I have had relationships when i was younger and they were amazing back then, i got hurt in a few and i think this made me extremely bitter and lost desire for relationships for a while. Here is what crosses my mind when i think of marriage.

1. I will be doing all the cooking
2. i will be doing all he laundry
3. I will do be the one raising all the kids. (diapers, cleaning after them etc)
(the guy will want to find them cleaned up and looking good)
4. I will do all the cleaning in the house
5. I will have to support the guy emotionally.
6. If i need emotional support i should go to my girlfriends.
7. I will give the guy sex all the time
(even when most times i just want romance without sex)
8. I am supposed to look pretty for the man all the time.
9. the man will get a good reputation for having a wife and kids while i do all the giving.

What does the man bring to the table?? Let's say i also make my own money.

Awwww

I hope u change this mindset b4 getting married else it will affect u.

Marriage isn't a one sided thing as u think.

Evn some hubby help out in some of the things u've listed if not all.

sinaj:
Awwww

I hope u change this mindset b4 getting married else it will affect u.

Marriage isn't a one sided thing as u think.

Evn some hubby help out in some of the things u've listed if not all.

I am trying my best to change my mind set. That's why i posted to invite fresh insights. So what they bring is a little help? Its all my responsibility but i am lucky if i get some help?

No 1 2 & 4 depends on the kind of man you marry

No 3 5 6 7 8 9 aren't true.

3. You're not to raise all the kids alone except he doesn't provide and spend time with them

5. The reverse is the case in most marriages

6. That's your own personal conclusion.

7. Its his duty to put you in mood by making you happy

8. Most of you women always love to look pretty for yourselves for the complements you get even when your hubby has travelled

9. Reputation is for both but doesn't come the same way

Well unfortunately for the girls, the men who are homely and understanding enough to help them in all of these aren't usually appealing to them. They prefer the tough-looking six pack swagger guys who hasn't spared a month in his lifetime of masculinity to study feminity but rather thinks his money would get him everything he needs from a woman

One should marry for the right reasons and not for what appeals to the eyes alone.

op there is one Alfa that i will take you to... he's good trust me

okwyee:
op there is one Alfa that i will take you to...
he's good trust me

Aswear.... Bomb dey your head...


I don laugh tire my Belle the pain me

then the man would go out, find a job, receive loads of ibsults and may even engage a colleague physically so that you and the kids would be well catered for. everyday weekday of his life

I can't profer any solution except that maybe it is better to be single afterall

That way, you can be sure to do away with all the headaches that come with being tied to a man.

Babies can be adopted, you can be a single parent.

You just have to accept who you are.

pertrokillert:
I have had relationships when i was younger and they were amazing back then, i got hurt in a few and i think this made me extremely bitter and lost desire for relationships for a while. Here is what crosses my mind when i think of marriage.

1. I will be doing all the cooking
2. i will be doing all he laundry
3. I will do be the one raising all the kids. (diapers, cleaning after them etc)
(the guy will want to find them cleaned up and looking good)
4. I will do all the cleaning in the house
5. I will have to support the guy emotionally.
6. If i need emotional support i should go to my girlfriends.
7. I will give the guy sex all the time
(even when most times i just want romance without sex)
8. I am supposed to look pretty for the man all the time.
9. the man will get a good reputation for having a wife and kids while i do all the giving.

What does the man bring to the table?? Let's say i also make my own money.

A roof over your head
Food
He should have your back ideally but not possible all the time
Gifts
He prolly take a bullet for you
You wanna switch places
Be my sugar mummy?

It's getting boring woman. Nobody is forcing u into marriage init?

Also they r allowed 2 cheat buh when the wife does it,pple criticize her...marriage is messed up mehn

pertrokillert:
I have had relationships when i was younger and they were amazing back then, i got hurt in a few and i think this made me extremely bitter and lost desire for relationships for a while. Here is what crosses my mind when i think of marriage.

1. I will be doing all the cooking
2. i will be doing all he laundry
3. I will do be the one raising all the kids. (diapers, cleaning after them etc)
(the guy will want to find them cleaned up and looking good)
4. I will do all the cleaning in the house
5. I will have to support the guy emotionally.
6. If i need emotional support i should go to my girlfriends.
7. I will give the guy sex all the time
(even when most times i just want romance without sex)
8. I am supposed to look pretty for the man all the time.
9. the man will get a good reputation for having a wife and kids while i do all the giving.

What does the man bring to the table?? Let's say i also make my own money.

It's a Man's World

pertrokillert:


I am trying my best to change my mind set. That's why i posted to invite fresh insights. So what they bring is a little help? Its all my responsibility but i am lucky if i get some help?

Its not always like that dear. A widow or a single parent will be able to explain better. Marriage is for two and a good man's contribution goes a long way.