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When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by rave2u: 2:56pm On Nov 07, 2009 |
Ok, a cousin of mine just started dating her boyfriend about four months back, and he has some really good friends that are females. According to what she said he told her, they are just platonic friends because some of them are childhood and friends all the way from his high school days. She's not the jealous type and tries to be friendly to them all, but she says there's this particular female who's really close to her bf, they been friends for ever. she's cool with this because she trusts her bf and knows he has no feelings towards this girl, but she says the girl in question has feelings for him. I asked how she knows this and she says its a "female thing" now that I do not understand . But she says the way the girl talks to her bf and the vibe the girl gives her when the bf isn't watching isn't too friendly, but behaves so sweet and friendly towards her when the bf's watching. She feels the girl is acting like a perfect best friend and waiting for her too loose it, so she could label her as the bitchy gf tryna keep the guy away from his buddies. she's been really keeping it cool and is slowly loosing it. She doesn't know whether to tell him about this or simply keep quiet, because she doesn't want to come across as being some jealous controlling psycho. SO what do you suggest she does? ANd ladies how would you handle such situation? |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by sexyLeamon(f): 3:04pm On Nov 07, 2009 |
I don't really consider myself insecure, but if my BF was spending this much time with someone other than me, especially if that person was a she, I would feel pretty sh!tty. if I was in her shoes, I would definitely tell my boyfriend how I feel, like dat, even if he had the intention of cheating, he would give it a second thought. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by yme1(f): 3:08pm On Nov 07, 2009 |
jealousy is acceptable in a relationship but becomes unacceptable when it goes beyound that-------anyway thats by the way tell your frd to let her bf in on how she feels about this particular girl in question |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by Godmother2: 3:25pm On Nov 07, 2009 |
I had a similar experience where the girl in question had feelings for my bf and he knew it, she was his best friend. I never could be friends with her even when I tried .Anyway, when we parted ways, that was one of the things that caused it. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by Thed(m): 3:43pm On Nov 07, 2009 |
I think it is wise she tell the boy friend of what that have been happening between her and the other girl. Its better he knows |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by whitesturd(f): 3:43pm On Nov 07, 2009 |
I am very jealous wen it comes to things like this.i don think i can take this.tell ur friend to tel her b/f this. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by iice(f): 5:17pm On Nov 07, 2009 |
Hmmm. . .personally i'm not the jealous type and i have no hesitations telling him my opinions and observations. It's up to him to know whats up. Thankfully he trusts my judgment So yeah, i think she should tell him but she should also prepare herself in case he doesn't believe her and thinks she's just jealous or petty or something |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by agabaI23(m): 3:46pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
Haha, Life is a bitch. This topic keeps coming up. It was discussed last year! |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by GeorgeD1(m): 3:47pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
live with it, sister! |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by Radiant(f): 4:07pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
LOL. . .there's no point bottling up your feelings. Say it like it is and get it sorted. Yea, I'm not the jealous type. I could be so friendly and laid back but hey don't cross the line. I'll only be be wise until you prove to be wiser |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by bandely(m): 4:08pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
agabaI23:Depending on how you treat her, you might get rich! (Jadakiss) |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by Nobody: 4:17pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
@ topic I am editing my comment. This one na serious wa. I am leaving it to the experts. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by akinalabi(m): 4:55pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
The girl should make a guy her best friend as well |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by GeorgeD1(m): 5:09pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
bandely: you're introducing another angle to this whole thingy! |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by oge4real(f): 6:23pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
akinalabi:Now thats a very naughty idea. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by OjusOJUS(m): 6:32pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
Is never a bad thing but is just that u av to trust ur partner.As for me am a guy and my best friend is a female and we are always cool,and she just got married. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by Secretz(f): 7:01pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
Oh dear . . . she needs to open up and tell him how she feels I suppose. . . . in a non 'I'm giving you an ultimatum' kind of way. If he get sense, then he should 'know' how to handle it. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by GeorgeD1(m): 7:07pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
don't you think the 'ultimatum' will backfire? he could just as well dump you atogether for his bestfriend! |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by whiteroses(f): 7:32pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
i'd be intimidated but i wouldnt know what to do tho, probably look for the next excuse to leave |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by Nobody: 7:47pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
@ poster Does your boyfriend know his bestfriend has feelings for him? If he has never suspected this (and I'll you guys are dense in matters like this), he'll simply laugh the matter off and say you are jealous. You must first of all prove she loves him. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by Secretz(f): 8:08pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
George_D: I said in a NON 'I'm giving you an ultimatum' kind of way . . . otherwise he will just think shes jealous and tell her to get a life. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by slimes(m): 8:33pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
She should not hesitate to tell her bF what the other girl is doing. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by semid4lyfe(m): 8:46pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
Proximity with the opposite sex breeds affection. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by dramaquin: 9:38pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
for me o!in my serious r/ships,my bf's my best friend. so all this issue of havin a best friend from d past?, NEVER!!!! ur cousin shld express her worries to d guy, if it doesnt werk(he doesnt do anything abt it)then like someone said here,she shld also get a male best friend then lets see how d guy feels abt that.(hope it doesnt backfire tho) last option?confront d so-called 'best friend'(pls dnt quote me) final final option,concentrate on d trust u have for him, be nice to her,make her feel jealous too! |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by TheSly: 10:48pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
Its funny how err girl on this page says they are ''not the jealous type'' And Yet, they end their sentences with '' i will tell him this. . .that. . . .blah. . .blah. . .blah Friends like that have their purposes . . . . . So dont ever let your emotion clouds your reasoning They are ''just'' friends and thats about it. . . .All u gotta do is live with it. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by mavenbox: 11:13pm On Nov 08, 2009 |
[size=1pt][s]Have a party plus her and forget about it all, [/s][/size] |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by muffins(f): 12:14am On Nov 09, 2009 |
The Jealous women are in the house. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by stilletos: 12:56am On Nov 09, 2009 |
You don't stand a chance.When its best friends concerned.if I told ma best friend I had the hots for him, he'ld dump his bitch in a minute. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by Gabry(f): 1:27am On Nov 09, 2009 |
A best friend and a lover means two completely different things so its always best to sperate both of it and always know the difference and where you are standing so for me its ok if his best frind is a female. It dont matter. If he ends up with that best friend, than I know he was never meantr for me and thats all. Besides, destiny has always had its toll on prople. If its meant to be than its meant to be otherwise if its not meant to be, than its not meant to be. But I also hope he could accept that if one day I have a guy as my best friend |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by Soflex(m): 2:48am On Nov 09, 2009 |
U guys av 2pls help me; am d boyfrend in question, wat can i do 2kip my bestfrend &galfrend? |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by ELDINO: 6:32am On Nov 09, 2009 |
Hmnnn,still thinking!! |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is Female? by numen(m): 7:11am On Nov 09, 2009 |
The odds of this situation working out peacefully for all involved is 1:1,000,000,000. Its either the best friend will have feelings for the bf or the bf for the bs or both. Either way the bf should decide between the gf and the bs who deserves most of his attention and focus it. The spark that is generated between a male and a female who are close is so natural that u cant stop it. Also gf should let bf know abt how she feels abt it all. Basically talk abt it and do your best to get a decision taken abt it. |
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