VIRGINS AND MASTURBATION

I get lots of questions on masturbation most especially from ladies -yes, ladies masturbate a lot, especially virgins. Guys also masturbate. There is no debate on that. I'm not here to argue about who masturbates most, I need to deal with a serious issue.

Sexual urge for virgins is strong. What makes it stronger is the novelty, newness, the mystery and the hear says about sex.

Masturbation is handling your genitals consistently to achieve orgasm. Ladies may stroke their clitoris while guys rub, massage or caress their penis. I decided to give explicit explanation because some ask me what masturbation is. Some ladies especiallly non-virgins use candles, banana, small bottles, sticks, dildos or whatever represents a penis and do solo sex (having sex by yourself).

From teenage upward, you will have a strong desire for sex. It's a sure sign you are normal and capable of having and enjoying sex in marriage. In your 20s it will be stronger and intense! You may wake up feeling Hot for no single reason in the world or go hot on spotting a curvy lady! You may start noticing shapes and curves and you have to shake your head several times to keep the image off. You may get worked up on watching a romantic movie and discharge something. You check up and discover you are wet. All these are normal, you haven't committed any sin.

So what then do you do when you get hot and Hot? Have sex? I know you know my answer and some singles will never be caught dead sleeping around, so what do they do? They masturbate! They give themselves release and pleasure through solo sex while claiming virginity at theseame time. Masturbation is completely wrong and not the way out. Let me explain:

1. Masturabation is not done in isolation. It is done with the image of someone in mind. It can be a lover, an EX, a celebrity, a married person, a crush, someone you like but incapable of having. You imagine having sex with them while masturbating. That is MENTAL FORNICATION

2. For ladies, while inserting all manner of objects, you may mistakenly deflower yourself and also introduce infection into your genitals and womb. It will be very difficult to convince your future partner that you never had sex with man except objects during your solo sex.

3. You kill your ability to enjoy sex in future. Millions of women don't enjoy sex in marriage which leads to sexual frustration, adultery, lesbianism and feminism. If you are used to getting orgasm by yourself, you won't be able to get it from your husband. If you are used to objects in your private part, you won't have feelings for your husband's penis. You will always think of something harder, bigger, longer, larger and completely unrealistic! Women who complain their husbands' penis are too small didn't marry as virgins. They must have been promiscous as singles.

4. You will not have a good sex life as a man. You will experience pre-mature ejaculation and your wife won't enjoy you leading to acute sexual frustration in marriage. You need self control to fully enjoy sex and give your wife maximum sexual pleasure. A woman enjoys sex when the man can go on for at least 7 minutes before ejaculating. Because you are used to instant release from masturbation, you may not be able to go more than a minute before exploding leaving your wife completely unsatisfied and frustrated. She may close up, become frigid and stop having sex altogether which may lead to you having an affair, she having an affair or both of you having an affair. Self control before marriage helps you enjoy sex to the maximum. You are able to delay ejaculation, go on for a long time and have excellent orgasm while giving your wife pleasure too. That is why total virginity pays!

5. If you do not suffer premature ejaculation, you may have serious problem with delayed/ retarded ejaculation. A situation where you get erection for several hours without ejaculation or orgasm. What is the benefit of sex without orgasm? Rough masturbation with your hands kills your ability to feel/enjoy sex with your wife. It is hell for a woman to be under a man who thrusts in for hours unable to ejaculate. How will the woman get pregnant? It's the reason some women are seemingly "barren" and can't talk to anybody out of embarrassment. Thrusting hard for so long leaves the woman sore, frustrated and hating sex altogether. You have so much to lose sexually when you masturbate. Abstaining from this degrading act helps you feel relaxed, confident, have normal sexual intercourse and enjoy the pleasures that comes with sex IN MARRIAGE!

6. You start having sex in the dream with a known or unknown person (demonic entities other wise known as spiritual spouse).

7. You feel drained, dirty, empty, useless and powerless after each act.

8. You start getting unsatisfied and wants the real thing. You fantasize more about sex and start longing for the real act.

9. You get a warped view of the opposite sex. You see them as sexual objects and start having sex with anything in skirt or trousers -you become promiscous.

10. You get damaged, hurt and broken.

11. You are at risk of hell fire!

These and more are the consequences of masturbation. They damage you and shatter you to pieces! What then should you do with your sexual urge? How do you handle the constant hunger for sex?

1. Avoid all dirty pictures, pornography videos, pictures and hot, romantic movies -they are powerful sexual triggers!

2. Avoid friends who say dirty,lewd and obscene things. Stop all sexy banters with friends and say only things that are pure, holy, needful and helpful.

3. Get busy with your life, education and career, there is more to life than sex.

4. Transmute your sexual energy: Channel your sexual energy into something great. I had a strong sex drive in the institution. I simply channelled them into my education making me the best student in my department from the second year. I was very excited and energetic. I burnt the energy on my studies. I also started my ministry and was very committed as my fellowship bible study co-ordinator. If you don't burn that energy, you will have sex.

5. Study the word a lot especially Psalm 119. When you are filled with the word, you have no space for the devil and his demons in your heart.

6. Pray and speak in tongues always. It sanctifies you.

7. Make friends with godly people.

8. Avoid pornography and romantic movies.

9. Get busy in kingdom service.

10. Give your life to Jesus if you are not born again. He will surely help you out.

Masturbation is wrong, bad, demonic, destructive and sinful. Avoid it and end it with speed if you are deeply involved in it. Jesus can help you. Call on him! God bless you.
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
www.askseunoladele..com

VIRGINS AND MASTURBATION...
NON VIRGINS AND FORNICATION...
MARRIED PEOPLE AND ADULTERY...

Is the simultaneous equation not balanced

Highly educative. thanx O.P.

wow this is powerful.... I used to do that sh**t eh? and God finally saved me.. Its really frustrating and dirty... I will feel so empty, cursed and useless and vow never to repeat it again... Small time I find the urge coming again and before u know it I have done it again... mine was watching the porn and stroking and releasing full dose inside my boxers... That was a hell on earth.... I don't really know how I stopped... I just got busy and outgrew the sh**t... I pray God delivers anyone who is trapped in this demonic act of self servicing... Happy Sunday and pls don't forget to go to church...

ExAngel007:
Highly educative. thanx O.P.

ride with me let me take you there

dingbang:
ride with me let me take you there

hahaha...

That no 5, i just understand it in different angle. If a women will complain that his partner always take long to ejaculate, than why will some ladys admire a guy without pre-mature ejaculation?


Op oya answer that.

ExAngel007:
hahaha...

I"d love to hear u laugh..

Op seems to be preaching against premarital sex

dingbang:
I"d love to hear u laugh..

thank u

ExAngel007:
thank u

like for real...

eezeribe:
VIRGINS AND MASTURBATION... NON VIRGINS AND FORNICATION... MARRIED PEOPLE AND ADULTERY...
Is the simultaneous equation not balanced

You said it all my man. 1 bottle of agbara for you

who still masturbate where there are babes everywhere

Masturbation and real sex, which one gives more pleasure?

This is from a religious point of view i guess, your doctor
Will say different. Religious brainwashing.

dukeprince50:
Masturbation and real sex, which one gives more pleasure?

really sex

Kingsley1000:
really sex

thanks, i now wonder why someone will masturbate, and the worst is, you just think of someone and start it, very lame

Onila masturbates too, and she's a virgin.

Church people don come again. What's good is good and wrong is wrong. Don't base it on any demon or spiritual implications.

Loool well Masturbation is a way of keeping oneself. Certainly sexual urges come and go....and sometimes the urge is so strong that one's head is clogged.
Personally I feel if one decides to abstain from sex, masturbating can be used as a form of relief. Apart from the benefits of orgasms it helps men sleep better and focus.
Sex and Masturbation are both sexual sins. But a virgin that masturbates is still a virgin.
From the non religious perspective, masturbation allows you to discover your body.... You would explore and find out places you like to be touched and how you want to be touched. For women( how you want your bean to be flicked)

HOLY SPIRIT PLEASE ACCOMPANY THIS YOUR WORD WITH GENUINE SIGNS OF DELIVERANCE AND REPENTANCE UPON ALL THOSE WHO ARE UNDER THIS DEMONIC SPELL OF SEXUAL IMMORALITY IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST. AMEN. GOD BLESS YOU THE AUTHOR OF THIS WRITE-UP AND MAY THE OIL OF GOD'S WORD CONTINUE TO FLOW WITHIN YOU AND OVERFLOW INTO OUR LIVES TILL WE GET TO FULL MATURITY IN CHRIST JESUS THROUGH THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME. AMEN.

Q

Op as much as I don't support this masturbation of a thing and knowing fully well how demeaning it can make one feel after the act, (been there, done that) ,you also have to put in mind that one cant just decide one day to stop it effectively. Like you said, unless through God.
But i want you to think about that person going through a high sexual drive and is an atheist or doesn't feel as if he can easily reach God, what does the person do when he gets that high arousal? Let me give you some headlines very popular these days in nairaland and other news agencies.

- Man rapes 14 yr old virgin and she dies
- Boy rapes his sister
- Father impregnates his daughter
- Uncle sleeps with his niece, gets her pregnant and she dies while committing abortion

And the most recent one
- Stepfather rapes a 7 month old child

All these and more

Now lemme ask, don't you think a little act of wanking can just avoid most or maybe a high number of those situations i mentioned above?
The answer is yes.
Someone once said if you feel like going back to your ex, go and self-service. I bet you you'll never remember if she ever did existed.
This masturbation of a thing is just a little food you feed your demons so that they don't ask you for something that will bring a bigger shame to you as in the headlines above and trust me, if you ain't got God, when they come asking you'll give them in full dose.
I've said much but I'll summarize with the picture below.
For the benefit of those that turned off the image setting in their browser to save mb, I'll write it down here.

"I've stopped fighting with my inner demons. We're on the same side now"

Stop masturbation but if you can't just immediately stop, agree with the demons in you so they don't advice you to peep your sister in the bathroom.
Thank you.

Lalasticlala come and let your people know this.

I have a question oo
Let's say you're a virgin girl and you don't want to have sex but you want to know how it feels, is masturbating not the best thing to do? I know it has its side effects but what if it's not done everytime?

And I know some guys that don't like inexperienced girls

dukeprince50:
thanks, i now wonder why someone will masturbate, and the worst is,you just think of someone and start it, very lame

how u take know?