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| The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Futu85: 4:35pm On Oct 21, 2016 |
I came to realize how difficult it is for any black woman in Africa or abroad to ever get married. If you live in Africa, your best bet is to avoid college education like plague and if you can’t do otherwise, don’t ever go above an undergraduate degree of any sort. The reality is that, as a woman, the higher you move up on the educational/professional ledger, the higher your expectations are in terms of the kind of partner you want. That’s not only because women are materialistic bitches. It is also and maybe mainly because a relationship in which the woman is more educated and/or makes more money than her man is dead in the water. So imagine you own a master degree and work as an executive in a bank. You will have to aim for a single young man with at least a master degree and a salary equal or superior to yours. Hence, your dating pool is down to a bassinet. On the other hand, your male counterpart has an almost infinite pool to choose from. Some men will have the exact same mindset (finding a partner at the same level on the social ledger), some will go for a lady with a little less educational background and income (for a variety of reasons) and some will happily trade income for look… So you’re facing a tough battle to get to the altar. If you add any other burden to the mix (single motherhood, age, not good looking, bad tempered etc.) you will become a sugar mama and the favorite subject of all the gossips in your neighborhood The situation is even worst for the sisters leaving in Europe or North America. Not only are black men a minority of the population, they are most of the time, minimum income workers, undocumented or criminals some times. The “good ones” will gladly date/bang a sista but don’t want black ass kids of them to be raised in these racist societies. So they will settle with white, mixed or at the very least, very fair skin black women. To add insult to injury, 90% of the white males are not attracted to black women at all. They will probably give a shot to the mixed ones if they are drop dead gorgeous (Halle berry, Zoë saldana type) but that’s about it. Bottom line, if you are a black young lady reading these lines, you either go to college, have a career and be comfortable with the idea of being a single mother to the grave or you drop out and patiently wait for charming to come for you. |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Herlyne(f): 4:37pm On Oct 21, 2016 |
I can see you have little respect for women 2 Likes |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Nobody: 4:38pm On Oct 21, 2016 |
In a nutshell, they belong in the other room? |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by sinaj(f): 4:44pm On Oct 21, 2016 |
Ur thread is bullshit! 1 Like
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| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Nobody: 4:47pm On Oct 21, 2016 |
sinaj: The boardroom don't mean shìt when you go to the other room with nothing but a dildó.  2 Likes |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Nobody: 4:55pm On Oct 21, 2016 |
Futu85:I believe Opera winfrey has more money than her husband and they're doing ok. Mitchell was Obama's superior before they decided to get entangled. Hope you give all the women around you such advice. Arrant Nonsense!. 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by mhisbliss(f): 4:58pm On Oct 21, 2016 |
they're alot of powerful women out there with happy families, i wonder why the idea of women being powerful scares the shit out tou guys, insecurity at its peak |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Isaacmacdon(m): 5:04pm On Oct 21, 2016 |
I can see the sentiment on this thread. Telling black women to become single mums is you telling them to live an adulterous life. Whenever you want to have kids, you go out looking for the next Hot man. Sorry, but i don't buy such an idea. I've seen very educated women who are "virtuous" in nature; no amount of achievement would make her puffed up. 4 Likes |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Nobody: 5:19pm On Oct 21, 2016 |
What manner of foolery is this? So it is difficult for a black woman to get married in Africa... What fallacy..!!! Do you mean black men marry cars and fishes here in Africa. What's wrong with a woman earning more than her husband? What's wrong with a woman being more educated than her partner. Have you seen interracialdatingsite? That will prove you assumption wrong that white men don't find black women attractive. and when i say black women not talking about those in Africa alone but abroad too. You don't come here to give us a pile of hogwash like we don't know what's going on out there.  1 Like |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by xendra: 5:25pm On Oct 21, 2016 |
herbie27:don't mind the confused controlling idiots, their type want a woman that has her own money yet are afraid of a woman that has her own money, they want a woman that works and says they can't marry women who do this and that job. when this type marry they always have something to complain about their partner because they themselves are confused 1 Like |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Nobody: 5:30pm On Oct 21, 2016 |
xendra:They keep saying women are confuse but most of them are confuse as to what they really want from women. I guess he has a phobia for educated women.  1 Like |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by mikolo80: 3:09am On Oct 22, 2016 |
herbie27:do you see them trying to be superior to their husbands |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by mikolo80: 3:12am On Oct 22, 2016 |
mhisbliss:powerful women with even more powerful husbands(usually) Or willing to accept less powerful men(not often) Or men willing to accept powerful women(really scarce) |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by mikolo80: 3:13am On Oct 22, 2016 |
Diddyydiva:highly educated (high earning) black women bros Ah ahn see as your blood de hot |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by mikolo80: 3:16am On Oct 22, 2016 |
herbie27:nobody fears educated women What they fear is women that want to turn them husbands into wives |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Nobody: 3:29am On Oct 22, 2016 |
oh goodness!!! don't make this racial. Women And Men all over the world are single. It's normal |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Nobody: 7:44am On Oct 22, 2016 |
mikolo80:Google will be of help here. |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Nobody: 7:45am On Oct 22, 2016 |
mikolo80:So i guess this is the reason behind his silly advice to ladies?. |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by mikolo80: 10:45pm On Oct 22, 2016 |
herbie27:which advice |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Nobody: 10:47pm On Oct 22, 2016 |
mikolo80:You didn't even see that part?. |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by mikolo80: 10:48pm On Oct 22, 2016 |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by mikolo80: 10:51pm On Oct 22, 2016 |
herbie27:can't remember But if it's silly to you I support it. If you like keep fighting nature |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Nobody: 10:57pm On Oct 22, 2016 |
mikolo80:Fighting Nature how?, you should go back and re-read his post. Why is Stedman still with Opera over the years when she commands more wealth and respect than the man?. |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by mikolo80: 11:17pm On Oct 22, 2016 |
herbie27:because Oprah has learnt that dildos at vibrators are no substitute for companionship So she gave herself brain and calmed down to be submissive in the home She can command all she likes outside But with your man (unless he's a gold digger MP beach ass nigga) you better leave all that feminist nonsense at the office |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by bitchcrafts: 11:28pm On Oct 22, 2016 |
*blinks twice and pinches myself to see if im not in dreamland cos this particular post got me bereft of words for the tone of finality it arrived in as if he were talking from a sort af widely known and approved bible. Guy go sit yo ass down somewhere. Many educated to the tooth women are getting married to men ,I mean real men of their choice every day . Spare me this baseless farce puhleeaase! |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Rozaystunna(m): 11:37pm On Oct 22, 2016 |
Judeefcc Dem don pull down the thread we for murder person |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by Nobody: 11:39pm On Oct 22, 2016 |
mikolo80:Lol.  Funny you!. |
| Re: The Harsh Reality Of Female Singlehood Among Black Women by mikolo80: 11:56pm On Oct 22, 2016 |
herbie27:wait wait wait....... Wait Am I lying |
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