To be frank with you, you aren't married to her yet, even my gf keeps are relationship open to any man.. you might not be an option to her but you are also a risk for her to commit herself into until you both are ready for something serious

don't continue with dt rekationship...bt u cn keep her as frd...
u dnt knw if a girl truely loves u until she has an alternative.

Jaqenhghar:

This your english is enough to send her into another man's arms

you better f**k the hell out of this thread if u hv nothing sensible to contribute

if you aren't the soulmate, then you have no business being there.
i put my 10kobo; if that european guy comes back, she'll go to him. you're just an option, go look for your own soul mate.


take her out, give her baileys to drink. when she's a bit drunk, ask her all your questions.


don't carry her like a tuber of yam if she's carrying you like a pinch of salt.

Livinus56:
you better f**k the hell out of this thread if u hv nothing sensible to contribution

I will not fùck the hell out of here or anywhere till I feel like it and there's not a damn thing you (or anyone else) can do about it
Go polish your english before you learn to curse in English

Livinus56:
It all started when my sister came for a holidays and I saw a picture of this pretty young lady in her phone which capture my interest. my sister told me that she is a niece to her fiance. then I try and got her contact through my sister and before you know it, we have become very close to the extent that a day doesn't pass without hearing from each other. she sent me a lot of her picture and I must confess that she is a beauty to behold. then I starting toasting her and I was very Happy because she was also interested in me. that's how our relationship began, we spoke on phone and chatted online for a year and two months before we finally meet each other, then we already develop a lot of affection for each other and we know a lot about each other, because we were so open from the very beginning. the night I meet her for the first time at the pack was magical, and our journey together home will forever remain engraved in my memory and no matter what happened I will forever cherish those moment. then I didn't need to introduce her to my parents because they already knew her very well. she introduce me to her own parents who seems to love me as well, the mother couldn't stay for a week without hearing from me, so everything was going quietly well between us and our families. she has this dream of going to high institution so I encourage her to because am not yet ready to settle down. and to the glory of God she was able to get admission a year ago, so everything was going smoothly for us until last week. when I want to see my sister in school because she wasn't feeling well and my fiancee happened to be the one taking care of her. so after spending like a week there my sister was ok but a day before I returned something happened. I don't normal go through her phone, but on that faithful evening I was watching pictures in her phone when my sister called her to accompany her to buy some food stuff. she wanted to collect the phone but seeing that am not done yet she decided to wait. but my sister told her to leave the phone because they won't stay long, and that was how she left the phone with me. I notice that she agitated a little before leaving phone for me, so I decided to go through all her contacts and behold I run into this whatsapp contact that she save with my (soul mate). I check to see if that was my contact but it wasn't, so I read all their massage there and I find out it was her former boyfriend, who travel to Europe about two years ago and going by their chat it's obvious that they maintained their relationship all this while. she did spoke to me about the guy right from the very beginning, she even confess to me that she loved the guy so much then, as he was the first man in her life and the one that take away her virginity. she also told me that she find something in that guy that she doesn't like, and that they were already having problems before he travel. I latter find out that she save my own number with (my further hope) I try to control myself that evening because I didn't want to create sin in front of my young sister, I was very hungry that evening and she knew it, but when she finish cooking I refuse to eat. she almost cry begging me to eat but I refuse. during d night I didn't allow her to touch me and I was supposed to go in the afternoon but I left very early in the morning. she and my sister see me off to the pack. she was crying asking me what she did wrong but I was so hurt to talk to her. when I left she called me countless times but I never pick her call nor reply her messages. I didn't communicate with her for two days until my sister called me begging me to at least tell her what she did wrong. then I decided to reply her message, she wanted to denial it but when she find out that I already know everything, she confess to me that he is her boyfriend who she has told me about before. it's true that she told me sometimes ago that the guy always call her, but what I didn't know is the fact that she still see the guy as her soul mate why I remain her further hope. I simply told her it's over between us, but she has bn pleading to me since to forgive her and give her a second chance. she claim that she love me so much and cannot imagine her life without me. so my fellow nairaland. if u were in my shoe what will you do? I still love her but I don't trust her anymore. should I let her go once and for all or give her another chance. I need a matured advice please.

Its very simple she loves u but u re d second option...If dis guy comes back today she will gladly follow him so accept ur fate and move on,its even better u got to know earlier....Am nt in ur shoe cos we're nt using d same size

Nbote:
Lolzzzzz... Atleast u're lucky she wasnt cheating with anyone in skool sef and even considered u her future hope lolzzzzz .. U are simply overeacting... Not taking her calls or vexing urself in d name of being pained is childish.. Call her and talk to her about it.. Atleast b man enough to let her know how u feel about ur discovery... Infact u shld b more worried about a skool boyfriend dan an away based former boyfriend...

this is my take OP

Benita27:
Which one is moneytail?. Anyway, thanks.

monkeytail is for Olupokipoki

Fourwinds:
monkeytail is for Olupokipoki

You just complicated issues. Which one is Olupokipoki?.

Benita27:
You just complicated issues. Which one is Olupokipoki?.

I'm going to tell u in ze oda room

Nbote:
Had a similar experience jus 2 years ago.. Was in a long distance relationship with a gal who was engaged to an abroad based guy but neva told me.. I found out and turns out to b d guy she always claimed was a very close family friend.. I asked her about it and She denied dey were engaged still engaged but didn't let her know how much I already know about their relationship... D guy dey abroad so n me dey play home.. I kept on pretending like I believed her and continued shining d Congo for dem... Gave her a shocker wen I finished bleeping her one day and asked her how her traditional marriage plans were going.. I still remember d priceless look on her face lol... D traditional marriage was in January last year, d guy is still abroad and she still wants to kip wat she thinks we had...

girls are just hopelessly crazy and stupid

BoluGabriel:

see them.... some girls have become nuisance to their generation.
is this how your parents brought you up?
put yourself in the guy's shoes before you comment.
you really need to start using your brain to think.
what a shame you are!!!!!

Jesusssss! You are so so uncultured! How can you insult someone who just make her opinion known. Why the insult for Christ sake? If you are not comfortable with my opinion, why not just ignore mine and make yours known. Habaaa!! God have mercy! You just choose to insult someone you don't know and who didn't insult you in the first place? Huh!!!! May God help our youth and this nation!
The Op who ought to pick offence didn't do that but rather won me to his side by making me see reasons with him constructively but you, whom I don't even know just choose to insult me for no just cause or perhaps because you aren't comfortable with my views. Haven't you seen where a marriage was call off right there before the priest and the congregation that has gathered for the ceremony?? How much more someone you haven't pay a dime on, just a fiancee and you choose to condemn her because she is still nursing a feeling for someone else. In as much as I don't condole unfaithfulness, i just wanted the Op to soft pedal his anger towards her because in the eyes of the law they aren't married yet and can't lay claim to the lady, hence she is free to love who so ever she choose but morally she may be guilty. Well, for insulting me simply because you aren't comfortable with my opinion, I leave you to your conscience.

Come[b][/b] on, give her a chance..

BoluGabriel:

lol. Deal with it dear. Stop doing defending wrong in the name of opinion.
Grow up my dear. Put yourself in the shoes of the op, and imagine finding out you are only a backup to someone who you made your own first choice. The girl was just a lie. A big lie!
Deal with it!
Peace, love and unity.

I choose to ignore you, please will you kindy do same? and if you choose not to, then I will apply the theory of silence. Bless you