MrEgbegbe:

If you haven't been with a woman, you won't know how annoying and evil they are

A woman can make you commit suicide by the words of her mouth

But that doesn't warrant ass whopping or domestic violence

The reason why her husband still beats her is because she's weak, let her kick his husband in the nuts, he will never lay hands on her again

Solobenny:

Admittedly, the wife is a human being, subjected to human errors, however, from I've witnessed, she's very submissive and replies him in a low tone, apologizes when due. That said, after her mum's demise, the husband didn't show any sympathy, this drove her crazy and couldn't bear it anymore.

Ok who you dey support?

Larasisi:
obviously the man is a psychopath all she needs is to get busy with her job and have little or no reason to be hopelessly dependent on him.
God is head over him and she must be able to always take all her pains to him.He will restrain him from going all the way out to hurt her. Let her read Malachi 2 where God said he hates divorce and stand on that verse that way divorce will not be an option for her. God is alive. I know what she is going through. Be strong in the Lord.

Solobenny:
Good evening wonderful Nigerians and naira landers.
Please take your time and read cause this might be a long post.
NB: Exclusively for natured and experienced minds, your comments and are expectedly welcomed.


My cousin has complains she's tired of her marriage.

She has been married for 5yrs and have four children (a set of twin girls and another boy and girl).

She has on several/most occasions been a victim of domestic violence, the husband spends most nights outside the home, comes back drunk, easily infuriated and top of it all an egoistic being.

My cousin has been enduring without telling anyone because of her ill mother(don't want her to die of heartbreak) and for the love of her kids, not forsaking the endurance based on Christianity belief.

Now her mum is gone just some days ago, pathetic as it seems the husband didn't show any sign of pity or sympathy, he started making threats of divorce accompanied with abuses calling she and her siblings "useless orphans,your sorrow just begin" and more despite the mourning state.

Now, she is clearly confused on the decision to take.

*To proceed with the divorce , noting the expenses of child rearing on a single mother. ( She's a qualified and educated Nurse)

*To seek or perhaps accept apology if who knows her husband apologizes like he always does. ( bearing in mind the level of threat, high level of domestic violence and mental distress she'll continue to undergo.)

Help her make a decision.

Thanks as you comment wisely and naturedly.

luminouz:

Now am beginning to think ur a monitoring spirit.... Always tracking me....shuuu
BTW....has anyone even asked d guy what happened? A man does not go crazy n drunk on a whim..... U so believed the wife's version coz ur a woman!!!! Something happened to make him like DAT!!!!!! Just think about that!!!!
Some Women can so play d victim card eh....yet they are d vampires

Solobenny:


True though. But what on earth will make a reasonable, heartfelt man call his wife a USELESS ORPHAN, a day after her mother's demise

luminouz:

Now am beginning to think ur a monitoring spirit.... Always tracking me....shuuu
BTW....has anyone even asked d guy what happened? A man does not go crazy n drunk on a whim..... U so believed the wife's version coz ur a woman!!!! Something happened to make him like DAT!!!!!! Just think about that!!!!
Some Women can so play d victim card eh....yet they are d vampires

Pidgin2:
Her husband is her cross, tell her to watch 'War Room'

daretodiffer:

A man goes crazy and drunk.on a whim without any trigger

A woman goes crazy and psycho without any trigger

It is called being human albeit psychopathic one. It is not new. Stop making it sound like humans cannot be selfish and stupid.

I don't want to know what she did. It is not an excuse batter another human being or act irresponsibily. He has a choice!

ijayebonyi:
Until we stop seeing marriage as means of inspiting our ex-, and way of showing off to unmarried people not until we understand the concept of marriage that is when marriages will be what it is meant to be

MrEgbegbe:

If you haven't been with a woman, you won't know how annoying and evil they are

A woman can make you commit suicide by the words of her mouth

But that doesn't warrant ass whopping or domestic violence

The reason why her husband still beats her is because she's weak, let her kick his husband in the nuts, he will never lay hands on her again

cydophobia:


Nice contribution there.But i wouldn't support the idea of kicking her husband nuts.What if in the process of the husband retaliating and things gone out of hand which could result to lost of life.

choix007:
A man can't just wake up and start abusing his wife and seeking for divorce. U av successfully called ur cousin a saint and d man(whom we haven't heard his side of d story) a devil but I believe something must have triggered this attitude. She MUST have done something only the two of them know about.

OP abeg talk truth and stop sending the wrong message about marriage to the youth. Marriage is Sweet!

izospindle:
Bro for your safety stay away from married people and their problems you only get burnt by doing so.....experience is the best teacher....

jomoh:


The story is missing some things like

1. What did your sister do to him that made the love he had for her initially to think of proposing marriage to her disappear.

2. Does your sister have a past she's keeping from him that he has gotten to know about without her telling him. There may be things he has later discovered that made him believe he was deceived into the marriage.

3. Maybe he never really loved your sister


There are lots of circumstances that could lead to a man's change in behaviour. What ever it is, it is clear that the man does not have an atom of love for your sister presently. It is best she involves someone he respects a lot that he will confide in to know the real problem cos the problem might even be a wrong perception or wrong information get to him by someone.


If he couldn't come up with a tangible reason for his actions, then he probably never loved her.

Lloydfather:
Any man that does not meet up with family demand in this recession, that's basically how they react, left for me I will advice the woman to watch how she responds when the man is angry, then if she's not working, she should look for work to help in keeping up the family. finally I suspect from the point of view that they've not been having family discussions like words of encouragement when in crisis. That man u see there is a good man if the wife understands him and what he is going through at this moment and know how to talk to him, she will win his heart back. from the way he talked to her she might have done or say something bad to the man before.





Women should always remembered that the bible says that husband are lord unto their wife. They should stop listing this social media advices that if man do something wrong they should go for divorce. By woman wisdom home is built. proverb says so.

hotspec:
Solobenny. divorce is not d option yet. Let her go and get an apartment to tay alone with d children. I blv d husband is under some kind of internal or external influence and conflict. And i want to blv d wife has a more stable.job and make.more.money than d husband. The woman can just try to stay on her own ( @ least for.now). Her being alive (life) is very important. If she died (God forbid) as a result of d domestic violence, husband will remarry one of his many mistresses within 6 months. Since she has a good job, she shd just concentrate on raising d children.and.forget abt d man.
But, u also shd be careful how u interfere in d afairs, because d issue of husband and wife is very delicate, else they break d proverbial coconut on ur head.

MrEgbegbe:

If you haven't been with a woman, you won't know how annoying and evil they are

daretodiffer:
A man goes crazy and drunk.on a whim without any trigger

A woman goes crazy and psycho without any trigger

It is called being human albeit psychopathic one. It is not new. Stop making it sound like humans cannot be selfish and stupid. Trigger or not, I don't want to know what she did. It is not an excuse batter another human being or act irresponsibily. He has a choice!