DON'T BE CONFUSED

I'm aware that some people are are getting confused over my post: "GOOD MEN ARE POOR!", please, don't be.

A young banker sent me a message about picking the right partner. She would have started with a man who had no job or nothing but the men showing interest in her look accomplished. I told her to go for the working class man if that is God's will for her. As a working class lady, it's better she goes for a working class man who sees her as a friend, a pal and someone he can rob minds with.

When I say you should not go for a ready-made man, what I mean is, don't go for a man who doesn't NEED you. He has achieved everything he wants in life and there is no room for your contribution whatsoever except sex, kids and the kitchen! That type of marriage won't work! A man who puts you only in the house and gives you all the money you need is not a husband, he is just a property accumulator! You mean absolute nothing to him! Poverty is terrible! Some ladies are so poverty stricken, they think all they need in marriage is money. I wish it is so but years of neglect and sorrow of many women married to such men has forced me to pen this down. You need love woman! A time comes in your life you get sick and tired of the big house, cars, jewelries, properties, etc and long for deep love, intimacy, affection and respect from your man.

When I say good men are poor, I do not mean they must wallow in poverty. I do not mean, they have no job and are dependent on the lady for survival. A man can earn 200k per month, has two cars, lives in a 5 bedroom flat and still be struggling! I'm talking about men who have vision far bigger than them and they need the imput of their wives to accomplish them. For instance, if his dream is to own a business conglomerate or the chancellor of several universities across the country, earning 200k and riding a car is a far cry from where he should be. That man is still "poor" and struggling. He needs your encouragement, support, prayers, motivation and strong belief to reach that dream.

I am not propagating poverty and asking ladies to say yes to only the no-job brothers. If that is God's will for you, go right ahead with it. I am rather encouraging you to allow God lead you and be ready to add to your man's life. That is how to earn his love, respect, admiration and honour in marriage. Remember father Abraham, Barack Obama, Bishop Oyedepo, Pastor Adeboye, Dr. Ben Carson, Fela Durotoye, Pastor Sam Adeyemi, Pastor Taiwo Odukoya, Bishop Felix-Adejumo, Bill Gates, etc. These men were nothing when there wives met them. The women accepted them just the way they were. Agreed with God to marry them, believed in them, stood by them and encouraged them till they became international super stars.
Remember, behind every great man is a virtous woman, be that woman and the world will bow at your feet. God bless you, cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
www.aseunoladele..com

Great piece here..but I Don't blame the ladies that go for ready-made men, do remember, some men are ungrateful. once they achieved all they want with the help of their wife, they see her as useless, one who doesn't befit their current status. Then they engage in all sort of infidelities, and probably bring home a second or third wife. On the wife's part, she must not complain, else, she get sent out of her matrimonial home. Hence, her search for another husband continues, this time, at a great disadvantage to her