Ashleydolls:
don't be so sure

sugarbelly:
Remember the story of a lady, who went on social media, to cry out that her bestie, has snatched her man, she wanted to marry. Well, her bestie finally married her man and the man in question, has come out to defend his actions. According to him, he said he wanted the best and nothing more. Read the full story below and also the previous gist


Source: http://www.latestamebonaija.com/2017/03/remember-story-of-lady-who-went-on.html

Ashleydolls:
I'm wondering how he got to know the woman has all those qualities...hmmmmm..Ladies will never learn. You know you have a single friend that is better than you in terms of looks, attitude, bedmatics and what have we and yet you allow her have a good relationship with your partner. It starts from calling him uncle and before you say Jack, they exchange numbers and they're already talking on phone and dating. Ladies out there are desperate, if you find a good partner, keep him alone to yourself, stop telling your friends about him, stop allowing them to meddle in your affair. It's takes two to make a relationship, remember three is a crowd. Keep your relationship private and away from your friends. B*tches ain't loyal.

moorme:


Nice words @ashley!

kowema:


Bless u . I don't even keep such friends

Lewandoski20:

You go marry angel Gabriel be that... Because most men are not disciplined. You only need to take a look at how they comment here to confirm what I just said!

Olami90:
so the man would have marry the former fiancee if he had not met the friend(through her) he married now?? knowing fully well the former fiance is full of flaws he isn't comfortable with, but wanted to marry her.
#ConfusedMan

That's how people ignorantly get themselves into a terrible marriage with their eyes widely opened to red flags

kowema:


I am never for this school of thought and would never be.
Why do I have to keep my friends away from him if he doesn't have to keep his friends away from me.
Any man I have to Isolate from my friends for watever reasons never mine.
If he chooses my friend over me finally I will walk away no fighting. It will pain me that I had to be used to bring dem together but I will never stop being positive.
All relationships must not end in marriage.!

kowema:


I am never for this school of thought and would never be.
Why do I have to keep my friends away from him if he doesn't have to keep his friends away from me.
Any man I have to Isolate from my friends for watever reasons never mine.
If he chooses my friend over me finally I will walk away no fighting. It will pain me that I had to be used to bring dem together but I will never stop being positive.
All relationships must not end in marriage.!

pocohantas:

Don't pack him along, just detach his dick. You know it's detachable nah

kowema:


I am never for this school of thought and would never be.
Why do I have to keep my friends away from him if he doesn't have to keep his friends away from me.
Any man I have to Isolate from my friends for watever reasons never mine.
If he chooses my friend over me finally I will walk away no fighting. It will pain me that I had to be used to bring dem together but I will never stop being positive.
All relationships must not end in marriage.!

Lordkylie:
spot on dear I have never subscribed and never will to that school of thought. I mean why keep these so called boyfriend "snatchers" as friends in the first place? I'd rather not have friends than have backstabbing biatches as friends and continually hide everything good in my life from them before they destroy it.

Arsenalholic:
There's nothing like "snatching". It's called overtaking. The other lady was driving a 1986 beetle and someone else came along with a Range Rover sport...

Werrinyouexpect?

Apina:

The truth will always sound like hate to those who hate the truth. The reason why u feel this way is because u are not a man and thus cannot understand fully what it takes to be in our position. From experience I can only advice u not to allow your friends become so comfortable with your man cos when e happen na soliloquy for u o.

lovelygurl:


Sry but what you are saying is not making sense. So because of you being a man, you have no control of anything in your life therefore can be easily manipulated like a dog?

Apina:

Lol...... Manipulate gini.. So attraction is now equal manipulation? Or u are saying one cannot go for that which they feel is better than what they have? I have a beetle and someone presents a Porsche to me for free, would u expect me to stick with the beetle? In this case it's simply a makeshift sort of relationship which could be on mutual or non mutual ground terminated. Your said boyfriend has the right to move on with whomever he chooses cos he owes u nothing and not cos he was manipulated by anyone. You either know this for a fact or u are just plain dumb. I don't expect to make sense to everyone, common sense they say isn't common in the first place and what I said is commonsensical.

Arsenalholic:
There's nothing like "snatching". It's called overtaking. The other lady was driving a 1986 beetle and someone else came along with a Range Rover sport...

Werrinyouexpect?

lovelygurl:



Oh I know common sense is not that common, you are actually proving me right. Nobody was asking you of the crap you wrote up there.

The fact that you think the girl you quoted is wrong because she's not a man is what we are talking about. Being a man is NOT an excuse or whatsoever. She said that she wouldn't hide her man from her friends and you were saying blablabla men think differently, that's why they should be hidden? Or what were you trying to prove with that post.
Nobody is talking about owing sth and nobody is saying ending the relationship is bad blablabl, so stop twisting things. Advising friends not to get close to your man? loooool.

Manipulation in this case means, if you don't know what you want then you can be easily manipulated.

For example
A man does not know which party to support.

His friend, Mr A tells him to support Mr O and gives him some reasons why he should. The man being his stupid self didn't think with his own brain to know if Mr A is right. It sounded right so it must be

He visits his other friend Mr B, who is a supporter of Mr P therefore convinces him to support Mr P. Now he feels that Mr B is right, still not using his own brain to think of what HE wants

Mr O and Mr P are the ladies. Mr A and Mr B are the characteristics, appearance etc which lead to an inner conflict.
Why should it be the ladies fault because the guy doesn't know what he wants and can't decide on what to choose. Why should the ladies WORRY about HIS stupidity and childishness. If he is a MAN NOT a boy, he'll know EXACTLY what he wants and go for it!

Advising girls to not let their friends get close to their man is so stupid! If he wants to cheat on you and hurt you, he will! He'll find his ways and this is not the girl's fault for not protecting him like an OBJECT that shouldn't be stolen from. He has his own mind, did it on purpose, it proves he is not yours. Don't blame yourself, don't be bitter, just move on. The right 1 is waiting for you and he'll be a keeper



Kapiert?

HaneefahRN:
On top this old cargo.
Well, money must be involved.
I hope the old man won't regret and take back all his yeye praises when he sees the 'so called friend's true color.

sugarbelly:
Remember the story of a lady, who went on social media, to cry out that her bestie, has snatched her man, she wanted to marry. Well, her bestie finally married her man and the man in question, has come out to defend his actions. According to him, he said he wanted the best and nothing more. Read the full story below and also the previous gist


Source: http://www.latestamebonaija.com/2017/03/remember-story-of-lady-who-went-on.html

Apina:



Manipulation in this case means, if you don't know what you want then you can be easily manipulated.
WHAT DOES MANIPULATION MEAN?

A man does not know which party to support.

His friend, Mr A tells him to support Mr O and gives him some reasons why he should. The man being his stupid self didn't think with his own brain to know if Mr A is right. It sounded right so it must be

He visits his other friend Mr B, who is a supporter of Mr P therefore convinces him to support Mr P. Now he feels that Mr B is right, still not using his own brain to think of what HE wants
FLAWED LOGIC. SEEKING OTHER PEOPLES OPINION AS TO A PARTICULAR SUBJECT REQUIRES THE USE OF THE BRAIN, COS IT FIRST MUST BE THOUGHT OF. IT ISNT MANIPULATION BUT SEEKING OPINION

Advising girls to not let their friends get close to their man is so stupid! If he wants to cheat on you and hurt you, he will! He'll find his ways and this is not the girl's fault for not protecting him like an OBJECT that shouldn't be stolen from. He has his own mind, did it on purpose, it proves he is not yours. Don't blame yourself, don't be bitter, just move on. The right 1 is waiting for you and he'll be a keeper.
IF YOU READ WHAT I EARLIER SAID, I WAS SO CAREFUL AS TO USE THE THESE WORDS “NOT SO COMFORTABLE” WHEN I SPOKE ABOUT THE LEVEL OF ACQUAINTANCE BETWEEN THE BF AND THE FRIENDS COS I KNOW SOME PEEPS LIKE YOURSELF WOULD BE SO QUICK TO JUMP TO CONCLUSION WITHOUT READING THROUGH AND SEEING IT FROM MY PERSPECTIVE. JUST TO BE CLEAR, I NEVER SAID ALLOWING YOUR FRIENDS TO BE CLOSE TO YOUR MAN IS BAD AS YOU ARE OPINING THAT I DID. BUT GIVING ROOM FOR THAT LEVEL OF COMFORT THAT EXISTS BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR MAN TO EXIST BETWEEN HIM AND YOUR FRIENDS IS WHAT I ADVISED AGAINST, WHICH IS ACTUALLY WHAT I BELIEVE TO BE THE ROOT OF WHAT HAPPENED TO THE AFFECTED LADY.

Apina:

The truth will always sound like hate to those who hate the truth. The reason why u feel this way is because u are not a man and thus cannot understand fully what it takes to be in our position. From experience I can only advice u not to allow your friends become so comfortable with your man cos when e happen na soliloquy for u o.

kowema:


I am never for this school of thought and would never be.
Why do I have to keep my friends away from him if he doesn't have to keep his friends away from me.
Any man I have to Isolate from my friends for watever reasons never mine.
If he chooses my friend over me finally I will walk away no fighting. It will pain me that I had to be used to bring dem together but I will never stop being positive.
All relationships must not end in marriage.!

lovelygurl:



I wouldn't say the logic is flawed, more like your brain is since you can't comprehend what I wrote. I said Mr A and Mr B represent the CHARACTERISTICS, APPEARANCE etc of Mr P and Mr O who are in this case the ladies.

To what you said earlier



You did NOT say 'not so comfortable'. Unlike you I have some health brains cells, you know. What you said is 'NOT allow your FRIENDS become comfortable..... 'Two different meanings. It seems you like twisting words.



About the definition of manipulation. The fact that I wasting my precious time by replying you and also unfortunately losing some healthy brain cells does not mean I am ready to be your google or dictionary

Apina:

Looool...... Healthy brain cells? Joke of the century. I know what manipulation means but I don't think you do cos if that were to be the case, u wouldn't have created a very faulty scenario which entails conviction as a result of perceived doubt in making a decision and like u did by the example u gave, shortchange it for manipulation. Trying to fault my use of not comfortable with your friends and not so comfortable only goes to show how shallow you could be in your understanding since you couldn't fault the intention and emphasis for which it was said in the first place. You don't need to be my dictionary or google but if u were intelligent as you are trying so hard to prove, you would know that clarification of concept is of utmost importance and gives credence to whatever example or impression one aims to create in a given discuss.

lovelygurl :



Still talking rubbish I see. This is getting tiring. Someone who can be convinced easily can also be manipulated easily. About your comfortable stuff, you wrote it up there, I quoted it for you. Two different meanings. I never said i was intelligent, you are just too dumb