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Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by truthspeaks: 5:04pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Ok |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by trendyprettygir: 5:05pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
@ Op, before i believe this your post, can you give a practical direct example of how your wife has been lavish. Just one definite example please! |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by HARDDON: 5:06pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
this is simply a case of a guy saddle with family responsibilities but lack the necessary balls for same. if you hadnt realised, you are the head of the home. wake up and take control! you have no principles guilding your home nor a spending plan. that is why she can just wake up, feels the money is there and go berserk spending same. REMEDY: Go and buy the land and start building! when she know money is going into somewhere she would caution her self. besides, you caused all these 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by goingape: 5:10pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
overcomer123:this is what happens when you marry base on yansh and brea.st. to be honest! your wife will never change going by the way you move this situation. you are so soft and she is using that as an advantage. treat her with iron hand and show her that you are the man of the house not she if she what to spend lavishly let her use her own money. women nowadays are not to be treated like gold but rather them want you to treat them like a log of woods. close that door which you have open with force and see the outcome of it. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by maysimsimple(m): 5:10pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Exactly what I did with my Ex-wife. The next thing she did was Packed out all of my belongings back to her parents house.. Uncle no love I swear... ote author=Dfinex post=52490199]Bros u need to force the reality down her throat ooo, even if it means slashing the domestic expenses by two or three sef. stop buying food items in large quantity . if she needs money don't give her the full amount....create the impression that u are going broke so she can spend more of her money. at least if she wants to be extravagant let her be extravagant with her own money. by the time she goes broke with money coming from nowhere she will learn. I mean why would an adult be behaving like a baby when even kids are aware of the harsh economic realities........mtcheeew every body with him own wahala, make I face my front joor. [/quote] 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by arimahoseloka(m): 5:12pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
its simple give her a fixed monthly allocation on all household expenses and whatever. if she spends it anyhow. let her suffer for it. |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by Ayinke93(f): 5:13pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Had it been u guys were still dating, I'd have advised u not to marry her. Bur now that d did is done, make her understand that money is not meant to be lavished anyhow like she's one spoilt brat.. You both need to start saving towards your unborn children future and here she is spending on mundane things. Curb her incessant spending by making her live on budgets for the month. Give her her allowances monthly and make her understand that once she squanders everything, u don't have more to give her until the next month, I'm sure she knows the situation of the economy. If that doesn't still work, engage her in a heart to heart talk preferably in the middle of the night, telling her how hard u try to avoid her when making financial decisions..and everything u don't like abt her unnecessary spending. That she make her sober 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by Great6Pack(m): 5:15pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Alondra: Hopefully u are married dear. May your wisdom be a plus to your hubby 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by mu2sa2: 5:15pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Simple solution: Just do an estimate of your household weekly expenditure and give her the money. You have to give her the money because women generally resent men buying foodstuffs and other household necessaries for them. Believe me, if you really want to live with a spendthrift as wife you must put your foot down otherwise she will eventually cause you financial ruin. Unfortunate that you didn't discover this trait in her before tying the knot. But some women are masters of deception in a good sense: if you give them house keep money they will complain it's too small, yet will still find a way to keep away a little out of without letting you know. When you are broke and your wife is a clever woman like this, you are lucky because she will bring out money from nowhere as it were to lend you, but will tell you it's "adashi" money she's keeping for her 'contribution" group or that her sister or friend gave her the money for safe keeping. Pray, you have a wife like this to always bail you out when you hit the rock towards month end. |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by klassic(m): 5:17pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Currently thanking God. Cos I thought my wife had issues with spending cash I nor sabi say God use am bless me. If I give her 200k this month, she Will only spend on basics and manage the weekly cash I drop. Six months time when I need emergency cash, that money fit done reach 250-300k for me to borrow first cos she nor dey even spend the salaries I pay her. No unnecessary spending and I saw this as not being classy or trendy. As she will rather make her dress than buy and I love her to spend the money, buy some trendy outfit, some good stuff but one na lie. She go rather make couples dress for two and keep the change than buy same for some thousands. Anytime I give her cash, na me come even dey spend am again cos she will save it all over the house. I never really valued it until now. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by goke4all(m): 5:17pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Just start a capital project, build or buy properties, explain to her why you need to and even ask her for support financially. |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by JDGarta: 5:18pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
May GOD give you the wisdom/means to handle this critical habit, especially during recession! |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by Nobody: 5:18pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
This is serious |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by Anuoluwapo3054(m): 5:20pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Genea:Atle@st, you can suggest a possible solution... 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by Nobody: 5:21pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Seek an advice from a well to do, married Anambra man and your problems will be solved. Thank me later. |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by Somatic(m): 5:21pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Where do you work? If its possible, liase with your accounts people to separate your pay into two accounts. On one, tie her phone number to the account. It will depict transparency on your part and the realization of dwindling income lines will force her to readjust to present conditions or contribute her own quota to the family cake (I do not however subscribe to husbands requesting wives to take up financial obligations). |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by Genea(f): 5:22pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Anuoluwapo3054:sweetie, wish I cud |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by kaboninc(m): 5:22pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
overcomer123: I had a nasty debate on this very same issue with someone here.. .i think dealslip and another (not nasty though) with soonest. Since we are all equal, we should all contribute equally to every expense incurred at home irrespective of what you earn. Thing is, you just don't know who a woman really is until you both are settled. I'll suggest you continue to take the steps you've already taken.. .give her the much you think is okay and if she's not comfortable, she should either manage or add hers. Would have been really great if you had done this when you guys were dating. I can only hope she'll adjust. Only those who know what it means to grind under the sun to look for money so your loved ones would stay life (both men and women). 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by sekem: 5:23pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
You were making a lot of sense and i was even considering to give you the best advice which is to divorce your wife immediately... ... until you called MMM a scam! |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by goingape: 5:23pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Greatzeus:that won't work! probably she has one useless female friend who is advising her to not give a danm and keep telling her that he is spending his money on another person. when a womAn started having many female friends, that's how them slowly becomes useless. the only possible solution I see here is for him to use iron hand and threaten the hell out of her. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by VictorRomanov: 5:24pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Issues like this usually occur during the first year of marriage. That's why this period of marriage is very important and fragile. |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by ksbusari(m): 5:28pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
use God beg her. well, if she does that for the family then y crying out BT if she is the type DAT does not consider the family in her frivolous spending, sit her down and let her realise that she isn't the only one 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by jaz(m): 5:29pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Bro i surely can relate. Got a colleague who always buys and then consume 6 bottle water in the office. I told her the her future husband will have to sink a borehole only for her to say she doesn't drink borehole water only bottled and I be like where did the bottle water come from... heaven?? She believes if it isn't expensive it isn't good. Yet wonders why she has no bf till date buys only from shopping malls etc cos markets are not okay 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by Nobody: 5:29pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Stuff like this get me scared of marriage 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by Nobody: 5:30pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
overcomer123: Yea, you are the man of the house, that's why you have to grab your balls up and put your foot down, just be in charge, don't be sympathetic, she will understand later. My own opinion o. |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by Nobody: 5:31pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
jaz: Sometimes stuffs at shopping malls are cheaper than what is in the local market. |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by Nobody: 5:33pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Great6Pack:I'm not, Thanks all the same 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by Nobody: 5:33pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
kaboninc: The bolded scares me. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by guru03(m): 5:34pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
God bless my wife, who is prudent more than me, and very understanding when there is no money, the little that is available she makes judicious use of resources. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by DrogoG(m): 5:34pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
overcomer123: You see where I marked bold? That's the root of her behavior. The most common mistake some men make is that they use money to get a woman they want to marry. You can use money to get a woman for one night stand but NOT the one you hope to marry! When you use money to get a woman, you may not know if the woman is in the relationship for the money or not! And some women hardly go backwards in lifestyle. When you start spending a lot of money on her from the very beginning, that's the life style she will continue expecting in the relationship. When you stop spending, problem starts. Even if you're a billionaire NEVER start a relationship expensively if you really want a woman who will love you for who you're and not for the material stuff she stands to gain from you. Let the woman know the real you not your money. 9 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by Zedoo(m): 5:34pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Hard truth... .... She might start considering getting her lavish money elsewhere.... That being said....how much does SHE make/earn?? And is it your own money she throwing around.... Bros there is no way outa this. Ur bae is either a spoilt brat or a hopper who JUST settled with you for the tag of being married... You will have to endure dis one.... |
Re: My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here by sirp2007: 5:35pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
tis man said it all. 1 Like
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