WackyJ1:


Seems like before that your ex did it. You had so much trust and hope in her.

And it seems she did it with a guy she told you not to worry about.

At which year did she do it?

sheyizy1:
we really share the same idea i still wonder y a guy not ready for marriage will break up wth his gf instead demote her look for a better candidate

Yewandequeen:
She is you Gf not your wife yet. So yes you should forgive.

kaycodes:


Problem is there is no better candidate, it's just a matter of time, chance, and circumstances.

adepeter26:

Also in same mess. She still keeps contact (24/7hr) with one particular ex of hers and if i ask her whats between her and this called guy, she replies saying "they are just frnds and whatever happen between them is now in the past".

Me go just smile and say OK....

LADIES SHA

Yewandequeen:
She is you Gf not your wife yet. So yes you should forgive.

prela:
When you just bought a new iPhone 7 and your girlfriend smashes it on the floor just because she caught you cheating, your village witches be like "Is our work ooooo, Softwork

kaycodes:


Bros I had absolute trust in her, I was her first, if you know what I mean. She was the perfect definition of decent and homely.

No, she did it with a guy she barely knew, who her friend introduced to her while I was away serving my father's land.

Worse was that she did it on our 5th year of dating. I just couldn't understand how she held out that long only to[b] get influenced by her friend. [/b]After she told me, I could tell she was very sorry for her actions and she knew it was a mistake, she practically confessed to all my friends who she knew could talk to me but I just couldn't take it.

Problem was, I was the one woman at a time kinda guy back then. Anyways like I tell all present ladies in my life, if you do the crime, better die with the guilt and don't tell me, I don't want no mother confessor.

Only problem is, I can't seem to trust any beautiful or ugly girl for that matter anymore.

The ex thing was what I learnt from further experience in the school of dating.

After Exes, fear her friends too, especially the close ones they can make or Mar your relationship.

kaycodes:


On the contrary, I am more inclined to forgive my wife especially if there are kids involved, although it will take time and therapy.

However, if gf does it, that will be the end of whatever I feel for her, but out of decency I'll end the relationship, rather than keep her to satisfy my urges...

remedick:
so it is good for her to cheat because she is a girlfriend eh? what happened to charity begins at home and a journey of a million miles begin with a step?

mrsefan:
If your girlfriend admits and
confesses she slept with another man
–WILL YOU FORGIVE HER &
STAY?
Guys please be honest and take a moment to think about this and share your view below…

olac21:
Pardon my curiosity miss.. are you alright?

WackyJ1:


Mehn Same thing happened to me.
You even had used the same phrase,
A guy she "barely knew"

Mine is still as recent as Aug 28th.
She didn't sound remorseful. So I stopped calling. She has called twice to try to form talk with me by asking obviously stupid questions.

Did she tell you whether she enjoyed it or not because that's what I tried to find out.
(To know the likelihood of her doing it again)

And how long did she know the guy for it to qualify as barely knew?

5 years is a long time to have had to let go of.
Do you guys still talk?

Yewandequeen:
She is you Gf not your wife yet. So yes you should forgive.

kaycodes:


She met the guy in a different school, and the next time they saw about a month later she DID IT.

She denied enjoying it claiming the dude forced her, but the whole story she told me was simply a matter of the guy being sharp, and she being willing case closed.

kaycodes:

Well, we don't talk the last time I heard from her was when she was about getting married last year.

Funny thing was that when she was about getting married everyone was surprised I wasn't the one, and when her sister asked her what happened, she made up some story that my mother was the cause. Only me and her elder brother really knew what went down.

kaycodes:


Story for the gods.

I don't trust girls, I don't have an iota of trust for girls who keep in touch with their ex like their life depended on it. I know in some cases the friendship is there oh, but my default setting is never to trust exes

remedick:
As much as I appreciate your "gentleman-ess" In their book, you are a weakling. She did that because she knows you will do NOTHING. You insulted yourself bro, you insulted the man in you.

adepeter26:

You're right bro. I learnt later how to treat ladies like her. She took my meekness for granted.

adepeter26:

You're right bro. I learnt later how to treat ladies like her. She took my meekness for granted.

WackyJ1:


And how did you end up treating her?

Did the treatment make her stop keeping in contact with her ex?

firstking01:
What kinda friends do you do??