Last weekend we Celebrated mumssie in her 4 bedroom bungalow built by our first born to mark her 70th birthday; nice music, good food, nice wine etc. and I look at some years back when things were extremely difficult. I lost my dad when I was in primary 2 age 7yrs, our first born was in his final year in university.

Things were extremely difficult and that was how my sister comes in a dad figure.I can not mentioned all her good deed towards the family but let me just site some instances.

My sister single handedly sponsor our second born wedding, she sponsor our third born through university and on many occasion she used to feed the family. We used to called her mother Theresa.

Unfortunately some years back she was diagnosed of HIV yeah you heard me right and she became the ghost of her former self. Now to the glory of God everybody is doing fine and I keep thinking who knows if my sister did not try to play god probably everybody would have eventually turn out good though things might even be more difficult then. Though we are still one big happy family despite her status but how i wish...

Ladies please don't play God over your siblings do your best not at your own expense

Seriously touching......
But she couldn't watch her family starve or suffer, she did all that to see you all smile

Story that touches. What a sweet sister

she's a sister

Enya op BC things re ok with u and ur family now, u now think dat she shouldn't ve done more Dan her limit or probably u would ve been successful one way or d other without her help. She sacrificed 4 d well being of d family and ur thank u is dis... How many ppl can do what she did? D kind of sis dat everyone wish to ve. Human being..... May God heal ur sister and restore her back.

Change ur mindset pls

Can you imagine this OP, your sister scrificed her life for even your mother who should have been the one hustling. And you come here to say she should have known her limit abi? Kai!!!! Poor woman! She should have just helped herself and left you there. So you can be an agbero and primary school dropout.

At least you will have come on NL screaming in pain that you don't have house to live or food to eat. You said she played God abi? Very good. See human? If she sees this nonsense from you, poor thing will cry her eyes out. All her efforts are a big waste! If you are a man you should dig a grave and bury yourself out of shame. I hope your sister finds love and peace. And that she lives a long and productive life to shame ungrateful creatures like you.

drbolade:
Unfortunately some years back she was diagnosed of HIV yeah you heard me right and she became the ghost of her former self. Now to the glory of God everybody is doing fine and I keep thinking who knows if my sister did not try to play god probably everybody would have eventually turn out good though things might even be more difficult then. Though we are still one big happy family despite her status but how i wish...
Ladies please don't play God over your siblings do your best not at your own expense

To the glory of God? God?
After your sister finish 'hustling', you are now giving 'god' the glory. Was her hustle God approved? No, it was not. But it is through her hustle that your family is now comfortable, and you are here giving god glory.
It is now that you are reaping the fruits of her labour that you are opening your mouth to talk about limit. Why una no limit her that time you people were suffering?
Yes, your sister should had known her limit; she should never had done anything your ungrateful a.ss.

You sound like an ingrate.

Well I may be wrong but that is how I feel right now.All I wish and I want is my sister to regain her health back. And don't make it sound as if we were bunch of lazy bone feasting on her hustle. I practically sponsored myself through university, every weekend I traveled from Ife to Ikire for a menial job that pays #1200 to pay my bills.

drbolade:
Well I may be wrong but that is how I feel right now.All I wish and I want is my sister to regain her health back. And don't make it sound as if we were bunch of lazy bone feasting on her hustle. I practically sponsored myself through university, every weekend I traveled from Ife to Ikire for a menial job that pays #1200 to pay my bills.

So what is your point now?

If I get you right, your sister became a prostitute to help you guys feed and go to school, or its just an allegation?
So why didnt you guys warn her then?
Why was your mother collecting money from her when the source of the money was obviously questionable?
What exactly is the purpose of your thread sef when you all were responsible (by enabling her ) for escorting her to her present predicament?
Anyway, she can still live a productive life, and healthy one at that if she can continue on her medicines, and be going for regular HIV clinic. She won't be the first nor the last, life won't stop because of that. It goes on.
Shebcan equally get married and have children. There are organisations and groups where those living with HIV meet themselves for the purpose of marriage and having kids. They just have to make sure their viral load is very low, and stays low to do that.

okay...

Bust your as*s for any one and regret it for the rest of your life! You are ungrateful if this is the best you can come up with.

Fvcking re.tard feeling sorry for his sister when all he is supposed to be doing now is trying all possible means to make her happy. When she was bringing the cheese you didn't feel sorry for her cos your needs was more important then.But now that you've landed, you now feel pity for her ain't it?
Well guess what? She doesn't need it. Fvck you and your pity.

Human beings sha

Why did you guys not tell her to know her limit at the time before it got to late.

drbolade:
Well I may be wrong but that is how I feel right now.All I wish and I want is my sister to regain her health back. And don't make it sound as if we were bunch of lazy bone feasting on her hustle. I practically sponsored myself through university, every weekend I traveled from Ife to Ikire for a menial job that pays #1200 to pay my bills.

If I could, I would pull out your right arm from its socket and make you eat it!
There is no word to describe people like you
Lawd

When I read your post, I thought, "maybe I misunderstood", ...that you were just berating yourself and family for directly or indirectly pushing your sister to literally bust her body to help her family....that you were just loving her by wishing she had let you all starve
But no!!! You are judging her, big time.....while she is sick with RVD....you are really a class act, with your MBBS and Ikire menial job!

Acidosis:
Your sister acted f00lishly.

She did all she did because she loved the experiences.. She enjoyed every bit of it.

Pray for your sister, and make her happy. It is normal for any/every-one to cater and help their relatives, whether they make legitimate money or not.
If I make legitimate money, I will provide for my family. If I steal to survive, I will still provide for my family. So what's the issue about again?

I am too outraged on @OP's sister's behalf to calmly read and understand every post here,
....so I am probably wrongly climbing all over your post....I would apologise if so
But should it be that I am really reading this correctly- what a very presumptuous, ambiguous and contradictory post!
SMH

merahki:



I am very outraged on @OP's sister's behalf to calmly read and understand every post here,
....so I am probably wrongly climbing all over your post....I would apologise if so
But should it be that I am really reading this correctly- what a very presumptuous, ambiguous and contradictory post!
SMH

Heavy grammar won't aid the comprehension issues.

I maintain my stance, no woman (sister) will deep her hands into evil for the sole purpose of taking care of her nuclear family.

Her actions were meant to satisfy her own desires first, before anyone else.

Just let it go, not everyone will view issues from the emotional angle. Common sense first, before emotions.
Make I hear say the lady no get a well furnished house and a car somewhere. Even if she doesn't, you think se.x is not sweet?


@OP, I wish you and your family well. HIV is not the end of the world, reason I'm not being emotional about this. She'll get over it, and definitely fulfil her purpose (with good supports from the family).

OP, you owe your sister much gratitude and respect.

She sponsored the second born's wedding, sponsored the third born through university, fed the family. All of these involved a lot of money and all of these greatly outweigh whatever desires she wanted to satisfy.

Intention often precedes action. If we're to question whether her intention was to satisfy her desires or to help her family, I would go with the latter. One way to find out is to ask, "What was she doing with the money she was making?". She was clearly using it to help her family. If she was selfish, she would've kept all the money to herself / used it to take care of herself but this wasn't the case, so I imagine her family's situation was what made her start, not her desires; and it was probably what kept her going - since they were relying on her.

Acidosis:


Heavy grammar won't aid the comprehension issues.

I maintain my stance, no woman (sister) will deep her hands into evil for the sole purpose of taking care of her nuclear family.

Her actions were meant to satisfy her own desires first, before anyone else.

Just let it go, not everyone will view issues from the emotional angle. Common sense first, before emotions.
Make I hear say the lady no get a well furnished house and a car somewhere. Even if she doesn't, you think se.x is not sweet?


@OP, I wish you and your family well. HIV is not the end of the world, reason I'm not being emotional about this. She'll get over it, and definitely fulfil her purpose (with good supports from the family).

She might have still gotten HIV from another source. You all here commenting on this thread aren't exempt either. You can be all good and still get it from a partner who you thought was faithful or at least was careful while cheating.

Just saying.

I wish your sister a fulfilled life and more happiness than she thought was possible.

Toor, cococandy we re nt talking abt her Sister's HIV status, our point is dat d brother is ungrateful.

cococandy:
She might have still gotten HIV from another source. You all here commenting on this thread aren't exempt either. You can be all good and still get it from a partner who you thought was faithful or at least was careful while cheating.

Just saying.

I wish your sister a fulfilled life and more happiness than she thought was possible.

Toor, we re nt talking abt her HIV status, our point is dat d brother is ungrateful

Yieldings:
She sponsored the second born's wedding, sponsored the third born through university, fed the family. All of these involved a lot of money and all of these greatly outweigh whatever desires she wanted to satisfy.

Intention often precedes action. If we're to question whether her intention was to satisfy her desires or to help her family, I would go with the latter. One way to find out is to ask, "What was she doing with the money she was making?". She was clearly using it to help her family. If she was selfish, she would've kept all the money to herself / used it to take care of herself but this wasn't the case, so I imagine her family's situation was what made her start, not her desires; and it was probably what kept her going - since they were relying on her.

I will share in your view if OP can attend to my queries:

- does your sister purchased a car, fine and expensive jewelry, a house, or at least a well furnished apartment for HERSELF?

Op, I believe ur sister can be healed by d healing power of God. Pls can u buy dis book 4 her by Pst Mrs Faith Oyedepo, Rescued 4rm Destruction and the Healing Balm by Bishop Oyedepo. Let me share some steps 2 arriving @ dat miracle 2 u, I use dem & it works like magic.
1. Look 4 testimonies of ppl who have got healed 4rm HIV, take d steps dey took. Testimonies are boosters of faith.
2. Look 4 minimum 2 books on Healing.
3. Minimum 5 scriptures on Healing.
4. Begin 2 engage in prayers 4 d healing manifestation by schedule of every 2hrs or 1hr daily or @ night.
5. Check out d signs by going 4 test till u see HIV negative.
6. Begin 2 declare d reality of d healing, she should never say "I have HIV", remember life & death are in d power of d tongue.
7. Begin 2 celebrate God 4 d healing, even when u go 4 a test & it reads positive, dance round d result, cos dats d last positive result u will get. Remember, Faith is d substance of things hoped 4, d evidence of things not seen.
It is not time 2 judge her, but what we should be looking 4ward 2 are solutions 2 d problem. If it were any of my siblings, I will not rest until I see her healed.

Acidosis:


I will share in your view if OP can attend to my queries:

- does your sister purchased a car, fine and expensive jewelry, a house, or at least a well furnished apartment for HERSELF?

Why're you taking a dig at his sister?

What's your problem with her? You sound just as materialistic and myopic as the @op himself.

Just grow up, will you?

njiasi30:

Toor, we re nt talking abt her HIV status, our point is dat d brother is ungrateful

True.

But Cococandy is also pointing out that @op's biased judgement of his sister's past actions are based on her HIV status.

Sex is not the only way to get HIV. She could have led a "clean" life and done things morally right and above board and still gotten it. One the other hand she could have lived her life the opposite way (prostitution, drugs, etc) and not gotten it. Afterall, does every Olosho out there have HIV?

@op's misplaced grouse is with her HIV status. People like him deserve to be held upside down and dunked into a bucket of shyte for his utterances.

I don't think I had to explain that.

Thanks for saving me the trouble

EfemenaXY:


True.

But Cococandy is also pointing out that @op's biased judgement of his sister's past actions are based on her HIV status.

Sex is not the only way to get HIV. She could have led a "clean" life and done things morally right and above board and still gotten it. One the other hand she could have lived her life the opposite way (prostitution, drugs, etc) and not gotten it. Afterall, does every Olosho out there have HIV?

@op's misplaced grouse is with her HIV status. People like him deserve to be held upside down and dunked into a bucket of shyte for his utterances.