It all started when my sister came for a holidays and I saw a picture of this pretty young lady in her phone which captured my mind. she happened to be a niece to my sister's fiance. I got her contact through my sister and before you know it we have become very close friend. she sent me a lot of her picture and I must confess that she is a beauty to behold. As time went by we developed a lot of affection for each other to the extent that a day doesn't pass by without communicating. l latter told her what i have in mind nd I was very glad because she was also interested in me. that was how our relationship began. we spoke on phone and chatted online for a year and two months before we finally meet each other. even before our first meeting, I was already in love with her and she seems to be as well. that night I meet her for the first time at the pack was magical and our journey home together during that Christmas festival will forever remain engraved in my memory. no matter what happened I will forever cherish those moment. then I didn't need to introduce her to my parents because they already knew her very well. she introduce me to her own parents who seems to love me as well, the mother couldn't stay for a week without hearing from me, so everything was going quietly well between us and our families. she has this dream of going to high institution so I encourage her to because am not yet ready to settle down. and to the glory of God she was able to get admission a year ago, so everything was going smoothly for us until last week. when I went to visit my sister in school because she wasn't feeling well and my fiancee happened to be the one taking care of her. so after spending like a week there my sister was ok but a day before I returned something happened. I don't normal go through her phone, but on that faithful evening I was watching pictures in her phone when my sister called her to accompany her to buy some food stuff. she wanted to collect the phone but seeing that am not done yet she decided to wait. but my sister told her to leave the phone because they won't stay long, and that was how she left the phone with me. I notice that she agitated a little before leaving the phone for me. so I decided to go through all her contacts and behold I run into this whatsapp contact that she save with my (soul mate). I check to see if that was my contact but it wasn't. so I read all their chat and I find out it was her former boyfriend, who travel to Europe about two years ago and going by their chat it's obvious that they maintained their relationship all this while. she really spoke to me about the guy right from the very beginning, she even confess to me that she loved the guy so much then, as he was the first man in her life. she also told me that she find something in that guy that she didn't like. that they were already having problems before he travelled. I latter find out that she save my own number with (my further hope) I try to control myself that evening because I didn't want to create sin in front of my younger sister. I was extremely hungry that evening which she knew. but when she finish cooking I refuse to eat. she almost cry begging me to eat but I refused. during dat night I didn't allow her to touch or even come closer to me. I was supposed to go in the afternoon but I left very early in the morning. she and my sister see me off to the pack. she was crying asking me what she did wrong but I was so hurt to talk to her. when I left she called me countless times but I refused picking her calls nor reply her messages. I didn't communicate with her for two days until my sister called me begging me to at least tell her what she did wrong. then I decided to reply her messages. when i confronted her, she try to denied it but when she find out that I already know everything, she confess to me that he is her ex boyfriend who she has told me about before. it's true that she told me sometimes ago that the guy still call her. but what she never told me is the fact that she still see the guy as her soul mate why I remain her further hope. I simply told her it's over between us, but she has bn pleading to me since to forgive her and give her a second chance. she claim that she love me so much and cannot imagine her life without me. so my fellow nairaland. if u were in my shoe what will you do? I still love her but I don't trust her anymore. should I let her go once and for all or give her another chance. I need a matured advice please.

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Lmao @ my further hope.

Do the comparison between the words she saved your number and the other guy's number with. "My soulmate" is a strong phrase for a girl to save a guy's number as. Even if you give her a second chance, once that guy appears she'd most likely dump your ass. You're just an alternative. Sorry!.

Lolzzzzz... Atleast u're lucky she wasnt cheating with anyone in skool sef and even considered u her future hope lolzzzzz .. U are simply overeacting... Not taking her calls or vexing urself in d name of being pained is childish.. Call her and talk to her about it.. Atleast b man enough to let her know how u feel about ur discovery... Infact u shld b more worried about a skool boyfriend dan an away based former boyfriend...

U have already said it all.. U are d further hope...

It means that ur the PLAN B.
But she might love u anyway

Mr Further hope, put your hope in god.

Nbote:
Lolzzzzz... Atleast u're lucky she wasnt cheating with anyone in skool sef and even considered u her future hope lolzzzzz .. U are simply overeacting... Not taking her calls or vexing urself in d name of being pained is childish.. Call her and talk to her about it.. Atleast b man enough to let her know how u feel about ur discovery...

my tots exactly. ur very lucky she hasnt gotten a school bf

This one is strong, But you said something like you don't trust her anymore, If so ... I don't think it will do any good giving her a second chance.

unless you are ready to Build your trust for her again

Benita27:
Lmao @ my further hope.

Do the comparison between the words she saved your number and the other guy's number with. "My soul mate" is a strong word for a girl to save a guy's number as. Even if you give her a second chance, once that guy appears she'd most likely dump your ass. You're just an alternative. Sorry!.

barman give her one bottle of monkeytail and a plate of cowtail bills on lalasticlala


If to say you sef get plan B equation for balance

2dice01:
barman give her one bottle of monkeytail and a plate of cowtail bills on lalasti.clala

Which one is moneytail?. Anyway, thanks.

further hope this girl nor go kill me with laugh ...... But seriously guy you're a plan b to her, she is going to choose that guy over you any day any time and that is a fact. She just want you around in case her boyfriend dump her so she will have where to run to. You can accept her back, but it is time for you to also have your own plan b so you won't be heart broken when she finally leave you for her boyfriend.

Benita27:
Which one is moneytail?. Anyway, thanks.

if you havent tasted it then you are missing

Do yourself a favor sit down the tail of monkey is on da way

Had a similar experience jus 2 years ago.. Was in a long distance relationship with a gal who was engaged to an abroad based guy but neva told me.. I found out and turns out to b d guy she always claimed was a very close family friend.. I asked her about it and She denied dey were engaged still engaged but didn't let her know how much I already know about their relationship... D guy dey abroad so n me dey play home.. I kept on pretending like I believed her and continued shining d Congo for dem... Gave her a shocker wen I finished bleeping her one day and asked her how her traditional marriage plans were going.. I still remember d priceless look on her face lol... D traditional marriage was in January last year, d guy is still abroad and she still wants to kip wat she thinks we had...

I just couldn't understand anything you wrote up there. Please learn to spell, learn some grammar and learn how to punctuate properly before you post next time.

which one be further hope again ?
bro quit the relationship and move on

2dice01:
if you havent tasted it then you are missing

Do yourself a favor sit down the tail of monkey is on da way

I haven't. Will be waiting for it sha provided it isn't alcohol.

smardray:
Before anything, i decree and declare that i will never be in ur shoes in JESUS NAME. Buh like seriously u are overeacting.. At least u are a future hope so why all the fuss

Hahahahah

Livinus56:
It all started when my sister came for a holidays and I saw a picture of this pretty young lady in her phone which capture my interest. my sister told me that she is a niece to her fiance. then I try and got her contact through my sister and before you know it, we have become very close to the extent that a day doesn't pass without hearing from each other. she sent me a lot of her picture and I must confess that she is a beauty to behold. then I starting toasting her and I was very Happy because she was also interested in me. that's how our relationship began, we spoke on phone and chatted online for a year and two months before we finally meet each other, then we already develop a lot of affection for each other and we know a lot about each other, because we were so open from the very beginning. the night I meet her for the first time at the pack was magical, and our journey together home will forever remain engraved in my memory and no matter what happened I will forever cherish those moment. then I didn't need to introduce her to my parents because they already knew her very well. she introduce me to her own parents who seems to love me as well, the mother couldn't stay for a week without hearing from me, so everything was going quietly well between us and our families. she has this dream of going to high institution so I encourage her to because am not yet ready to settle down. and to the glory of God she was able to get admission a year ago, so everything was going smoothly for us until last week. when I want to see my sister in school because she wasn't feeling well and my fiancee happened to be the one taking care of her. so after spending like a week there my sister was ok but a day before I returned something happened. I don't normal go through her phone, but on that faithful evening I was watching pictures in her phone when my sister called her to accompany her to buy some food stuff. she wanted to collect the phone but seeing that am not done yet she decided to wait. but my sister told her to leave the phone because they won't stay long, and that was how she left the phone with me. I notice that she agitated a little before leaving phone for me, so I decided to go through all her contacts and behold I run into this whatsapp contact that she save with my (soul mate). I check to see if that was my contact but it wasn't, so I read all their massage there and I find out it was her former boyfriend, who travel to Europe about two years ago and going by their chat it's obvious that they maintained their relationship all this while. she did spoke to me about the guy right from the very beginning, she even confess to me that she loved the guy so much then, as he was the first man in her life and the one that take away her virginity. she also told me that she find something in that guy that she doesn't like, and that they were already having problems before he travel. I latter find out that she save my own number with (my further hope) I try to control myself that evening because I didn't want to create sin in front of my young sister, I was very hungry that evening and she knew it, but when she finish cooking I refuse to eat. she almost cry begging me to eat but I refuse. during d night I didn't allow her to touch me and I was supposed to go in the afternoon but I left very early in the morning. she and my sister see me off to the pack. she was crying asking me what she did wrong but I was so hurt to talk to her. when I left she called me countless times but I never pick her call nor reply her messages. I didn't communicate with her for two days until my sister called me begging me to at least tell her what she did wrong. then I decided to reply her message, she wanted to denial it but when she find out that I already know everything, she confess to me that he is her boyfriend who she has told me about before. it's true that she told me sometimes ago that the guy always call her, but what I didn't know is the fact that she still see the guy as her soul mate why I remain her further hope. I simply told her it's over between us, but she has bn pleading to me since to forgive her and give her a second chance. she claim that she love me so much and cannot imagine her life without me. so my fellow nairaland. if u were in my shoe what will you do? I still love her but I don't trust her anymore. should I let her go once and for all or give her another chance. I need a matured advice please.

,,i will simply pull off the shoes.

beardlessdude:
I just couldn't understand anything you wrote up there. Please learn to spell, learn some grammar and learn how to punctuate properly before you post next time.

"I didn't want to create sin" and "my further hope" cracked me up

maryjabeez:


"I didn't want to create sin" and "my further hope" cracked me up

"which capture my interest. " "then I starting toasting her" "because he was the one that take away her virginity"
Complete rubbish!
I don't know what is wrong with some guys, they won't pursue good education but go about pursuing unrequited love.

Lol @ Further hope... but some gehs can be somehow sha... why the need to store their names like that, what happens to their real names? Smh
My bro it depends on you, would you like to be a back-up plan? If not forget it abeg.

Go and find your soul mate

Op you've killed me with ur continuous Spoke! Wetin! She saved ur name with future hope abi? E better pass Maga 1 na. Why can't people dust their ex and move on

beardlessdude:
I just couldn't understand anything you wrote up there. Please learn to spell, learn some grammar and learn how to punctuate properly before you post next time.

So as educated as you are, you couldn't patch up the op faulty grammar and make sense of his post? Wonders!

Nma27:
So as educated as you are, you couldn't patch up the op faulty grammar and make sense of his post? Wonders!

no

beardlessdude:
no

Wonders

I didn't read it.

bro sorry oooo if u no b enermy of progress, how will u advice d bae to leave d Europe guy for u ........ morova wetin u dey do wit undergraduate wey Neva know her bearing abeg leave Her oooooo #let_me_come_and_going

it such a pity how women act these days.
I swear if these goes on, women will be on the losing part, the op is a good man and he decide to be faithful to a girl but with this experience he have do you think he would want to fall victim of this in another relationship.
I don't understand how a women will have a steady guy that love her and still be looking for one guy(because he is abroad) that is probably sleeping with white chicks and still be daydreaming about him all because of his foreign goodies and status.

this is one of the reasons why I can't blame fvck boys because what the importance of thinking you have a committed relationship when another guy can just sweep her off her feet, it not worth it at all

Nma27:
So as educated as you are, you couldn't patch up the op faulty grammar and make sense of his post? Wonders!

LMAO