In meeting each others needs in marriage, apart from studying other principles,you have to study the person your are going to marry or the person you married. Find out what he wants,what she's craving for and supply it. You are together in marriage to meet your needs. The wife should learn the husband's love language and speak it to him and likewise the man. The following are the five basic love languages, they are:



WORDS OF AFFIRMATION 

WORDS of affirmation has to do with affirming your love to your spouse much time as possible,expressed through lovely and kind words. For some people,this is what gets to them most out the five love languages. So it now lies on the couple to find out if this language is what there spouse craves for,from each other. They might tend to go after anyone who speaks this language to them,which they aren't getting from there spouse. Even in a difficult situation,your words of affirmation can go a long way in boosting the morale or confidence of your spouse in difficult times and not words of discouragement. We should never forget that words from someone we love affects more than from someone we barely know or who we don't know.



PHYSICAL TOUCH

As the name implies,physical touch has to do with bodily contact. Men are more moved by this language. Nothing awakens a man like a touch from a someone he likes or love. For some women too,physical touch is there language. Finding out if physical touch is your spouses language is key to enable you speak his or her own love language. Physical touch doesn't necessary mean having sexual intercourse.



ACTS OF SERVICE 

This involves doing something to help your spouse. For example,you might find him or her busy doing something, and there might be another problem she or he  has to attend to but has not find the time to do it,in solving that problem for him or her can do more for them than anything you could ever say. The service you render can be anything, so far it has to do with meeting his or her needs.



RECEIVING OF GIFTS 

Some people are moved more by receiving gifts from there spouse because that's the language they understand more. If you find out that your spouse loves gifts,don't play with that. Periodically buy them gifts you can afford or you can as well surprise them to a lovely outing in somewhere nice.



SHARING QUALITY TIME

Sharing quality time for some people can be the major love language they understand most. They love or want you to spend as much time as possible with them. They love you around them. Here you don't need much talking g because your presence does all the talking for you. If you find out that your spouse likes spending time with you, make it a duty to fulfill that aspect of your relationship even though it may seem difficult. It's all about the language that gets to them most.


For more info about this topic,kind look for the book by Gary Chapman "the five love languages"


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1. Words of Affirmation
2. Physical Touch
3. Quality time

In that order of importance.