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Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by Nancy2016: 9:43pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
chizzy4love: She needs to get a job and not wait for her husband to fund a business venture for her. He most likely wants her to be dependent on him so it's time she puts on her big girl pants and start thinking about her financial future. What if, God forbid, her husband lost his job, how will they sustain the family? Your sister is educated, she should put that to use instead of waiting for manna to fall from heaven. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by abouzaid: 9:44pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
chizzy4love:she doesn't want to hustle, life isn't a bed of roses, most of the big igbo clothing dealers started out with far less than 1.5million and are big boys today. 11 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by chizzy4love(f): 9:46pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
SirVintageCock:Dear,you have totally missed the point here.the man said the reason he married my sis was because they started dating when he dint have even one car.family wise we are richer but he has made money for himself now.My sister dated him for 9 years.she dint have proof of his cheating then.So you see,she dint plunge in Headon into problem,she just married the wrong guy. All these things I see is the reason I am being very careful before saying I do.I don't have strength for wahala.I am single now by choice not that I don't have suitors. 9 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by blackboy(m): 9:47pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
Do you want your nephew to know his daddy from a distance? Do you want your sister to jump when she has not been pushed? Leaving the house will justify him bringing in someone else.If they go to church let them go for marriage counselling. I'm not saying she should report him to the church. But she needs to let him know their marriage needs God or the devil will separate them.A marriage is about 2 ppl. Your sister needs to confront her husband in a loving and wise way and they need to talk If their talk don't change nothing let her get a third party involved. My advise don't let her run off 6 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by chizzy4love(f): 9:48pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
Nancy2016:You have a point.She and her husband initially wanted to finish having kids before she continues working but with what's on ground now.she has little choice. |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by Ishilove: 9:48pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
blazer234:^^ See one of them. You can see by how he is defending the cheating husband that they are a kindred spirit. 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by UIA04(f): 9:50pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
chizzy4love: You guys need to convince your dad that she needs him Now more than ever. You see why it is very dangerous to go against your parents wishes when it comes to choosing a husband, because thewhen yawa gass who will be your support? Temporary separation is the best b4 hee gives her hiv Geet 7 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by UIA04(f): 9:53pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
chizzy4love: You guys need to convince your dad that she needs him Now more than ever. You see why it is very dangerous to go against your parents wishes when it comes to choosing a husband, because thewhen yawa gass who will be your support? Temporary separation is the best b4 hee gives her hiv Get a lawyer to settle Out of court the sons upKeEp 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by chizzy4love(f): 9:55pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
blackboy:The worst is if she confronts him now,he will kneel down,beg ,cry as if he means it but at the end he will continue.thats the kind of guy he is.My sister said that was what he did during courtship but she forgave him because she dint have proof. My sister is older than me.what I intend to do is show her this page later on so that she can read people's responses. She had better suitor then coming for her then but she settled for the cheat because she believed they've come a long way.Such is life. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by ShaqFu: 9:57pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
Ishilove: |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by Ishilove: 9:58pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
SirVintageCock:Hi. Have I ever told you you have a most fascinating username? |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by Ishilove: 9:58pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
ShaqFu:Yels, darling? |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by rosalieene(f): 10:01pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
blazer234:Am sure you saw the part where she said her sister courted the man for 9 years... Does this ring a bell to you? What does it mean?. This is to tell u that she was with him through thick nd thin probably before he made it. 10 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by SirVintageCock: 10:02pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
Ishilove:nay ma'am. |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by ShaqFu: 10:04pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
Ishilove:Nothing. |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by Ishilove: 10:10pm On Feb 11, 2017 |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 2:01am On Feb 12, 2017 |
Then help her with your own money. Since you're single and don't have as much responsibility as she does. Hard times call for hard measures. Reduce your standard of living and she reduce hers too until she is settled down. I would do the same for my sister. Unless she wants to die of STDs and you'll use your plenty money to buy fine lace and gele for her funeral. chizzy4love: 25 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by Nobody: 4:08am On Feb 12, 2017 |
chizzy4love:She probably saw warning signs, but ignored them, made excuses for them or listened to his excuses. There r always warnings signs when someone cheats, it just depends on what u want to see or believe. If he cheated with 3 different girls before they got married, there were def signs. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by Fkforyou(m): 5:13am On Feb 12, 2017 |
I have a male cousin like that, he is way older than me and married, sometimes I just look at him and wonder what is wrong with him. He is never satisfied, he just have this uncontrollable desire for the opposite sex, sometimes I even wonder if he is cursed because some of the girls he lusts after, even I, won't look at them twice. Your sister should just dump him, she deserves better. But before she does that, she should stop investing her emotions on him and start seeing him as just a fvcking material when she is bored and her personal ATM machine till she is financially bouyant and then dump his ass out of the blue without giving him a heads up. 12 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by lotannad: 5:27am On Feb 12, 2017 |
chizzy4love:i hear u and all what u wrote are just excuses and signs of 'big girl' syndrome.what is 2.1?what is economics and statistics? i read maths&computer,graduated with 2.1 in 2007! so i know about all that.i think ur sis has 2 options,either d 1st one i said or she stays in d marriage,for now,she allows no sex btw them or insists she use condom.u can even help her with ur own money now.i just gave worst case scenario of teaching/clerical job but she doesnt hv to do dt.i still maintains dt 1.5m is enough to set up a biz.how did i know in my mind dt she was thinkin of a boutique/supermarket.women and stereotype!there r even enough of those.she shd think outside d box. 8 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by sisisioge: 5:59am On Feb 12, 2017 |
She should walk out of his life...But not without some cool cash. Let her invent a story to get him to cough out something on her way out. That dude is gonna be the death of her soon... 4 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by musabayokanu: 7:11am On Feb 12, 2017 |
chizzy4love: My dear since you have saved far more than 1.5m and you are still single. You can provide the needed capital, accommodate your sister in ur house, bring ur money and her 1.5m they set up a business and let your sister manage it, with that she will properly take care of her self and her child as she walk away from her marriage. Is unforgettable that instead of seeing what u can do no matter how difficult it might seem, u are bent on advising her to divorce, and after divorce you don't have plans to even support her financially. My advice is with all the plenty money u have as a single lady, u can use it to set up ur sister if u want her to leave her man. But if you feel u can't cater for her life after marriage leave her and always encourage her to pray for the man, I have seen chronic cheats change so her won't be an exception. 6 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by Eketem: 7:24am On Feb 12, 2017 |
I will rather drink Lead than advise you and your silly sister. This is just a whining post nothing else. She has 1.5 million, she is waiting for him to open a shop for her, she refused to do her masters and went to marry a cheat. If you won't listen to your sensible father in the first place is it us you abi your sister would listen too? Abeg swerve 34 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by Nobody: 7:39am On Feb 12, 2017 |
chizzy4love: Irony of life. Most marriages I know that were built out of sentiment never really did fare well. People should simply just follow reality and leave sentiments aside. That he supported you back then doesn't make him the right husband for you. That she was with you through thick and thin doesn't make her the right wife for you. Its better your heart is broken as a single man or woman than later when both have been joined as man & wife. 6 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by Nobody: 7:44am On Feb 12, 2017 |
chizzy4love: I will advice you to desist from responding to idio.tsss. Many here like to blame the victim than the offender. Imagine them fools asking a nursing mother to go get a job.I can tell you with all facts down on my table THAT MANY HOMES IN NIGERIA NOW ARE BEING HELD TOGETHER BY WIVES especially those with handwork !!!This recession presently just exposed a lot about how docile several male youths have become. Your sisters husband is a serial cheat,the issue here ain't about your sister's joblessness or not,but as usual idioots from the pit of hades want to blame your sister for being a nursing mother without a job.Foolish comments here just want to make me puke!! My advice is your sister to separate for now and call a family meeting. From your write up, it's obvious the husband is a careless cheat, he masters in getting every lady pregnant. Sorry to say,he is just a useless person. If I marry such a man(God forbid ),my prayer will be for him to die early enough for me to remarry again since my doctrine don't accept divorce. Take heart! 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by chizzy4love(f): 9:04am On Feb 12, 2017 |
LynnPetra:You totally understood my write up.Thanks As for people asking me to give her some of my money,even if I give her 2m to add to her 1.5, it still won't do because after setting up a business you still need to fund it with your reserve for about 2 to 3 more years before it stands firm.Many people are just commenting without even thinking. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by chizzy4love(f): 9:05am On Feb 12, 2017 |
Eketem:I don't blame you.I asked for mature comments not from a juvenile delinquent youth like you Next time it is "listen to not listen too".Thanks for your contribution anyway. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by chizzy4love(f): 9:10am On Feb 12, 2017 |
sisisioge: left for me,I don't even want her to wait anylonger |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by chizzy4love(f): 9:11am On Feb 12, 2017 |
Fkforyou:Your comment really got me laughing.Thanks all thesame. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by chizzy4love(f): 9:16am On Feb 12, 2017 |
musabayokanu:Giving out money has never been an issue but sustaining it a big issue.Even if I give her extra 2m and she invests,how will she sustain the biz for the next few years without external income and also sustain her life and the baby..If you know the core values of business,you will understand me.So,please think properly and deeply before you respond. |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by WomanOfRace(f): 12:14pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
I keep telling ladies, there is nothing like a chronic cheater will change after marriage, even if your body parts is made of gold or your character second to none. She saw the handwriting early enough to bow out but she didn't. Well, since l'm not in support of divorce ,I will tell her to get busy, protect herself, look clean and sexy enough to kill ( sexy but decent) when at home or out. Buy a carton of Durex and each time he wants to go out put like 3-5 of it in his wallet. When she chats in his presence, let her make sure she laugh out loud and hard enough to put concerned frown on his fore head, pretend you didn't notice but remain the good woman. Finally, God can do all things. From the write up, the man is unaware the wife knows of his escapades, they should talk about it. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Sister Is Married To The Most Chronic Cheat Ever. Please I Need Advice by musabayokanu: 12:58pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
chizzy4love: If you think giving a 2.1 graduate, who knows economic and statistics well 2m naira which is not a problem to you to add to her 1.5m making it 3.5m as a start up capital and you feel your sister who is a graduate of economic won't sustain it then hide her 2.1 and her being a graduate part of it. See at one time or the other we face challenges in life, all we do is take a step 5x5, readjust ourselves and move on. Being from middle family with all those exposure crap does not hold waters here. When you have small money, you cut your coat according to your size, but when you don't money to buy that coat, which ever one u have u cut it according to the available material. Middle class and all ur exposure in life keep it aside and forge on. If na self contained she can rent, if na simple cheap one bedroom flat she can also rent. Knowing too well that she wants to pick up her life again. Spare us some details in all this ur bug girl talk, u call someone earning 150k a month in her previous job a well paid job?? Smh Bottom line is if you want her quit her husband, be ready to fix and stop all this big girl talk. When you marry you will realise how difficult it is to quit ur matrimonial home......I'm sure you are Igbo and u know is a big Haram in Igbo land according to my igbo friends 24 Likes |
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