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Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by saphhire: 9:42pm On Oct 20, 2016
Believe it or not; there is, indeed, more to a relationship than sex. Suprised? Actually, nope. But yes, we have been shaped by a culture that bases itself on internet porn, one-night stands and erotica, and so, has lost vision of the real point of a relationship—which is to just spend time with another individual you are attracted to in more ways than one.



While you can have sex with anybody, it’s the post-sex equation that is not something you want to have with everyone. Sometimes, all you want to do is hangout with your significant other—play video games, watch re-runs of your favourite shows, have conversations about life and while eating pizza with—because at the end of the day, we are all looking to grow old with someone, even if we’re not saying it out loud.



To test this out further, I talked to a young couple about this. Sophie and Emmanuel (names changed) have been together for a year now. While the two of them can literally not get their hands off each other, besides being visibly in love, the two of them have never had sex. Yes, their physical chemistry is like no other, they say and they spend nights together sleeping over; they all but indulge in the act of what modern-aged lovemaking. To them, love is about sharing their love for their favourite music, talking in the most romantic manner possible because they seriously are high on the mush, cooking for one another and lying curled up together, whispering sweet nothings to each other. Most may wonder how they could possibly not lose control, or how they have even lasted this long. Theirs is a relationship of a cosmic connection, says Sophie. “Our mutual understanding for each other and our love transcends the act of just having sex,” she adds.



So how do we, as a generation heady on boners, orals and lack of self-control, go from ‘just having sex’ to actually making love without the physicality of it? Does it mean we have to shut out of our digital social circles and spend more time together offline? Maybe. Does it mean watching less porn or reading less erotica, or hooking up online with someone? Maybe. Does it mean we need to wear promise rings and swear sexual allegiance to the chosen one, whoever that might be? Maybe. But, most of all, it’s just one of those things that you will know when you know.

So, when you meet someone with whom you love hanging out, playing Fifa with, watching sitcoms with, staying up late with or just sharing stale pizza with, you will realise that sometimes, it is okay to have a relationship that is based on pure, innocent love and not on ‘just having sex’.

Till then, don’t quit the search!



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Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 9:44pm On Oct 20, 2016
If God's plan was actually no sex before marriage, then I guess we would all receive our various dîcks and pûssies on the wedding day cheesy cheesy


#Just_Saying cool

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Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 9:48pm On Oct 20, 2016
Nice one op.
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Laveda(f): 9:49pm On Oct 20, 2016
I didn't read, just do whatever makes you happpy, that's all.

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Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 9:54pm On Oct 20, 2016
MacBrooklyn:
If God's plan was actually no sex before marriage, then I guess we would all receive our various dîcks and pûssies on the wedding day cheesy cheesy


#Just_Saying cool
.....See yer life undecided
We use our gentiles for more important things than sex .....peeing.
~~~
have you ever had 2 go really bad??
Then you'll understand me perfectly

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Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 10:09pm On Oct 20, 2016
MuddyHandsNFeet:
See yer life undecided
~
We use our gentiles for more important things than sex .....peeing.
~
have you ever had 2 go really bad??
Then you'll underlrstand me perfectly

Don't you think if God wants us to be using our gentiles for peeing alone, he would have done that because everything is within his power wink

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Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 10:21pm On Oct 20, 2016
MacBrooklyn:


Don't you think if God wants us to be using our gentiles for peeing alone, he would have done that because everything is within his power wink
I didn't say that was All it was designed for
i only informed you yer assertion was incorrect.
~~
We have our gentiles from birth because we use them for something more essential than sex
........peeing grin
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 10:28pm On Oct 20, 2016
MuddyHandsNFeet:
I didn't say that was All it was designed for
i only informed you yer assertion was incorrect.
~~
We have our gentiles from birth because we use them for something more essential than sex
........peeing grin

Baba, we're saying the same thing but just in a different way tongue


What I'm telling yo is that I don't think God's plan was actually no sex before marriage because if that was actually his plan, he would have given us different mechanism to pee rather than using our genitals wink
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 10:37pm On Oct 20, 2016
MacBrooklyn:


Baba, we're saying the same thing but just in a different way tongue


What I'm telling yo is that I don't think God's plan was actually no sex before marriage because if that was actually his plan, he would have given us different mechanism to pee rather than using our genitals wink
or he made our gentiles multi functional because he's efficient
~~~
And he just expected us to exercise the self control he instilled in us.
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 10:42pm On Oct 20, 2016
MuddyHandsNFeet:
or he made our gentiles multi functional because he's efficient
~~~
And he just expected us to exercise the self control he instilled in us.

[size=25pt]Bingo!! cool [/size]
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 10:46pm On Oct 20, 2016
MacBrooklyn:


[size=25pt]Bingo!! cool [/size]
grin see case of saving face.
~~
You did not say what i just did in yer 1st post,the exact opposite.
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 10:49pm On Oct 20, 2016
MuddyHandsNFeet:
grin see case of saving face.
~~
You did not say what i just did in yer 1st post,the exact opposite.

Bruh, what the fúck are you saying?? I don't seems to understand what you saying anymore undecided
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by ajokeade920: 10:51pm On Oct 20, 2016
how i wish this can happen in this 21st century
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 10:53pm On Oct 20, 2016
MacBrooklyn:


Bruh, what the fúck are you saying?? I don't seems to understand what you saying anymore undecided
oh,yer not familiar with the term
~~
Saving Face signifies a desire -- or defines a strategy -- to avoid humiliation or embarrassment, to maintain dignity or preserve reputation
~~
In yer case you just pretend we said the same thing grin but I was only Kidding
Was lost on you though,all my kidding seems 2 be.
~
I want 2 go now,bye
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 10:56pm On Oct 20, 2016
Girls are for kpanshing! Nothing more!

#nuffsaid
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 10:56pm On Oct 20, 2016
MuddyHandsNFeet:
oh,yer not familiar with the term
~~
Saving Face signifies a desire -- or defines a strategy -- to avoid humiliation or embarrassment, to maintain dignity or preserve reputation
~~
In yer case you just pretend we said the same thing grin but I was only Kidding
Was lost on you though,all my kidding seems 2 be.
~
I want 2 go now,bye

Lol, Dude have you ever been told you're fûcking [size=20pt]Weird[/size] ?? undecided
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:00pm On Oct 20, 2016
MacBrooklyn:


Lol, Dude have you ever been told you're fûcking [size=20pt]Weird[/size] ?? undecided
1.Yeah,all the time
2.im a Girl grin
3.you write 2 big
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:03pm On Oct 20, 2016
MuddyHandsNFeet:
1.Yeah,all the time
2.im a Girl grin

3.you write 2 big

Dude, you're not a girl and I can bet my left ball on that undecided
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:07pm On Oct 20, 2016
Silkmoth33:
Girls are for kpanshing! Nothing more!
#nuffsaid
[size=25pt]For real?? shocked [/size]

Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:09pm On Oct 20, 2016
ajokeade920:
how i wish this can happen in this 21st century

Happy Birthday, Ma'am!! cool



And where is my cake?? undecided
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:10pm On Oct 20, 2016
MacBrooklyn:


Dude, you're not a girl and I can bet my left ball on that undecided
alright,ill accept yer skepticism.
~~
I'm curious by nature doh,so erm....why are you so confident I aint?
I mean you bet yer life givers on it grin you gonna miss that left 1 when you loose
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:12pm On Oct 20, 2016
MuddyHandsNFeet:
alright,ill accept yer skepticism.
~~
I'm curious by nature doh,so erm....why are you so confident I aint?
I mean you bet yer life giver on it grin ou gonna miss that left 1 when you loose

Lol, Dude then make me lose it first undecided


I'm fúcking curious by nature too wink
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:13pm On Oct 20, 2016
MacBrooklyn:


[size=25pt]For real?? shocked [/size]

Anal, _bdsm, CFNM, anal, more anal and pussy _fucking that's all dey are for nothing more.
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:16pm On Oct 20, 2016
Silkmoth33:


Anal, _bdsm, CFNM, anal, more anal and pussy _fucking that's all dey are for nothing more.
My man,juding by yer sex style preferences you have pent up aggressions.Seek help

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Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by ajokeade920: 11:17pm On Oct 20, 2016
MacBrooklyn:


Happy Birthday, Ma'am!! cool



And where is my cake?? undecided
thanks dearie.
And your cake is in the other room grin
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:18pm On Oct 20, 2016
Silkmoth33:


Anal, _bdsm, CFNM, anal, more anal and pussy _fucking that's all dey are for nothing more.

Lol, wait make dem catch you cheesy cheesy
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:21pm On Oct 20, 2016
MuddyHandsNFeet:
My man,juding by yer sex style preferences you have pent up aggressions.Seek help


Neh! undecided I'm usually the no nonsense submissive waiting to get his left ball sack stepped on
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:21pm On Oct 20, 2016
ajokeade920:
thanks dearie. And your cake is in the other room grin
Lol, you mean the real other room?? shocked

Make ah off my trousers, I'll be joining you in there very soon wink cheesy
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:23pm On Oct 20, 2016
MuddyHandsNFeet:
My man,juding by yer sex style preferences you have pent up aggressions.Seek help

Dude, since you're claiming to be feminine, why don't you epp him now?? wink
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:25pm On Oct 20, 2016
MacBrooklyn:


Lol, Dude then make me lose it first undecided


I'm fúcking curious by nature too wink
uhn un. I never said I'd prove anything
Just maybe 1 day you'll know, you'll need 2 find a replacement ball on that day 2 wink Bye-bye Brooklyn.
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:26pm On Oct 20, 2016
MacBrooklyn:


Dude, since you're claiming to be feminine, why don't you epp him now?? wink

Lol! I wonder!


Meanwhile, Make I dey check the elasticity of my belts again. grin
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:28pm On Oct 20, 2016
Silkmoth33:



Neh! undecided I'm usually the no nonsense submissive waiting to get his left ball sack stepped on
that's an interesting description of submission you gave.
I now know the issue,you watch blue films

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