As a lady who will love to get married, you can not afford to spend a major part of your life with “player boyfriends “ because they will only use and dump you after a while, urbandictionary.com defines a player as : A male who is skilled at manipulating ("playing" others, and especially at seducing women by pretending to care about them, when in reality they are only interested in sex. panumo.com highlights some warning signs to watch out for in a guy who is a player.


He never asks about your parents: A man who intends to marry you will always ask after your parents, siblings and also share. After all they will be his future In-laws. He needs to know what is happening in your family, such a man is definately not planning a future with you

He never ask about your Job/Business : A Man who is interested in marrying you should ask about your job, education and challenges you are going through and offer advises and help where possible.

He does not comment about your cooking: There is a saying that the way to a man;s heart is food,but when you cookand your man does not make good or bad comments about the food,you need to take note.A man cannot just eat anything when he pass comments you will know his favorite food and how the food should be done. You will also know if he likes little or much ingredients in his food.

He never invites you to family events : You only hear about his family events after the ceremony weeks or months after. When you confront him, he says he doesn’t want to bore you with those “little” issues. such a man is indirectly telling you that you dont matter in his family life

He won’t introduce you to his family : After dating a guy for a while, you should be able to meet a few members of his family if not you are in the wrong relationship. Knowing them will give you some sort of security.

He won’t pass +ve or -ve nice comments about you : A woman is moved by what she hears so they say, you should be concerned when your man is not in any way commending or complaining about your new hairstyle, the way you talk on phone, your dressing to worship centers, the way you spend money, your general attitude.

He is not romantic in the public : You try to hold him in the public but he always finds a way to let go of his hands, he wont even try to hold your waist in the public. Be careful about him.

http://www.panumo.com/2017/04/8-signs-that-you-boyfriend-is-player.html

if he has a football boot if he has jersey if he goes to the field regularly if he plays for a football club( chelsea , Man u) if he scores goals .
then he his a player

There is a TIME for everything, and r/ship are not a competition. Nobody should rush to do any of the above until they are comfortable that this Is what they desire to do, and/or this is the direction they want that r/ship to go. Many "desperate to marry" women will expect a man to commit to their body clock desperate self after a few good dates, smh!

Here is clue:
- Why ask about a girls parents/job BEFORE knowing if she is right emotionally (as a gf) to begin with?

- It takes time before you can invite her at your place cook for you.

- you should never bring a stranger to family event until she is THE ONE. Becoming THE ONE take serious time and investigation.

- As sad as it may be, many African men ain't down with PDA... And women have to accept it. When many can't even kiss properly, you want them to shame themselves in public like that, haba?

For a girl to stay with a guy without seeing all these in the guy means she's foolish.

Even after they introduce you to the family, born one join, they will still marry another.
op, abeg leave story........ we guys gave become something else, the minute we (who were created in God's image) ate that apple in Eden, we became gods.

Eve was created from Adam, so it can't be like..... once ladies get our scope, we upgrade immediately to something else.

Before you quote me, please I an not in support of taking Nkechi to mama this month, and taking Biliki to same mama in 3 months time, while Alima is already carrying your photcopy.