Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,163,412 members, 7,853,813 topics. Date: Saturday, 08 June 2024 at 04:01 AM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? (3410 Views)
She's The Best Woman For Me But Not That Beautiful. Should I Still Marry Her? / My Girlfriend Is Beautiful But Not Intelligent. Should I Still Marry Her? / Would You Still Marry Your Lover If You Discovered That They Can't Have Children (2) (3) (4)
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Thegoodlord(m): 7:31pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
SirMichael1:Bro you funny. My case is different |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Thegoodlord(m): 7:32pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
NoFavors:interprete |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by dnoable08: 7:32pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
Thegoodlord:And that's true sha, didn't think of that. Just keep her under observation sha. And don't allow Nairalanders to form the basis of your decision. |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Thegoodlord(m): 7:36pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
moorevic:laugh won ki me |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Thegoodlord(m): 7:39pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
BlackDBagba:apart from here, no one will ever know of it. The steps of the righteous are ordered by God. |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by SirMichael1: 7:39pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
Thegoodlord: 2016 winners theme. This is 2017 bro. Your case was different. I'm out! |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Splinz(m): 7:45pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
Thegoodlord: Cool. |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Nobody: 7:45pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
funny...what if she was "perfect" today and then tommorrow, say, after 5 years of marriage she starts taking drugs and blowing joints?what would you do then?people change, tommorrow isnt guaranteed, you should appreciate them when they are making concious efforts to be better but if you just cant cope walk away for sake of peace |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Thegoodlord(m): 7:48pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
ztapi:She's ready to learn. One good quality abt her I love. |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Thegoodlord(m): 7:51pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
NairalandCS:What goes inside a man does not defile a man, but what comes out of a man. |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Nobody: 7:57pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
Thegoodlord:thats a good thing, just make sure she knows what smoking weed does to her body and mind particularly, no one is an angel though an angel today may be a devil 2mrw, just enjoy the bit you have with her n try to make it work, you are both adults and should know whats best 1 Like |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by SexyNairalander: 8:01pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
[quote author=Thegoodlord post=57098849] First time I tasted weed lols, now I know your fear. . .maybe your head no carry am but trust me it doesn't change anything about her |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Thegoodlord(m): 8:10pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
[quote author=SexyNairalander post=57100680][/quote] What do u mean it doesn't change anything about her? |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by SexyNairalander: 8:17pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
Thegoodlord:I mean she is still who she is bro, and that's her past really it doesn't change anything about her. . .your love for mlher should conquer all if indeed you love her |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Nobody: 9:13pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
dnoable08:i dey tellz u |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by malton: 9:31pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
If I talk wetin dey my mind sha, u fit leave her cos of am. |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Kondomatic(m): 9:35pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
BlackDBagba:Every generalization is false including this one |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Thegoodlord(m): 9:37pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
malton:Bro, go ahead. I'm all ears |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by stacyadams: 9:41pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
Thegoodlord: |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by malton: 9:46pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
Thegoodlord: Don't mind me. Truth is, Smoking weed is not bad in itself, IMHO. However, those smoking cliques usually gang-fu#k, with the guys taking turns on the ladies one after the other. This isn't to say that her gang was like that. But that's how they operate, especially when high. I know this for a fact, especially the secondary school kind. It's all in the past, but I'll advise that you do some health checkups together before you proceed. If all checks out fine, you can go ahead and wife her. Who are we to judge? Mine is just a cautious approach. |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Thegoodlord(m): 9:53pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
malton:Sure, I will definitely do routine medical check up on her before anything else. You're not far from the truth either. She really bleeped during those periods just for the fun of it. Now she has changed and me got plenty work to do to be sure. |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by malton: 9:59pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
Thegoodlord: Alright bro. It's good that you are in the know. I wish the best for you. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by bellyjean(m): 10:16pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
Bro. I appreciate you man. Many guys here are just viewing this from the lady's perspective and are being sympathetic and apologetic; "oh she's changed", "she is willing to learn and change", "she sees you as her pillar"etc etc. These are good qualities a guy would always want to see in his lady. But marriage transcends all these. From a christain's perspective in which Jesus' model of a marriage should be our yardstick. Amongst all these "GOOD" and "WONDERFUL" qualities your babe has, I think what you should look out for is her love for Jesus christ and how she feels about doing God's will even when she goes down emotionally, spiritually or even when she is tempted to take some 'shots' of drugs. How willing is she to yielding herself to the expression of Holyspirit in her. You should have a glimpse of this from the joint devotions you have, the time you guys spend together to study the word of God. My friend, any worthwhile relationship is a long walk and with God at the centre of your relationship, you will enjoy life. My dear OP. You have done what a gentle man should do. God bless you for that. I trust you didn't base your relationship on sex and other frivolities. Don't be decieved, there is no angel among we humans, but we can strive towards that perfection as commanded by God. A commenter said she sees you as her pillar. Walk her through the right paths, encourage her in the lord, the two of you should attend christain conferences that will help both of you grow, let her trust you. Be her shield. But, the real question, which I should have asked before writing this long epistle is are you being led by the Holy Spirit into this relationship? And if so, do you truly know what LOVE means? Answer this and you have your answer. |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by mikejegede(m): 10:56pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
so it is the kush that she smoked that's is making u to think like this abi..no be cocaine oo. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Thegoodlord(m): 11:07pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
bellyjean:The relationship has been a no sex one from day one. I just finished a dry fasting then and prayed intensely that God revealed this girl to me cos I do have this inner witness that there is something she is not telling me. That same evening I finished and called her, she now made those confessions to my shock. The things of God she's a novice but very willing to learn. Let me tell me one thing I discovered about marriage. God can never choose a wife for anyone. But the greatest prayer is for God to reveal who your partner is and after that, the whole option is left for you to choose. For instance, I had this girl initially before this one, I prayed and God showed me where we married but she got diabetics in future and I was not happy in the marriage. Through inner witness, the Holy Spirit told me that I've been shown the barrier ahead, but to marry her or not is entirely my own to choose cos as soon as I marry her, if I ever treat her bad...God won't be happy with me... So I withdrew. Now this one is entirely my decision again to choose. This scripture holds me down... 1Co 7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 1Co 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 1Co 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 1Co 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such [cases]: but God hath called us to peace. Then this one is the key testing me betwixt two options... *1Co 7:16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save [thy] husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save [thy] wife?* |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by TapTapTap(m): 11:42pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
People that do drugs are not bad people. Btw u don't like smokers and she decided to stop for u and she even came out and was sincere. I think u found urself a good one tho |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by bellyjean(m): 11:43pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
Thegoodlord=57106079: Bro, I thank God for your conviction and your strong faith. The bible says we live by faith and not by sight. She can be woman/wife if you are willing to invest in her spiritual growth. She loves you and you love her. Well, this is only the starting point. Let your love be guided by christ's love. You will have to be paitient with her. You will have to be tolerant. Don't ever remind her of where she is coming from. You have to be very alert to this. Whenever u quarrel, pls don't bring her past into it. Remind her of God's love towards her. I don't know how long you guys have been dating and if you have even transitioned into courtship, but I will suggest that you delay any marraige plans for now (if there isn't too much pressure on both of u sha). As I said earlier, invest in her spiritual growth and if eventually for some other reasons you guys seperated, she would be better than she met you and of course you would be better afterwards. Trust me it will not be a jolly ride all through. But note that marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured. And ultimately, prepare you both for eternity. I would love to hear good testimonies about how God helped both of you made your relationship work. You can check some of pastor Godman Akinlabi's teaching on marriage and relationships on youtube. |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Thegoodlord(m): 11:56pm On Jun 01, 2017 |
bellyjean:Thanks. Still on prayer mood. |
Re: Should I Still Marry Her After This Confession? by Thegoodlord(m): 12:01am On Jun 02, 2017 |
TapTapTap:Sincerely, I've not been faced with such situation. Is like a mystery to me. But I know I can never fall a victim. |
Help!!!!!!! My Friend Is Sleeping With His 13yrs Old Daughter / When You Go To The Restaurant With Someone And He Sits Somewhere Else? / Endowed Tanzanian Model, Sanchi Flaunts Her Gigantic Backside In Sexy Lingerie
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 77 |