please i have a lady i intending marrying for the fact that she had a son for me and i do not want to be polygamous but i have a problem with her, she does not like sex,i tried to teach her but she insist she cant cope with such life, i bought related flims but she either threw them off. Am confused, i even went to her pastor no changes.she wont allow me to touch her private part, she does not like kiss.But she is good in domestic work,cooks well, can manage very well,she hates being lazy and she is 60% caring to me. HER SEX LIFE IS SOMETHING EVERY MAN WILL HATE.now she wants me to go and pay her bride price.please if you have good advice i need it or email me at evanvick@yahoo.co.uk

From your assertion, she seems a good and homely lady, but the sex part, I think you need to have some patience with her and with GRADUAL DESENSITIZATION, she will overcome the fear of sex over time.

Just be patience and maybe visit a psychologist for some help.

Hope this help.

She dosnt allow u touch her private? Hw d hell did u get her pregnant outside wedlock 4 that matter?She dose not sound like she knows what she wants. I once had a girl like dis, she claims she was raped and did allow me 2 touch her. Wel i like sex and she didnt so i left her a guy who wont like sex and went 4 a lady who liked d art of love making. Think b4 u act otherwise she wil make d rest of ur life miserable

Because she doesnt want to have sex makes you question her love for you?

lol egbin buruku

IF i may ask again, U said she had a son for U, of course both of u must have made love to have produced a son and now she doesn't want that same sex U people had earlier. I guess there is something wrong somewhere. unsolicited advise, try make her realise what is marriage, but if she doesn't want to reason with u, then suspend the marriage for now to see what comes out her.

have you ever spoken to her about this issue?
Have you tried gentle persuasion and romancing the lady, u sound like u want to impose your sexual needs on her, pray tell how you managed to knock her up?

I smell the drug called Rohypnol.

honestly if u marry her the marriage will pack up cos i dnt tink u can cope so try dialogue,tell her how u feel,just make sure ur sexual needs aren't outrageous cos seriously some guyz like turnin their girls 2 sex slaves.

i want to thank you all for your contributions.am a not a sex maniac. if i may ask making luv to a woman you have at home twice a week is it much? am caged. we have been together at home for over 10yrs.i made her understand the marriage cannot work out but still she dont want to understand.there was even a time i was beating her to leave but still noway. am confused. do you think voilence will solve this case please drop your advice for me

Violence will never solve the matter. Please don't do that, you may regret it with most of your life.

first of all never beat a woman second it's obvious she doesnt want to have sex not becuz she,s frigid but cuz she,s got a kidfor you and still u guys aint married.sounds like she wants the proper marriage not some baby moma relationship .

i want to thank u all for the second time,u have all sugested but i do not know some one else might fall victim of this oneday but i want to ship in onething here which i want the ladies to contribute.she is circumcised.is it true that when women are circumcised they dont have feelings for sex?

@ onoerime

im not too sure. some sources i have seen say that female genital mutilation (circumcision) takes away the joy of sex to a woman, but at other sites they say women with even the most sever forms of it can have orgasms.

then when the joy is out, the urge also is also out

I think she is a Lesbian 100% fact

Same problem with my gf. Dnt like sex, dnt like kissing. Thats having a lesbianism orientation.

eyoniggar:

Same problem with my gf. Dnt like sex, dnt like kissing. Thats having a lesbianism orientation.

Maybe she doesn't like the way you do it, but doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you.

Ask how she felt when both of yu 'dunnit'.
She wasn't cry then was she?

i dont think it has to do with the way i made luv to her.the one thing is that before her, i have dated other girls whenever i make luv to them, they come for more. in the term of making luv i know am good. one friend told me that it was because she was circumcised that any woman circumcirsed do not have urge for sex. i was expecting the ladies to react to this. so many things, she said making luv during the day can cause a woman giving birth to an abino.so the issue of even making luv in the day is erased. AM CONFUSED

Godmother:

Maybe she doesn't like the way you do it, but doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you.

God mother, I have had 21 girlfriends in my whole entire life and none of them can complain of my sexual abilities.

My girl tells me anything be it hurting my feelings or not. She finished from all girls school, so she has that lesbian orientation, infact she told me the name of her partner while in secondary school then.

Until now, she cries whenever i insert my sim card, crying of pain and all that, she said it is only when the time is right will she "herself" set her mind on having penetrative pleasure, only enjoys her booobz being suc.ked and clits being fingered till she cums. And once she cums she does not want to be touched, otherwise it feels like she's being molested, never come across a girl like this b4. But I love her.

:osexnophobia How come she had a son for you? You better be sure that child is yours.

dats my son blood test was carried out,and dats my pictures

How am I supposed to know?