Seeking for such an advice from a quiet old single folk,

HE/SHE WILL CERTAIN ADVICE YOU NOT TO RUSH INTO MARRIAGE,

Who told you that am rushing by marrying @ the rite age?

Or it is when you wait till no one in interested in you, that you end up accepting any possible chance that it became prudence?

Who then is rushing, ?

anybody who watched cnn yesterday will understand what we're talking about here.
now in china men and women in thier late thirties and above have resulted to posting pictures
of themselves all over the place in a desperate bid to attract interested mates. there, they
have a name for those type of singles: the left over men or women!

lol at the left over men or women

For the ladies 25 - 30
For the guys 30 - 40
so you can grow old together

For ladies,23-28
Guys,30-35

With prayers,focus and submissiont to d will of God it can happen,I agree with goerge d,my father always tell us his female children,dt after ur first degree,there's nothing else u want to achieve int his world dt u can't,in ur husband's house,if na phd o,go do am for him house.

My eldest sis is a living example,highly successful n all,pursued so many thing academically n career wise and at d same time having children.Of course with a supportive and understanding husband.the reason wwhy I said all this is cos of some of us ladies that blve they av to achieve everything before getting married.and at the same time am not saying anybody should rush into marriage,but thereks time for everytin.

Like d yorubas will say,"if its time for a child to av a hoe,he should have it"

favouredjb:

For ladies,23-28
Guys,30-35

With prayers,focus and submissiont to d will of God it can happen,I agree with goerge d,my father always tell us his female children,dt after your first degree,there's nothing else u want to achieve int his world dt u can't,in your husband's house,if na phd o,go do am for him house.

My eldest sis is a living example,highly successful n all,pursued so many thing academically n career wise and at d same time having children.Of course with a supportive and understanding husband.the reason wwhy I said all this is cos of some of us ladies that blve they av to achieve everything before getting married.and at the same time am not saying anybody should rush into marriage,but thereks time for everytin.

Like d yorubas will say,"if its time for a child to av a hoe,he should have it"

did yoruba people really say if it's time for a child to have a "hoe" (pros.titute), he should have it?

'Hoe' means a tool fo farming, not w.h.o.r.e.

@topic

The earlier a woman gets married the better for her and her kids. Women who have children at older ages put those children t risks of certain diseases e.g downs syndrome.

I think 21-26 is ok for females

But why all these allegations about Naija pressurizing the women folks to get marry.
Every woman has a choice either to get marry or stay on married.
The biological clock is what is pressurizing these women and this thing is obtainable all over the world.
There is no law that says marriage is a must in Nigeria.
It is just man's fulfilment of creation obligation.
YOU GUYS SHOULD STOP LAYING DIRTY ALLEGATION AGAINST NIGERIA

jeebeewell,
no  mind nollywood and all those their archaic forced marriage stereotypes!

i think they're mostly responsible for peddling such false impression.

@zayhal,may God almighty bless u

favour,
why not bless me too?

Lol!george u re blessed already,oya receive more blessings!

i recieve it ooo! there's nothing like too much blessing ooooo! 

MENOPAUSE (35 and above)
FIBRIOD (the womb must nurse something)
Guys when is it that we active the most: between 23-29 this is when we have the best strength to have the best Sex, at 30 we are off form, we can only try 20's is the time we set the records . Memories sometimes heal wounds, So when u remember we were once sweet u tell us stories we wanna cry and it helps changing beside there nothing wrong with being immature when u can grow together. Love is sweet!!! When there is love, AGE is Nothing

In my opinion, no one should feel forced to marriage. It doesn't really matter for guys unless it is too late like in their late 40's. But ladies should watch out for their ages, don't forget there is menopause!!! yes that is one of the things that rushes us to marriage.

i know ladies who got married in their 30's n gave birth. but it is not always d case. so i say, for ladies it should not pass 33 at least, n 4 guys max @ 38.

I know a Nigerian that had her last child at 38. I think the reason that many women are having infertility problems in Nigeria is either poor health practices or previous (multiple) abortions. That is a big issue there with young college age children. Get married when you are ready like the poster above me says and if you want children that bad and you are married when you can no longer have a child, then adopt a child. Do not bring a child into a bad relationship and hurt their whole perspective on the opposite sex because you and your spouse cannot get along.

The benefits of early marriage far out weights its disadvantage. 21-28 for girls and 28-32 guys.

i feel horrible when i see old parents still struggling to train children after they have retired from service and active business.

Marriage dont break because of age, it break cos of the motivation to marriage.

once it is built on love and fear of God, not riches, fame and societal status. it will succeed.

@iiiyyk, that makes alot of sense!

dated topic but all the same i agree with iiiyyyk.

better to marry early and have time to train your children.

Don't agree. Believe it's better to marry at a more mature age to a worthy partner than to marry young because of pressure and afterwards suffer years of abuse and regret. There will still be time enough to have and train the children.

I had three kids after the age of 40 and it was no problem.My last with 45.

hmmmmm imo no i don't think so. whats the difference? 5 years? that doesnt seem like much to me.

One reasonable submission was the guy that said something about left over men and woman in China who refused to get married early and are now desperate for companionship. At 30, in our culture (not just in our culture alone), a woman is considered old.

What's a woman still doing as a single lady at 30 years old. At that point, you will even get little or no attention from men. At 30 a woman is at most gainfully employed and many men will go after her wealth.

At 30, a woman's beauty that is naturally meant to make her appealing for marriage is highly deprecated. You become a burden and a victim of many prayer homes and prophets. It's then you start looking for husband instead of the reverse.

The issue of menopause is another factor.

It's not surprising that many girls on this thread wants to stay as old as Rita Dominic before getting married, it's the influence of the crazy world we live in (someone calls it end time things). Girls don't want to be deprived pf their freedom of sleeping with men of their choice. They feel marriage is imprisonment. they want celebrity and paparazzi life even when they are nobody.

Keep waiting until you are 35, then you can become Chris Ojigbani's members keeping tabs on all the marriage programmes he holds around the world.

U are amazing, U just killed it.

Princek12: It just amazes me how some people like to rush to make a lifetime commitment. If you ponder about the intensity and the seriousness of marriage, in that you are stuck with your partner for the rest of your life, and you do intend to do so, you will not be creating a timetable for yourself. Bottom line, get married when you find the right person, someone you love and cherish, with the feeling reciprocated. And hey, for some people, it happens before 30; for others, it happens after 30; and for some people, it happens in their late 30s.

God blesses everyone at different periods in their lives, and God's time is the best. I would prefer to be single rather than being miserably married. It is not a joke to rush into a marriage (because you are "trying to marry before 30" to someone you do not love, and it is definitely not a joke to live with someone you don't like everyday.

MARRIAGE ONLY GOD DETERMINES. Some of d ladies that did nt get married late al ve their story. No lady wil be api getting married late

Ok