zed7:

Stop disturbing us. Go and marry. Drama queen.

Funny I am just seeing this.

It can only get better. It has been an amazing 2 days of success. This changes can only be possible tru God. I just need to continue doing my part and watch him perfect things regarding my situation as he clearly understand our individual situations and make up as well. Once again thank you all for giving me the needed push. lessons learnt : No matter how long you have travelled on the wrong path, the wisest thing to do is turn around. Conscience may not stop us from doing something bad, but it will stop us from enjoying it.

loyallove:
It can only get better. It has been an amazing 2 days of success. This changes can only be possible tru God. I just need to continue doing my part and watch him perfect things regarding my situation as he clearly understand our individual situations and make up as well. Once again thank you all for giving me the needed push. lessons learnt : No matter how long you have travelled on the wrong path, the wisest thing to do is turn around. Conscience may not stop us from doing something bad, but it will stop us from enjoying it.

....Keep it up,and God will see you through...Amen.

Another successful day. Started the day on a prayerful note. Went to work and came back on time to do the laundry. Went to the gym and spent close to an hour. Had a chat with friends. Just relaxing while waiting for mid weekpremiership. Wishing everyone a good night rest.

loyallove:
I can't seems to understand how someone with a sound moral training from a religiously inclined family could start leading a double life that has gotten me hooked with sleeping with prostitutes for the past five years.

Background
It all started when I was in my final year at the university,as a 26 yr virgin I wanted to experiment with sex and since 2011 till date I have not been able to quit no matter how hard I try.
I know about the sad consequencs associated with my promiscuous lifestyle but I still can't get out ofit. Sometimes I just feel like to sleep and never wake again as my life presently has no meaning. My current relocation down to Owerri has not helped matters as I suffered a terrible relapse twice after seven months of total and complete abstainance.
I need help and I need it urgently.

dnt worry since u hv decided to stop. God wont forsake you. always meditate on his Word. delete anything dt can trigger the urge from ur gadgets.
.

Beautiful ..one day at a time. Keeping you in my prayers....

loyallove:
It can only get better. It has been an amazing 2 days of success. This changes can only be possible tru God. I just need to continue doing my part and watch him perfect things regarding my situation as he clearly understand our individual situations and make up as well. Once again thank you all for giving me the needed push. lessons learnt : No matter how long you have travelled on the wrong path, the wisest thing to do is turn around. Conscience may not stop us from doing something bad, but it will stop us from enjoying it.

Sex twice in 7 months isn't addiction.
Now is your problem the fact that you are having sex or is it the fact that you just want to have sex with prostitutes? Is it specifically about sleeping with prostitutes or that you are sleeping with a female who is not your wife?
They are two totally separate things.Addiction to prostitutes will probably be almost impossible to cure because the high comes from the anonymity and being as dirty as you like without any hangups.I may be wrong though.

If your problem is sex twice in a full moon then hope still dey,at least that one is a natural urge which may be controllable with a willpower of iron.

Good luck

The problem is basically the use of prostitutes. Its a difficult addiction but i sure know it can be stopped. I got myself into it and by Gods help I will get myself out of it. God is still changing lifes

Jahblessme:
Sex twice in 7 months isn't addiction.
Now is your problem the fact that you are having sex or is it the fact that you just want to have sex with prostitutes? Is it specifically about sleeping with prostitutes or that you are sleeping with a female who is not your wife?
They are two totally separate things.Addiction to prostitutes will probably be almost impossible to cure because the high comes from the anonymity and being as dirty as you like without any hangups.I may be wrong though.

If your problem is sex twice in a full moon then hope still dey,at least that one is a natural urge which may be controllable with a willpower of iron.

Good luck

loyallove:
The problem is basically the use of prostitutes. Its a difficult addiction but i sure know it can be stopped. I got myself into it and by Gods help I will get myself out of it. God is still changing lifes

So what exactly is your reason for using prostitutes? When you answer that honestly,that is when you may begin to find answers.God will not come down to change you,you have learned a behaviour which has become something you crave,the only solution may be total behaviour modification when the craving arises as per doing something else that gives you a feeling close to the adrenaline rush you get when you pay for sex.
Freedom from prostitute addiction is very hard ,its normally a lifelong cross like any other addiction. Normally you have support groups filled with people with the same problem helping each other out and at least having someone to talk to and keep them accountable when the need arises,just like alcohol anonymous.
Unfortunately in naija this isn't seen as a problem in many circles. I would've advised to find men in your church who suffer from the same but I know none will come forward.
Hope you dig yourself out of this hole,marriage won't make it better ,sex with wife won't help as sex itself is not the issue.
Good luck.

I agre to some extent. However I believe there will be a way out no matter how rigorous it may be. I am stopping at nothing to make sure I become the responsible man I want to be. I strongly believe that this lifestyle was learned and can as well be unlearned. Until then I will just keep doing my own part and see God handle the rest. Failed marriage has been my biggest fear and I know I will be heading to that if I don't stop what i am doing to myself.

Jahblessme:


So what exactly is your reason for using prostitutes? When you answer that honestly,that is when you may begin to find answers.God will not come down to change you,you have learned a behaviour which has become something you crave,the only solution may be total behaviour modification when the craving arises as per doing something else that gives you a feeling close to the adrenaline rush you get when you pay for sex.
Freedom from prostitute addiction is very hard ,its normally a lifelong cross like any other addiction. Normally you have support groups filled with people with the same problem helping each other out and at least having someone to talk to and keep them accountable when the need arises,just like alcohol anonymous.
Unfortunately in naija this isn't seen as a problem in many circles. I would've advised to find men in your church who suffer from the same but I know none will come forward.
Hope you dig yourself out of this hole,marriage won't make it better ,sex with wife won't help as sex itself is not the issue.
Good luck.

,

What else can I say than to remain thankful to God for another amazing day marked with success . I am not where I want to be yet , but i am better than I was yesterday. Thanks everyone for the suggestions and pointers. You really may not understand how much they meant to me.

Mr o.p please get a job that can keep you busy and your mind occupied (2) Get a girlfriend already (3) Go to church and join a working unit like Ushering DEPT..BY the time u get too busy, the devil won't find a way to ur mental faculty[/color]Mr o.p please get a job that can keep you busy and your mind occupied (2) Get a girlfriend already (3) Go to church and join a working unit like Ushering DEPT..BY the time u get too busy, the devil won't find a way to ur mental faculty

I can see you're making some progress. If you need further support please contact christlifeline@gmail.com

It can only get better.

Thanks everyone for the support and encouragement. You all are amazing. I am gradually feeling better and happy with my progress. I feel accountable to all of you and I wouldn't want to let you all down. I have resolved to do my part no matter what the odds are confident that God will assist me since it is my desire to please him once again. Let's continue looking out for each. happy weekend to you all .

Now I know that you (God)are able to do all thingsAnd that nothing you have in mind to do is impossible for you #Scripturalthoughtsfortheday. Job 42:2

loyallove:
Now I know that you (God)are able to do all thingsAnd that nothing you have in mind to do is impossible for you #Scripturalthoughtsfortheday. Job 42:2

Excellent scripture quote promise...and they're many, many more promises!

#Scripturalthougthfortheday Proverbs 3:5,6  Trust in God with all your heart,And do not rely on your own understanding.  In all your ways take notice of him,And he will make your paths straight. Don't fight it alone. Involve God and be faithful to him and to yourself. Thanks everyone. I am trying my best not to allow the spirit of complacency to creep in.

It has been a success story since 7 days ago when I made the decision to stop and think about my future. It has been God who keeps giving me the needed help to push on. I want to keep doing what I did this past days or even more in the days and weeks ahead . #scripturalthougthfortoday Proverbs 13:20 The one walking with the wise will become wise,But the one who has dealings with the stupid will fare badly

You are doing great, keep it up bro.

Good morning everyone. I hope we are doing well.

loyallove:
I am not in any relationship presently as I don't i intend to hurt anyone with my lifestyle. I am thinking of settling down as soon as I get over this. I am not acting naive but this is what I have been up to lately. I just have to accept it and fight it.

Find a good girl you like and strive to be a worthy husband for her and get married. You will be leaving your vice to keep someone you love happy, it might just work for you. Go get tasted for STDs though.

Thank you for those pointers.

Its been another week filled with success. All thanks to God who made it possible.

It can only get better. One lesson I have taken to heart is to pray for the strength to overcome my weaknesses rather than to give in and start asking for forgiveness.

I have come to see the hands of God in my life. It wouldn't have been possible without God. Thank you God and help me to fight on this year and the years to come. Thank you for not casting me off . Help those wandering and straying away from you to come back to you before it is too late.

loyallove:
I have come to see the hands of God in my life. It wouldn't have been possible without God. Thank you God and help me to fight on this year and the years to come. Thank you for not casting me off . Help those wandering and straying away from you to come back to you before it is too late.

Awesome brother...new year...Keep holding on to Him...

Guitarlife:


Now let me address ur response on a per line basis and please lets both reason together.

1---You said the passage was not refferring to sex per se ?

So pls answer these questions, what was it reffering to ?

2---What do you mean by companionship ?

Note that the bible was not written in english so you must address its words rather contextually and deeply therefore "companionship" here was not referring to talking or someone to gist with alone, biblical definition of companionship can be found in Ecclesiastes 4: 9 - 12. And notice it was not complete without the inclusion of lie together (which means sex).

3---Ofcourse , this sentence confirms my advise that he should go and marry, note the word "Man" and not "boy". If OP is a "Man" and not a "boy" then the bible itself just like you quoted has also advised him not to be alone saying it is not good.

Do you understand that passage at all ? The passage ended with "cling to his wife and become one flesh".

4---Re-read this sentence of yours and you will see that you are contracditing yourself. YOU first said that "it doesnt necessarily mean sex and then you said it means sex but its deeper : What should we believe?

5,6,7----- Are emotional statements aimed at appealing to sentiments. We all no that and getting married does not mean he is making it possible for himself to learn self control rather, he is positioning himself to be able to deal with all forms of sexual temptation.

Finally, recall that Peter also admonished every man to marry as a solution to sexual immorality (1st Corinthians 7:2)

"But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband"

Its important for you to acknowledge the power of sexual drive and stop spiritualising everything its like politicians who will always advise the masses to pray rather than stealing the money.

With all the prayers being said in Nigeria why is Germany a largely athiest country 200 times better than us in all forms of human indices ?

Its because we always attach deep spiritual meanings to things that require simple common sense.

A man is over 30years and is complaining of a strong sexual drive and you are advising him to be praying ?

So what will be the prayer point ? For God to take away his libido ?

Damnit Nigerians.

You are too intelligent Bro. your points are well articulated. Thank God we still have sensible Nigerians.
Nice one.

P. S: Check every thread about sleep paralysis and see the way Nigerians attach spiritual meaning to it. As you said, even things that just require common sense, you can trust Nigerians to attach spirituality to them.

In your word "Dammit"

God's word is alive and exerts power.

I doubt if you sincerely want to be free. If freedom is your desire, the easiest way out is to submit yourself for deliverance. You think you can be free by your will power. It is not possible because the spiritual controls the physical, so what is influencing you is a spirit being but a deliverance minister of God will cast that spirit from you via deliverance ministrations. You need therefore to submit yourself for deliverance.

Don't judge for you are not God. I may not tell you in details practical steps I have taken to win this battle. One of my favorite passage in the Bible is proverbs 3:5,6 "Trust in God and don't lean on your own understanding. In all your ways take notice of him and he will make your paths straight." Learn to be kind to everyone you see. Because everyone has a battle he is fighting.

princevinco:
I doubt if you sincerely want to be free. If freedom is your desire, the easiest way out is to submit yourself for deliverance. You think you can be free by your will power. It is not possible because the spiritual controls the physical, so what is influencing you is a spirit being but a deliverance minister of God will cast that spirit from you via deliverance ministrations. You need therefore to submit yourself for deliverance.