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My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by rosejen(f): 1:20pm On Jan 22, 2010 |
i married last year October to my husband, i am a marketer in a bank and since i married my husband he has been suspecting me of double dating especially because of the job i do in the bank, now he has requested us to take a blood oath that if any any of us does hv sex aside from both of us, that the person will go mad. pls advise me on what to do.should i take the oath or not? |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by SamMilla1(m): 1:35pm On Jan 22, 2010 |
You see, one problem with all of us is that we strip the contradicting part of our stories when seeking for advice. I dont know you but i believe you are not telling us everything. Men dont just demand for such without genuine evidence because "you hardly see a man that wants to be tied with one lady forever"[except me ]. On a serious note, our advises here will harm you more because we are dealing with quarter information. people will soon start to tell you what to do, especially this our Nigerian girls who live in america. if you want to take their advice, migrate to america first otherwise call your husband and prove to him you are not raising up your gown for MD. dont go for any oath, its old fashioned. thanks, 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by rosejen(f): 1:47pm On Jan 22, 2010 |
@Sam milla. if you care to know, that is exactly why i am seeking for an advise, i really do not want him to be mad in the future because of some silly oath tha we took,i am pretty sure of myself but he keeps insisting that we must do it, he wants to show me he cares and loves me and he is afraid people will take me away from him moreso when i meet alot of faces as a markerter everyday. i am just skeptical because of my belief and at the same time my mind tells me to go for it since it will make me know forever that my husband is mine. just in case if you care to know, i am also an officer of the bank and i still advise you to know how you talk to people esp the ones you dont know. the world is so so small |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by Kx: 1:56pm On Jan 22, 2010 |
rosejen: did u have to make that statement? i thougth you asked for advice. i bet you ll scare away useful advice if you attack who said what and not what they said. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by selencious(f): 2:14pm On Jan 22, 2010 |
Don't ever go for it,no matter what;cos you might just go mad someday. Cm'n, your husband should know more than that. Besides, if there's no trust in marriage, its not gonna last. your husband should learn to trust you. I don't know if you cheat though; if you do, God Almighty would def judge you. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by Nobody: 2:26pm On Jan 22, 2010 |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by SamMilla1(m): 2:42pm On Jan 22, 2010 |
chaircover:she made a lot of points here. the answer to your problems lies there. for the second time in less than an hour, DONT TAKE ANY OATH. The one you took at the alter is exactly the reason why he has the right to suspect you. A second oath will escalate and complicate issues. At the end, you or him will end up dead for nothing. |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by ucnduka(f): 3:24pm On Jan 22, 2010 |
@poster, chaircover has said all. Don't go for it as most oaths taken outside the marital vows backfires. |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by rosejen(f): 4:42pm On Jan 22, 2010 |
Thanks to you Chaircover and all of you who made valuable contributions, i was kind of confused before but i am straight now.Will stand my ground and say no. |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by beingme(f): 5:40pm On Jan 22, 2010 |
oat what? |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by Ndipe(m): 10:59pm On Jan 22, 2010 |
Dont take it. |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by MyneWhite1(f): 11:37pm On Jan 22, 2010 |
PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THAT OATH! You can swear in front of each other or even a pastor but a blood oath? NO WAY! |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by Ndipe(m): 1:10am On Jan 23, 2010 |
Dont even swear! |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by Outstrip(f): 2:45am On Jan 23, 2010 |
do not do it. |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by Pampers: 4:21pm On Jan 24, 2010 |
Dear as everyone has said, dont take any oath. This issue is an issue of trust. Moreover position you are is a threat to him. I want u to kno dat he loves u,thats why he made such a request. Please respect him. carry him along in all u do. Give him the gist of your encounters in the day. Seek his advise on issues. Dont keep him at a distance.cary him along |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by coolier(f): 9:34pm On Jan 24, 2010 |
rosejen: And forever you're his. I would say go for it if it doesn't involve going to a shrine. If it's only something you do together. And you'll both be stuck together for life. Isn't that what you both wanted when you decided to get married. Till death do you part? And if you decide not to do it are you not confirming his worst fears or telling him you plan on straying in future? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by angelila: 10:34am On Jan 25, 2010 |
don' take that oath it is very delicate |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by rosejen(f): 10:52am On Jan 25, 2010 |
I really appreciate all your individual contributions, i wasnt sure of what i am supposed to do or say to him before because i was scared of saying no may be then he will his fear of distrust on me will increase but i was also scared of offending God, who said our yes should yes and no should be yes. I love my husband and i am sure i will keep myself for him forever and i do know he loves me too But what gave him that idea of us taking a blood oath is what i do not know, yet i was lured on the fact that if i take the oath then i would know forever that i wouldnt share my husband with anybody in life and forever too. Funny enough i told my relatives about it and they advised me to go for it, that i am a lucky woman for a man to pledge his life and DIGNITY for me. I wont say i am confused here cos i am not, i wont go for it cos i love my husband and i wouldnt like him to regret his actions LATER, then people will blame me for nt stopping him. Thanks to you all. |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by rosejen(f): 10:57am On Jan 25, 2010 |
who said our yes should yes and no should be yes pls i am sorry for this error above, (no should be no) |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by N101: 9:59pm On Jan 25, 2010 |
^^^ 33"Again you have heard that it was said to those of old, "You shall not swear falsely, but shall perform your oaths to the Lord.' 34 But I say to you, do not swear at all: neither by heaven, for it is God's throne; 35 nor by the earth, for it is His footstool; nor by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. 36 Nor shall you swear by your head, because you cannot make one hair white or black. 37 But let your "Yes' be "Yes,' and your "No,' "No.' For whatever is more than these is from the evil one. (Matthew 5:33-37, New King James Version) You're welcome |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by beingme(f): 12:53pm On Jan 26, 2010 |
for ur husband to say such a thing, something must have prompted that maybe ur dressing, ur fone conversation, ur kind of friends, time u gets home and ur attitude towards him. u may have to work on urself a little. change some things and see the difference 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by KennyG6(m): 1:23pm On Jan 26, 2010 |
@poster, but you took an oath the day u got married! The marriage vow is an oath for goodness sake. Besides he is asking you to take another one to ensure that neither of you cheats while you are still married. On one side i dont see anything wrong with both parties taking an oath although i wont go as far as "blood covenant". If you feel you will struggle to keep your side of the bargain please dont do it. |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by SALady(f): 1:28pm On Jan 26, 2010 |
rosejen: My goodness, what has this world come to. I thought the marriage vows you took in front of a priest, witnesses and God were good enough oath for two people to understand the depth of their love and its true meaning. My word there's even a contract to proof that an oath was taken by two people. Why a second oath, what is this? I am worried about the next thing that your husband will ask you to do to prove your love for him, or is it the next thing that you will contemplating to do just to prove to your husband how much you love him. You know what as a matter of fact I think this is just a joke. There's no such people dont do such things unless if they come from the stone age, and your husband being human and a new age man Ithink all he needs is a hug. Just give the poor guy a hug and tell him you love him, and that he must please stop playing games with your head otherwise you'll age before time, |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by Nobody: 2:44pm On Jan 26, 2010 |
stay on the safe side don't take it, an Oath is a big no no no for me. if he's so insecure then leave the benefit of doubt to him or he can beat it. |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by Busybody2(f): 3:57pm On Jan 26, 2010 |
Kx: Wondering what this statement of hers, has to do with the price of fish in the market too bro |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by ugo2u(m): 4:35pm On Jan 26, 2010 |
Pls do not go for any OATH, never ever swear by anything, its the most dangerous kind of chains you can put your self in. You rather offend your husband than with God, believe me your life will be most miserable. He himself aint no saint (No human being is) and since Jesus paid such a great price to set you free why put yourself back in bondage. Girl just be faithful to your husband and then challenge him to find you guilty |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by Ndipe(m): 8:05pm On Jan 26, 2010 |
ugo_2u: Perfect answer! |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by Nobody: 1:18pm On Jan 27, 2010 |
My dear , please and please Don't take the oath. I beg you in the name of God. The devil is wicked and as soon as you take the oath, things would change. What if you get raped or sumthin' ( just saying). |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by jumie(f): 1:37pm On Jan 27, 2010 |
Are you giving your husband reasons not to trust you? Search yourself and make amends. The oath is a nonsense idea! I dint know civilized people still do such a thing rather than dialogue! |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by Lacuzy: 7:36pm On Jan 29, 2010 |
rosejen plz dont do it remember he is a man and men tend to cheat someday he might forget about the oath and might want to play the usual mr loverboy some men do now you know the consequences. chaircover has said it all. luck. |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by Alxmyr(m): 3:54pm On Feb 04, 2010 |
All I could sense is insecurity and unwarranted jealousy on your husband's part. For cry out loud the marriage is too early to be putting this kind of strain. It is uncalled for and neither of you need it. You might out of your desperation to please him want to go for it. But life is crazy, life is harsh and life is unpredictable. There are so much of uncertainty ahead of us that we need to do everything to lighten our burden today. God forbid, what happen if you fall a victim of rape. You become mad despite your innocence. What happen if he suddenly catch 'agrow' on a trip to Calabar or elsewhere, and there is a quicky, you come back to take care of mad man. If either of you fall short of the oath, and one run mad. What cure does it have for your marriage? What good will it be to your children, or are you planning not to have children? What happen if suddenly, there are life threatening challenge, and you both need to move on in life. My dear sister, if he is scared that despite your marriage, you can still leave him, then get pregnant and have a baby. That will pre-occupy his mind. But never swear/take an oath of that nature. There is more to what meet the eyes. I so submit. |
Re: My Husband Want To Lead Me To An Oath, Pls Advise by opokonwa(m): 2:51pm On Feb 05, 2010 |
@poster There is more to your husband's suspicion than the reasons you gave us here. Try and find out |
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