Thegoodlord:

Please what do I do.

SexyNairalander:
booked


she told you this and instead of you to be happy you are coming up with this, you clearly stated that you are trying to change her and now she is thanking and sharing what your work has done in her life and you dey yan dis thing


humans sha, cos she smokes doesn't mean she is a bad person you know. . .please see the positive part and not this your yeye negative thoughts

Splinz:


Go ahead with your original plans. We all have our dark moments, does it therefore means that we should all be condemned? If yes, who then shall remain?

It was on this premise that the Master said: "Let he who is without sin be the first to throw the stone".

SirMichael1:

Thegoodlord:
Huh? What?

SirMichael1:
I don't trust her o

A person doesn't quit drugs over a year and returns to take drugs 2 months before.

She might be lying to say that she's changed. This is my opinion tho.

dnoable08:
I even thought u were going to say she confessed she was a slut who did series of abortion.
Baba u no get problem

Thegoodlord:
I met this girl I loved so much. We started dating. I was very sincere to her and told her all about my past too and my present job and all. Initially she thought I was not serious but as time goes on, she discovered I was serious and was ready to marry her.
She's a very humble girl and ready to learn cos I discovered so many of her weaknesses and was putting her through rigorous training like making sure she reads to build her IQ. She was really responding so much and was happy and thanking me for making her discover her inner beauty.
The whole process made her to love me now like she's crazy.
But on Monday she told me the shock of my life. She told me she has smoked before. I thought maybe she has tasted cigarette before. She told me that she started smoking weed right from secondary school SS2. With her present age, she has smoked for 8 cool years and non is cigarette but weed(ibo) and Coddein and Tablets.
She told me all and also told me she stopped smoking last year but took Coddein last two months. That cos of my sincerity, she don't do them anymore that it was her past.
I've given her book to read so as to help her think right and truly she confessed that the book did her lots of good and was thanking me for making her a changed girl. Plus the rigorous fasting she has done lately too by her ownself just to draw closer to God. In fact the lady is a nice and willing to learn and respectful person other than others I've met.
But since Monday, my head is full of thoughts.
I still love her but one part of my thought is scared cos of fear of the unknown tomorrow.
Please what do I do. I love her and I'm scared too cos I don't know the level of damage the drugs has done on her.
Don't mind my English. I'm good at other things I do. Lol

memories1:
Angels are only found in heaven, while on earth, we're all humans and have a stack of imperfections. That aside, she told you about her past because she trusts you. She believes you would look beyond her imperfections, mistakes and wrong turns to see the part of her working to be a better person. I would prefer someone who entrusts me with their secrets than a pretender.
Let go of the shock and judgement, continue helping her to build a better character. In time, you'd be convinced that she'd make a good spouse. Good luck.

NairalandCS:
Op don't be a buzz kill, hit a blunt with her.

Thegoodlord:
Exactly the thoughts killing me. What's the probability she won't take it when maybe we have issue tomorrow to calm herself down or to face me with fight. My head full

Relationship is a risk. Test her very well and see her limits. Try to know what would make her go back to drugs. Is it anger, hurt, loneliness etc.

Piss her off, don't pick her call for maybe a day or 2 and visit her unannounced by the eve of the 2nd day.

This is marriage we're talking about here and it's supposed to be a lifetime union.

Eliminate every possibilities of a divorce now or face the consequence later

Thegoodlord:
Thanks. I still love her but the thought of all she told me is the issue I'm battling with.

Thegoodlord:
what? In simple terms pls

moorevic:

She opened up to you because you seem like a solid pillar whom she could confide in, she let you into her past because she has seen the future with you as a tank of bliss.
Like she said its her past and that YOU made her quit them. Still love her as you did and never stop. She is a refined gem.

Thegoodlord:
I love her and the improvement I'm seeing in her is making me fall in love the more. But I'm somehow in shock. Has she told me all?

SirMichael1:


Relationship is a risk. Test her very well and see her limits. Try to know what would make her go back to drugs. Is it anger, hurt, loneliness etc.

Piss her off, don't pick her call for maybe a day or 2 and visit her unannounced by the eve of the 2nd day.

This is marriage we're talking about here and it's supposed to be a lifetime union.

Eliminate every possibilities of a divorce now or face the consequence later

Thegoodlord:
Thanks. Wanted to go ahead with meeting the parents but it slowed me down. Want to watch her closely and be sure

memories1:


She'd tell all if you continue to stand by her. See her as a work in progress. Diamond doesn't look good when just mined, but after being polished and cut, it acquires a great value.
Hang in there and keep encouraging her. The grass isn't greener on the other sides.

Thegoodlord:
Exactly what I started doing recently, mehn, that girl can apologise and can easily adjust to make u happy. I've not discovered what will make her angry to that extent. Will try more

Thegoodlord:
Exactly what I started doing recently, mehn, that girl can apologise and can easily adjust to make u happy. I've not discovered what will make her angry to that extent. Will try more

Don't do it too much and get conc. acid poured on you while sleeping o.

Tread with caution.... Make your case no enter FP on NL with topic "A nairalander gets poured with acid" or something like that.

Thegoodlord:
I met this girl I loved so much. We started dating. I was very sincere to her and told her all about my past too and my present job and all. Initially she thought I was not serious but as time goes on, she discovered I was serious and was ready to marry her.
She's a very humble girl and ready to learn cos I discovered so many of her weaknesses and was putting her through rigorous training like making sure she reads to build her IQ. She was really responding so much and was happy and thanking me for making her discover her inner beauty.
The whole process made her to love me now like she's crazy.
But on Monday she told me the shock of my life. She told me she has smoked before. I thought maybe she has tasted cigarette before. She told me that she started smoking weed right from secondary school SS2. With her present age, she has smoked for 8 cool years and non is cigarette but weed(ibo) and Coddein and Tablets.
She told me all and also told me she stopped smoking last year but took Coddein last two months. That cos of my sincerity, she don't do them anymore that it was her past.
I've given her book to read so as to help her think right and truly she confessed that the book did her lots of good and was thanking me for making her a changed girl. Plus the rigorous fasting she has done lately too by her ownself just to draw closer to God. In fact the lady is a nice and willing to learn and respectful person other than others I've met.
But since Monday, my head is full of thoughts.
I still love her but one part of my thought is scared cos of fear of the unknown tomorrow.
Please what do I do. I love her and I'm scared too cos I don't know the level of damage the drugs has done on her.
Don't mind my English. I'm good at other things I do. Lol

Splinz:


No, you don't love her, at least according to my own understanding of love. This is because battling with the thoughts of what she did simply means that a part of you is thinking of condemnation, i.e, you can't let it go.

Well, whatever your decisions and intentions are, remember that it will amount to sheer hatred of truths and confessions, if you turn against her sincere heart pouring to you.