down rules for you when you move into his house. Pls all the Atheists here encouraging me to go ahead with this relationship, what if i become his wife tomorrow and he now changes his softer and relaxed religious attitude and now becomes a core or die hard atheist and starts dictating religious boundaries for me since am now under his authority, what would i do then? Cos you guys can agree with me very well that you men do change after marriage. stephenmorris: killsmith: simplex2:exceltech, Seun |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by simplex2: 10:39am On Oct 07, 2016 |
stephenmorris: This is soo wrong! SpicyJosBabe: We agnostics don't believe there's enough prove for the existence and/or non-existence of gods or any other supreme being, so we don't take the concept of god or religion serious. While an atheist may ask you questions like "where is this god you talk about? Any evidence of him?", we agnostics will rather ask; "How sure are you that your own version of god is the real one and not the other gods you call fake gods". We are mostly humanist that believe more on humanity guided by morality and not christian nor islam virtues. Most times, we graduate from humanist-agnostic to atheistic-agnostic and finally to become full-fledged atheists. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by simplex2: 10:52am On Oct 07, 2016 |
SpicyJosBabe: My dear, the answers you seek for is not on nairaland because no man comes with instructional manual. We will only comment based on our own opinion, you are the one that wears the shoes and will wear the shoe for the rest of your life. Discuss with him and express your fears. Me personally, I won't tolerate a fanatic-christian as a wife; someone who will spend more hours on prayers than on sex, do fasting and starve me on the process, spend more nights for vigils than a career nurse does at work, invite strangers to come and do special prayers and deliverance in my house everyother week, impose strict religious rules on my children... Trust me, your fiance may have some of these fears too so its not just you that have fears. Your bible says 'two cannot work together unless they agree...' so talk with him and see if the fears will be alleviated. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by Nobody: 10:52am On Oct 07, 2016 |
SpicyJosBabe:i will get bck to you in the afternoon kinda busy now cc:johnydon22 |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by traware(m): 11:21am On Oct 07, 2016 |
SpicyJosBabe:Such arrogance!!! Simply because you have a pus.sy and you are a christian which make you falsely believe you are superior to others.I've got two words for you...FU.CKK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!! 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by traware(m): 11:32am On Oct 07, 2016 |
firstking01:There is a very very very small pool of atheist women available to atheist men in nigeria and a man has got to "burst a nut".So what other choice does he have but to manage the women available to him?Aint no male atheist in nigeria actively seeking to get hitched with all these christian and moslem nutcases everywhere.We are just compromizing.Daz all 1 Like |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by simplex2: 2:35pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
traware: HAHAHAHAHA!!! Dude, this one pain you. Anyway, before I officially unfollows thread, OP can go through what her fellow christians are saying about marrying an atheist here ==> https://www.nairaland.com/3392007/why-no-christain-lady-should Most of them STRONGLY disagrees with the notion. So you might pick up a few things there. |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by SpicyJosBabe(f): 3:33pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
simplex2: LoL, you have really said it all. Thanks |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by SpicyJosBabe(f): 3:43pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
traware: Yes, well not my fault for the making. Atheism is very odd in Nigeria because the overwhelming majority of Nigerians are religious. So u guys have to put up with us. And tell me, why do u guys woo religious ladies in the first place? And u guys will not tell the lady at first until when the lady now finds out deep down later. traware: Yes and thank God u know. There is really something wrong with atheism and that's why women (who are smarter and more sensitive naturally) see no reason in practicing such lifestyles with no reasonable benefit. You guys should stop chasing religious women! |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by traware(m): 6:00pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
SpicyJosBabe:@first bolded;You are very wrong.The majority of Nigerians are not religious.The majority of Nigerians practice what can best be referred to as "religiousity".Daz all @second bolded;I have already explained this in one of my previous posts.As an atheist male based in Nigeria,there are very few atheist women in the state.What else can i do but to have relationships with the women around me who are into one religion or the other?If i could,i would have nothing to do with any woman involved with any religion but what other choice do i have in Nigeria?Mastur.bate or turn gay?As for the other question,why should any atheist tell anyone he is an atheist in the first place?Isnt the practice or non-practice of any religion by an individual a personal/private issue?Do you erroneously believe everyone in Nigeria is as ignorant as the majority who literarily carry their bogus religions on their sleeves?...Child please @third bolded;With this conclusion of your post,i now know this your whole story is a lie(why i'm i not surprised).You simply created this bullshitt tale inorder to indirectly attack atheists and their beliefs.I aint gat time for religious nutcases like yourself.Your deluded and smug self-righteousness,lies and arrogance disgusts me.So kindly bugger off |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by exceltech: 7:28pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
SpicyJosBabe: There are some things you must take into consideration in a relationship even for theist partners; 1. Does he keep to his words ? ; this is very important. 2a. What are the most important qualities you want in a marriage ? 2b. Does he possess such qualities ? 3. What are the most important qualities he wants in a marriage ? 3b. Do you have such qualities ? 4. Are you willing to let him be, not try to change his belief and is he willing to let you be ?; this will depend on your answer to question 1. 5. You need to have discussions about your future children. You can determine the answers to these questions from behaviours and also by having an heart to heart talk with him. Please, have as much discussions as possible. If he meets your expectations , then go ahead with it, though people are different but I have realised that those who believe that everything ends in this world are more likely to cherish life and their loved ones. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by raphieMontella: 10:23pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
SpicyJosBabe:@bolded love's not about religion... Its about the ''person''....if you yoke love and religion as one...you'd miss it totally... If it were ''one''...we wont have inter-religious marriages... My friends have said virtually all. Just some few things i need to correct...if you reply.. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by Nobody: 12:01am On Oct 08, 2016 |
Bloody m0r0n So you are saying an atheist cannot have these traits? Ignoramus sexymoma: 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by Nobody: 12:21am On Oct 08, 2016 |
It's only in naija and Africa where one needs protection...why do I need protection in a place where the government does its job and provides adequate security... In obodoyibo try and do something funny to me spiritually and if I got evidence I'm gonna sue ur sorry a5s... M2dX: 1 Like |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by Nobody: 12:24am On Oct 08, 2016 |
The way some people dey make atheists seem like demons, one would think the divorced PASTOR CHRIS, who happens to 'be the Xtian alpha male is also equally an Atheist raphieMontella: 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by Nobody: 7:21pm On Feb 04, 2021 |
Only if your faith is of no serious importance to you. How do you talk about God with someone who doesn't believe in the existence of God? Truth is, I can't have a deep conversation without hinting at my faith. Instead, I'll remain single. |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by adexpa(m): 9:21pm On Feb 04, 2021 |
Dear, I understand it is a dreaded decision because it is not easy for someone who never examined and evaluated the religion she inherited before. It is very difficult for an average Nigerian to ever search further to know and critize about the religion given to them by parents. I will tell you your boyfriend is a real guy, he is a straight forward and sincere guy, the people who call themselves atheist are genuine, intelligent, smart and brilliant people who have search and research about religion and doctrines before their final decision. God gave everyone freedom of choice and he does not operate like man, God does not give and decided to take back anointing and blessings from people. Every predicament is from devil. I will not advice you to go ahead bcus of yourself and your family; it will be tough to accept him totally due to your believe. Try to engage him more to know what brought about his decision bcus he was once either a christian or muslim. See the list of Nigeria atheist for your peruse 1 Like
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Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by Queenserah26(f): 9:38pm On Feb 04, 2021 |
Thank you sexymoma: |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by specialmati(m): 11:10pm On Feb 04, 2021 |
this one hard oh but my advice is if you are a religious person go for your like to avoid creating another topic |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by dederocs(m): 5:35am On Feb 05, 2021 |
He has told you, you are asking us |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by BBL3691: 4:46pm On Feb 05, 2021 |
I understand how it feels getting to a new arena of love. Atheist that I know have the following qualities. 1. They are humanistic 2. Cheerful 3. Realistic 4. Quite open minded 5. Friendly. However, If you believe in your Christianity and your salvation then you have the following odds 1. 2 Corinthians 6: 14 "don't be equally yoked with unbeliever" 2. Psalms 11:3 If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? 3. Galatians 5:25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. 4. Have you consulted your creator (God) who is the founder of marriage institution. Pray about it anything God tells you about him then work with that. Conclude your issues in the spiritual first before approaching him. Anything you get from the spiritual then work with it. But personally I don't support a believer marrying unbeliever |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by sunshineV(f): 5:13pm On Feb 05, 2021 |
If u like marry apostle suliemon he will still cheat...u better marry the man that love u and leave religion for oyinbo wey bring am. |
Re: Should I Continue My Relationship With An Atheist? I'm Confused by Sailorsoldier1: 5:20pm On Feb 05, 2021 |
SpicyJosBabe:my dear leave religion o....dont regret later....na church boys bad pass.... |
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