chairman010:


but bros, one's life being in danger is not a reason for divorce according to the bible,
it is only when fornication is involved, even in this case you are encouraged to forgive your spouse by telling you to remain unmarried if you insist on divorcé ng

farous:


U made a point. Any sane man CAN NEVER just wake up and start beating,insulting or divorce the wife.There MUST be an untold story. I suggest she just say the truth and beg the man for forgiveness.

Vorpal:


Good question.

keepingmum:
So the only reason she's considering a divorce is because her husband called her and her siblings orphans? NOT because of the incessant DV, emotional abuse and all?

Should a third party prevail she will be happy to remain as long as he apologises abi?

She should well done!!! The I must remain MRS crew, the god forbids divorce crew, the I don't want my Shildren42 grow up in a broken home gang

Pls tell her 2 remain in the marriage, after all she is a working nurse, she can cater for herself and treat any injuries inflicted on her by her beloved horseband. ......the day he bangs her head on the wall and she dies, she ll get automatic ticket 2 heaven for upholding her vows ......she can also serve as guiding angel 2 her 4 children who will be maltreated by their stepmum incessantly... . Shielding them from eating poisonous food as we see on nollywood

PaperLace:

This generation of mothers have a lot to do. May my kids not grow to post the kind of comments I read on NL. This is why women shouldn't be scared of being alone, neither should they be overly dependent on their husbands.

If my husband try that flex his muscles on me. Imsef won't, he knows there are people waiting for him to fuckup, make them enter set.

Nma27:
What are u saying exactly? She has no right? But he has the right to abuse her physically and emotionally? E be like say knot loose for your head

Solobenny:
Good evening wonderful Nigerians and naira landers.
Please take your time and read cause this might be a long post.
NB: Exclusively for natured and experienced minds, your comments and are expectedly welcomed.


My cousin has complains she's tired of her marriage.

She has been married for 5yrs and have four children (a set of twin girls and another boy and girl).

She has on several/most occasions been a victim of domestic violence, the husband spends most nights outside the home, comes back drunk, easily infuriated and top of it all an egoistic being.

My cousin has been enduring without telling anyone because of her ill mother(don't want her to die of heartbreak) and for the love of her kids, not forsaking the endurance based on Christianity belief.

Now her mum is gone just some days ago, pathetic as it seems the husband didn't show any sign of pity or sympathy, he started making threats of divorce accompanied with abuses calling she and her siblings "useless orphans,your sorrow just begin" and more despite the mourning state.

Now, she is clearly confused on the decision to take.

*To proceed with the divorce , noting the expenses of child rearing on a single mother. ( She's a qualified and educated Nurse)

*To seek or perhaps accept apology if who knows her husband apologizes like he always does. ( bearing in mind the level of threat, high level of domestic violence and mental distress she'll continue to undergo.)

Help her make a decision.

Thanks as you comment wisely and naturedly.

MrEgbegbe:
If you haven't been with a woman, you won't know how annoying and evil they are

MrEgbegbe:
But that doesn't warrant ass whopping or domestic violence

MrEgbegbe:
The reason why her husband still beats her is because she's weak, let her kick his husband in the nuts, he will never lay hands on her again

AuroraB:
Gurl, you sure read the post?
She has 2 sets of twins. She is a qualified nurse. The husband is asking for a divorce but the woman is confused or wants to be a matyr according to the teaching of War Room

ElsonMorali:
How about you be fair and post the husband's side of the story here too or let him come online and defend himself.

cybernaut:
are u sure u attend secondary education well.

PaperLace:

This generation of mothers have a lot to do. May my kids not grow to post the kind of comments I read on NL. This is why women shouldn't be scared of being alone, neither should they be overly dependent on their husbands.

If my husband try that flex his muscles on me. Imsef won't, he knows there are people waiting for him to fuckup, make them enter set.

AuroraB:
The husband is asking for a divorce

piragirl:
please tell your cousin to join FIN FAMALE IN NIGERIA,should will get best advice,meet women that has gone through worse,shoulders to lean on and above all no one will jurge her unlike some people naira lander.let her send me her Fb details so i can add her.ayoajayi262@gmail.com. Best regards

daretodiffer:
She did juju to him when she realised no one would marry her because of her numerous abortions

Ijiot!

adorablepepple:
My mum use to say in the first 5 years of marriage couple have teething problems. So I guess this is it
When he gets back home late she should ingnore him,she should be sleeping too instead of confronting him when he is drunk, when he is ok in the morning she can talk to him. If he still hits her then she should let him go.
Let him carry out his threat. Let your sister prepare her minds towards being a single mum,yes I know the burden will be too much but it will help save what is left of her self esteem. Does she have a Job? If she doesn't, she should get one.

luminouz:

So to ur addled brain ur husband won't beat u coz there are people(ur family) waiting for him to fuckup? So they can beat him? If ur not married I just pity u.....so ur family members are set beaters?

anochilar:
As a Christian, by Christ teaching, the only allowed reason for divorce is marital infidelity. (even at that, forgiveness by the innocent mate, is also an allowed option, especially for the sake of the kids) but divorce on fornication grounds (infidelity) isn't a sin.
-Matthew 19:9
but separation, from an abusive mate, (includes domestic violence, and threat to life) is very much allowed! -Please read 1corinthians 7:10,11.
(as long as the separated mates does not remarry someone else)
for as long as is necessary, so when the guilty mate has come to his senses, accepts counsel, prays for God's help, apologise, and seeks reunion of his spouse, then they can be reconciled together again, and there children can grow up in a united home.
A separation, does not have a specific duration, it may range from several days, to several years. Of living in Separate residences.
The only situations in which a divorce is valid is, 1. The guilty mate is also a cheat (unfaithful) either during the marriage, or during separation. (note: divorce on fidelity reasons must be made on hard evidence. Example, caught in the act... Not on mere suspicion)
2. During the separation, any of the mates remarry and have sex with the 3rd party spouse, (a fornication has occurred) therefore, whoever of the 2, that didn't remarry first, is now free to remarry, and it would be valid, by Christian doctrine.
-read mark 10:11,12. Malachi 2:16.
Any further questions, requiring solid answers from the bible, i may help you.

PaperLace:

Only on NL do beings like you pity someone doing better than you _pity yourself. Now, go quote your fellow men supporting domestic violence, you silly being.

Vorpal:


But you don't sound like a woman who would aggravate a man to that point.....

While you train men, do not forget to teach the women too.

Hemstone:
mumu... so after telling someone to shut up. This is the rubbish you can advise?

Pidgin2:
Her husband is her cross, tell her to watch 'War Room'

PaperLace:

Hahaha, we would train both.
No one is perfect dear, we never can know what will "aggravate" men these days.

ademoladeji:
Lobatan!

jomoh:



I checked your page and saw the kalimah there. I will leave you for the respect of that kalimah but next time you try this with me, by Allah you shall regret it.

Abagworo:
She entered into a marriage she knew the outcome ab-initio. The abusive tendency of a man is rarely hidden and most women enter into marriage hoping things will change. My sister an abusive man is unchangeable.

2kaybiel:
is she a nag, a disobedient, a disrespective or unsubmissive woman?
The woman might have her own trouble which is not stated in this piece because it is rare for a man to make a threat of divorce without a reason even if he is a drunkard.