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Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by wasolad01: 8:59am On Mar 29, 2017 |
Alariwo2: Shawlambivert: It's ridiculous people are saying it is permissible in Islam. If Hausas do it doesn't mean it is Islamic. We should learn more on the differences between culture and religion. @kratoss please prove me wrong because your own Islam might be different from mine. Read below verses from the Quran. From my understanding, sexual affairs with blood relations are forbidden. 4:22. And marry not those women whom your fathers had married, except what had already passed (- you shall not be called to account for what you did in the past, only you have to divorce them now); for it is a thing highly indecent and repugnant and an evil practice. 4:23. Forbidden to you (for marriage) are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your paternal aunts, and your maternal aunts, and the daughters of a brother, and the daughters of a sister, and your (foster) mothers who have given suck to you, and your foster sisters, and the mothers of your wives, and your stepdaughters who are being brought up under your care and have been born of your wives (by their former husbands,) unto whom you have gone in, but if you have not gone in unto them (- their mothers), then there is no blame on you (in marrying their daughters), and the wives of your sons who are from your own loins; and (it is forbidden to you) to keep in wedlock two sisters (at one and the same time), except what has already passed, (you have to divorce one of them). Surely, Allâh is Most Protector (against faults), Ever Merciful. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by Nobody: 9:03am On Mar 29, 2017 |
Hmmm |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by barcaboi(m): 9:23am On Mar 29, 2017 |
MIB1:curses feed on ur fears.....when u have Jesus and the prophets and above all God...what else do u want....love d poor girl and make her happy...she deserves kudos 4 opening up |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by DaWaymaker(m): 9:25am On Mar 29, 2017 |
Majikals: You are a wise man! |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by whizcartel(m): 9:29am On Mar 29, 2017 |
And you bring your problem come NL. SMH. GO TALK TO A RELATIONSHIP EXPERT INSTEAD. |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by moyarhtohbadt(f): 9:38am On Mar 29, 2017 |
MIB1:She talks too much! That info was quite unnecessary. Immediately u become born again, you are free. As long as she has been forgiven by God and washed of the blood, no curse will stand my dear. Its all gone. Pretend like it didn't happen and go on with the plans.. Its really nothing. |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by peter0071(m): 9:43am On Mar 29, 2017 |
MIB1:U need resetting..... i dont get you. She confined in you and ou decided to bring it on this platform?? thats a break of trust. would you have prefered that she kept it secret from you? stop acting!!! either you continue with the relationship or you move on.... |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by wolverine1987: 9:48am On Mar 29, 2017 |
For the incest part I think its based on cultures there r cultures that encourage marriage btw cousins especially the hausa fulanis its nt unheard of for cousins to marry. Back to forgiveness if u see urself not being to forget abt it in d future then have a rethink about the marriage so u don't hold it over her wen u get married n keep rubbing it in her face wen any little misunderstanding happens. Well d decision is urs |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by Gwazah(m): 9:49am On Mar 29, 2017 |
MIB1:This is the prb we are having this days, confess and be rejected, concede and be honored. u have to remove that bad feelings out of ur mind and move on with her, if u back off now, u have ruins her whole world. She trusted u before revealing her self to u not to be judge, but she wanted her conscience to be clean. Pls note that if people's past can be writing on their faces u won't be shaking hands with anyone. She is still better than those that murdered and keep mute. |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by Themandator: 9:49am On Mar 29, 2017 |
Acidosis: How many times did she do it with the cousin ...of it is a one off thing that happened six years ago and she has been seeing that cousin without having a tumble in the hays then there inothimg to really worry from the end of the cousin. |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by bofow(m): 10:11am On Mar 29, 2017 |
Old things have passed away. If you want her you can move on from that |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by dskenky(m): 10:13am On Mar 29, 2017 |
Please i would advise you to pray well sir...dont resopnd to spiritual experiences with physical answers o. You asked about the spiritual implications abi...? Well, in my own opinion, kindly seek spiritual counsel o. Please do the needful before you are joined. |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by dexaint: 10:14am On Mar 29, 2017 |
Ask the Holy spirit heal your heart. She has prayed to God and she knows God has forgiven her. It is good she told you now before you found out later. The bible says Adam and Eve were both naked and were not ashamed. There should be no secret kept from you will be your spouse. If the person is meant to be your spouse, he or she will take you no matter how bad or worst your past may be. The bible says in 2Cor. 5:17 ....... old things are passed away and all becomes new. Let your love for her covers everything and allow the Holy spirit fill your heart with unconditional love. I'm sure she you can trust her and she will not hide anything from you till you both see Jesus. That is what love is. |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by kratoss(m): 10:14am On Mar 29, 2017 |
wasolad01: You quoted the quran and yet you fail to read and understand what is forbidden,... Can you please show me where it is stated that the kids of two brothers (first cousins) cannot get married from what you quoted from the quran above Go and add to ur knowledge please it is permissible in islam not hausa cuz m not even hausa... Maybe u dnt understand we are talking abt cousins not just any relative of urs... . |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by profbabatunde: 10:15am On Mar 29, 2017 |
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Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by rinzylee(m): 10:16am On Mar 29, 2017 |
Deliverance is 50% Repentance.... Repentance starts the moment we come to terms with our wrongs and acknowledge the sin, then we go ahead and confess the said sin to God and Man where man is involved, then ask for forgiveness. We are clean as Christ the moment this is done genuinely..... However repentance is not real if we make a habit of the same sin, there should be discipline to desist and live Holy unto God. She has confessed, sought forgiveness, repented and I believe has also cut ties with the said cousin. Apart from the fact that she may need to consciously break any covenant that illicit sex, incest in this case has got her into because sexual sins open people up to demons, she is free and good to be married However, OP... I am a man, I am born again, I am human, I have emotions, if you can't bear it, please back out peacefully but protect her image. After the "I do's " are said, you are bound by God and His word to stay married. You are free to express your emotions which include sadness, anger, worry, etc now and take your decisions without duress or pity. If you want to go ahead and Marry, do so because you love her and have forgiven her and not because Nairalanders urged you to. Take time out, postpone the wedding, nobody will die, go and seek God's Face on the matter, ask Him to help you, talk to Him like your " GUY " tell Him how you feel and how you are confused, don't act Macho for Him. Call wife to be and ask her to go spend some time alone with God too and tell Him her heart and please ask her to tell you any other secret she thinks you should know otherwise let it remain buried till death. By the way, I hope you guys have not been having sex.... God help you my brother..... It will end in praise! |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by Came: 10:22am On Mar 29, 2017 |
Which time the thing happen, na when dem small abi na when dem don grow sabi something ? If na when dem don grow sabi something, me i go run oooooo... |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by profmallor: 10:34am On Mar 29, 2017 |
That she opened up by herself risking ending the relationship, she is a gem, Please keep her. But i wont suggest you sweet it under the carpet. Try to discuss with a deliverance minister, infact if you dont mind my advise, find your way to MFM prayer city, I believe if you get it right straight from the onset, your marriage would be bed of roses. If you dont there might be more to this than just incest |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by Omoluabi16(m): 11:07am On Mar 29, 2017 |
whizqueen:lol. you've been busy these days abi..I hope you are fine? |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by patonyx1: 11:22am On Mar 29, 2017 |
You will Bros. With time you'll find it in your heart to forgive the cousin. Hence you'll be able to forgive your Fiancee. Try to build a good heart towards them and watch things work out well by God's mercy without any negative impact. God be with you. MIB1: |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by KissCODE(m): 11:36am On Mar 29, 2017 |
MIB1:You be mumu... I am sorry to say this or call you this names... What rubbish? Tell us how many times you have had sex with some of your beautiful cousins in your imagination. Or you think that is not incestuous? gerrrraaaaaat aaaaaarrrrrraaaat heerrrreeee biko... |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by enomakos(m): 12:14pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
MIB1:it was a cousin not her father or brother,just see the dude as one of her ex |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by enomakos(m): 12:16pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
last35:which curse?did she sleep with her dad? |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by enomakos(m): 12:21pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
t111:which spiritual implication? |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by enomakos(m): 12:31pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
Skimpledawg:pass her number to me,i will help you give her the sex she really need |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by sanpipita(m): 1:14pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
MIB1: I don't understand why you are pained that your fiancée has incest years back probably before she met you, really you are not appreciating her honesty by doing this, have you confessed to her your baggages too? |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by objobj: 1:19pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
wasolad01: why are you trying to turn Islamic doctrine differently? Point out where "cousin" is mentioned in the verse you mentioned above? Pls check the dictionary ( lexical ) meaning of the word "Counsin". why did you attribute this Hausa tradition? Pls Islam encourages knowledge so try to know. |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by ultron(m): 1:25pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
well like someone mentioned above ...its just this part of the world that such tinz are prohibited... as for the spiritual side.. cant say much,she has confused to her maker and you...so go ahead.... even the great EINSTEIN who we all know...broke up with his wife....and later married his COUSIN... |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by brendan007: 1:30pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
Op, Shey after you don use am finish you wan dump am. Who you wan leave her for? Better marry her o otherwise..... anyways your thunder still de laboratory just in case
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Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by t111(m): 1:30pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
enomakos: Sorry sir been very busy and I wish I can. Shade more light on the implications now but I want you to read tru the book of Leviticua...e.g Leviticus 20:19-21 “it is well sir and God would take perfect control. And you can also write me a mail omotolanifalana@gmail.com..then we can talk more and I might be of help sir.. |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by xtervaganza(m): 1:46pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
MIB1:but you believe in the bullshit story that said flooded everyone on earth except noah and his family who went on incest spree |
Re: My Fiancée Had An Incest Relationship With Her Cousin Years Back, I'm Devastated by PeacenLove2: 2:22pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
There are cultures...., some religions ... OP, please does her culture and or religion permit such relationships? I don't know what age she was, what led her to it but from your explanations, she regrets it, she even fasted and prayed about it. There is no doubt here people crossed the line but the good thing is there is guilt and remorse. What can we say, if you love her and you know she is a good woman, go ahead and marry her. Don't let her past choice of men get in your way of happiness. Don't take it too seriously. Life is too short for that. All the best! |
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