davide470:
Which kind of yeye comparison be this?


To the OP, don't tell mhen. She has found happiness, don't spoil it. Move on.

Mynd44:


Corrected

HARDDON:


I concur!


@ ur siggy, that makes me even feel extra special cos in all those numbers, there is just one of Me! Yes, Me!

Youdondeymad:
Do you think the lady and her family would be happy with me if my cousin break up with her,we are Africans bruh....moreover there's no need for your last word,there's nothing cowardice in this matter(no offence).Thanks for your contribution though.



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Youdondeymad:
He is my cousin,I'm not jealous(never) but I'm just trying to play safe.I don't know what would happen if I attend the wedding,we've not seen each other since we broke up.


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Bumbae1:
Nope
Trust me wont work out
Besides it's like taking someones left overs ....


For example :
Your friend is sitting next to you drinking garri (garri is the female his dating)
He spits inside this garri .. blow catar inside .. put pepper put salt in this same bowl of garri
now he drops the bowl of garri said his done
Will you eat out of that same bowl??

So all girls who have been used and left is liken to a bowl of garri that has catar inside .. put pepper put salt in this same bowl of garri... God

Now some random person can walk in ask
Na who get garri
His free to eat it .. has no knowledge whats gone into that garri
Though he may find out eventually ..

Do you get my point
It's the knowing

DavidEsq:

OP, u said Nephew now u saying cousin. Don't they mean different? See as lie dey be 4 ur mouth. If ur ex babe is ur Nephew's chic, then how old was she wen u wr gbenshing her? paedophile OP.
I dey junction dey wait u with my guys and we gallant wit our koboko

SmartyPants:


I'm sorry but i just put myself in your nephew's shoes. That man has the right to know, and based on the bolded you are just trying to protect yourself.

What you should do is let your nephew know the truth in a mature way. Call some elders around, inform him of the situation and let them advice him (if you can't).

Anything built on deceit will surely crash and the crash will be worse than what you are trying to avoid today.

davide470:
Which kind of yeye comparison be this?


To the OP, don't tell mhen. She has found happiness, don't spoil it. Move on.

justmenoni:
Ok, but true true shey youdondeymad?


quote author=Youdondeymad post=56265769] *Yawns*

Ok noted


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Selfdesign:
But if it's the other way round, no biggie right Women have suffered

TheABOMINATION:


You are right to say he shouldn't tell, because the marriage plan has gone too far.

But who is to say the girl won't reveal the fact later, and cause the cousin to vex with op for not telling him.

My advice is that op should meet with the girl, talk to her, come to agreement with her that none of you will talk. Although this seems like you are both covering a crime, but the fact is that as long as op has no guarantee that the girl won't talk later, then op should not keep quiet. And if op can't meet with the girl, to come to a non disclosure agreement with her, then he should tell 'the guy the babe you are marrying, I dated her for two years o'.

That said, telling the guy can also turn out bad for him, in the event that the guy is not ok with the fact, but can no longer cancel the wedding, then he will simply wish op hadn't tell him.
Therefore op follow the first advice, leave the decision to tell or not up to whether you can make the girl agree to keep quiet about the fact.

Youdondeymad:
Good morning peeps, I have been pondering about this issue since last week.

I was chatting with my nephew on whassapp few days ago,while we were chatting, I observed something strange. He is planning to settle down with his fiancee very soon, I was surprised when I saw the picture of his fiancee but I pretended as if I don't know her. I have dated this babe before (to be honest), I dated her after I broke up with my first love few years ago. We dated for 2 years and 3 months, I don't really know what to do. I don't want to burst my nephew's bubbles because he is so much in love, I don't have any problem with their union but I'm planning to avoid the marriage.

Am I right or wrong, please no bashing or insults, thank you all.

doskie:
God forbid!!! its a taboo in my culture

Youdondeymad:
I don't think I can meet her to discuss anything because she won't believe me,we deleted every connection we had then after we broke up.I deleted her numbers,FB account etc(she did the same also).She won't even accept my friend request on FB,whassap etc because she knows my details,I can create another account but I don't like bugging people.I'd attend the wedding but I would lay low,I wont say anything,after that I'm moving away from their lives for good.


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Bumbae1:
Nope
Trust me wont work out
Besides it's like taking someones left overs ....


For example :
Your friend is sitting next to you drinking garri (garri is the female his dating)
He spits inside this garri .. blow catar inside .. put pepper put salt in this same bowl of garri
now he drops the bowl of garri said his done
Will you eat out of that same bowl??

Now some random person can walk in ask
Na who get garri
His free to eat it .. has no knowledge whats gone into that garri
Though he may find out eventually ..

Do you get my point
It's the knowing

queenDD:
Op are you married?

Youdondeymad:
It is a long story,can't even share it on the net(I'm sorry).But she is a good lady,we are both introverted(part of the reasons we separated).


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Youdondeymad:
It was a mistake,I just modified the post.He is my cousin not my nephew,I hope you are happy,please I'm not a paedophile,it is not a must to comment.Thank you "Mr saint and perfect" for your contribution.


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DorisK:
I will marry him if he's dangote or Gates, or Donald Duke or John cena or Ronaldo or Harry styles even if he dated my mother

justmenoni:
No but youdondeymad?

quote author=Youdondeymad post=56269433]No i'm not,what about you?lol


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