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Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by steppins: 5:14pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
happney65:First of all, I don't know how this is any of your business. Secondly, marriage rites differ from state to state. The 500k is for places like Mbaise, mbaino and some areas in Imo state. Even at that, sometimes the bride's family sometimes takes most of the responsibility. 1 Like |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by steppins: 5:23pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Diademk07:They don't need to tell the man what to do. He knew the tradition and still he chose to cohabit with the woman. He wants to marry an Igbo woman, but he's not willing to do what it takes. Even if he doesn't know, he should have asked. Ignorance is not an excuse. I can't live with a woman from another tribe in my house and claim not to know their tradition. 2 Likes |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by Nobody: 5:25pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Dayor100:F*uck you.and Learn to respect people's culture 1 Like |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by Diademk07: 5:39pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
steppins: Lmao! You don't know the man is a fellow Ibo? Anyway, all I see is selfish greedy folks with a dumb daughter who agreed to cohabit with a man! It's not the man's fault abeg, he never forced her to cohabit with him and she's an adult! |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by nonut: 5:41pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Oyindidi:See which one? The dowry? Traditional wedding and dowry ain't the same. |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by Oyindidi(f): 5:42pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
nonut:I said no to his question not topic |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by steppins: 5:50pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Diademk07:His name is Chudi, he's Igbo. That's even the main reason why I don't pity him. He knew it was something that was prohibited in Igbo land and yet, he allowed the woman to live with him. Cohabitation is an insult to igbo families. People will ridicule the family because of it. It simply means their daughter cannot get married properly like others. The man got what he deserved. 2 Likes |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by nonut: 5:52pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Oyindidi:Ok O! |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by Diademk07: 6:03pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
steppins: And the daughter is a kid not to have known all these before choosing to cohabit with the man? My main problem is blaming the man when their daughter is the one to be blamed and where were the folks when she was cohabiting with the man? Did they chastise her? No. Did they drag her out of it? No. But now that she's dead, they want money, right? Abeg. |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by happney65: 6:15pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
steppins: He paid that much in Ebonyi state and that is a fact..I am saying it is wrong to charge that much because a woman wants to become your wife..Is she being sold?Are you selling your daughter,or sister?Shioor |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by steppins: 6:15pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Diademk07:Go and marry an Igbo woman and blame the dead daughter. You live with another man's daughter without their knowledge and when she dies, you take the corpse back to them. You dey try. Even people who have maids or apprentice in their homes or shops, seek permission from the family or a relative, no matter the age of the person. Marriage is something between two families. If you cohabitate in your region, Igbos don't. 2 Likes |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by steppins: 6:23pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
happney65:He lied. You can't pay up to that, not in Ebonyi. In some parts of Imo state, yes. But not in Ebonyi state. That state is the poorest state in the East, so how can the poor people in that state pay up to that amount? Most of their people are the ones who hawk on the roads, sell food in small shops and do other minor jobs you see igbos do. How the fûck are they gonna get 500k for marriage? Tell your friend to take that fake story and shove it. 1 Like |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by Diademk07: 6:29pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
steppins: How did he know the lady's house if the family weren't aware of them being together? You mean the folks didn't know their daughter gave birth to 2 kids already? Lmao. There's no way justifying this, this is pure greed from the folks. One poster even talked about his uncle doing a lot of things for his wife's folks and they were all smile but as soon as she died, they changed face as if they never knew him as well as requesting millions for her dowry. The question is were the folks blind at the time the daughter was cohabiting? |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by happney65: 6:30pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
steppins: He is yoruba,he lives in lagos not ebonyi..Thank you |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by samsongbemisola(m): 6:36pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
This happened to a neighbor and cousin of mine. They arrested my cousin until he agreed to pay her bride price, bring drinks and other commodities of marriage. It was just like Nolly wood. They said he kidnapped and kill her despite the fact that the elder sister of the lady knows about the relationship because they lived in the same area and she died during childbirth. |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by steppins: 6:57pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
happney65:Hahahahaha! No wonder! He was magad! God I wan die. He should have spent that money on a beautiful, educated Imo girl, who will still cook good food and fûck his brains out. 1 Like |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by steppins: 7:00pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Diademk07:I won't go back and forth with you anymore. It's a complete waste of my time. Like I said earlier, go and cohabit with an Igbo woman and see what happens. 1 Like |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by Emanodimo(m): 7:10pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Well, I am in support of the lessons learnt from such culture. I have a live scenario where a lady was thrown out by her Uncle in Lagos. The boyfriend harboured her. In the lady opinion she doesn't want to contact her family to avoid blame games. No doubt, sex is involve. Both are Igbo. In the event of death of that lady, what will be the likely consequence? How such will be treated in such culture? |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by Diademk07: 7:11pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
steppins: Well, I don't cohabit with a woman and won't because that's unethical. However, any woman that chooses to cohabit with a man is culpable of the blame, not just the man alone. Moreover, the lady's folks have no say if they know of it and choose to keep quiet until she died! So what exactly are they requesting the bride price for? To raise up the dead woman? I would only fault the man if the woman's family didn't know about the affair. |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by Diademk07: 7:13pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
steppins: Well, I don't cohabit with a woman and won't because that's unethical. However, any woman that chooses to cohabit with a man is culpable of the blame, not just the man alone. Moreover, the lady's folks have no say if they know of it and choose to keep quiet until she died! So what exactly are they requesting the bride price for? To raise up the dead woman? I would only fault the man if the woman's family didn't know about the affair before she died. |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by steppins: 7:36pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Diademk07: 1 Like
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Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by moriss2(m): 7:37pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
God help your children
There is no sign of respect for the because of money |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by efavour: 7:43pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
jhydebaba:hahaha Mr afonjo. It happened to my afonja friend. It really wrecked him. I f3lt sorry for him cos he was a good guy. The guy was away and the pregnant igbo girlfriend fell on the bathroom tile and died before the neighbour could do anything. It was a sad story. He loved the babe and was planning for marriage proceeding but time was choking him as it was the booming season for his business . Anyways sha,he has to marry her corpse and it was a costly venture. |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by Unimaginable123: 7:46pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
ojun50:the children belong to woman's family |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by efavour: 7:51pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Emanodimo:who sent the boyfriend message? My dear, let her go back to her papa in the village. Anyways, it's is more serious when the lady dies during childbirth or with pregnancy,it means you have already wife her and didn't do the needful.you discourages cohabitation which is an insult to parents of the girl.if your friend didn't accommodate her, she will be forced to reconcile with her people or go rent her own place. Just don't live with someone's daughter with their permission simple. 2 Likes |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by efavour: 7:58pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
happney65:Did you read what she wrote at all? If you don't have money for marriage ceremony, carry even ordinary schnapps to her parents. It's accepted as honest intention of marriage proposal. You can even pay just bride price without all the other requirements pending when you get money for other materials needed. That way, she is your wife even if on credit and if she died tomorrow,the parents won't drag you. Just fucking respect the parents by stating your honest intention of marriage as per customs, no he you born the girl for them. 1 Like |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by fratermathy(m): 8:02pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Amarabae: When have I ever insinuated the contrary? Kindly regale me with tales of such! And yes, we bury her like that! |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by efavour: 8:04pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Statsocial:why should the church fight it? What they should fight is cohabitation without marriage. |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by efavour: 8:16pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Amarabae:. My dear don't mind them, I'm my place in Anambra,when your brother is cohabiting,you all pressure him to do the needful. An in-law of ours went to pay the bride price of the girl from our place that the son was cohabiting with in PH to avoid story that touches. You parents will even volunteer drink at least to register their intention to the girl's parents. 1 Like |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by 1234IKECHhukwu: 10:56pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Blackfire:but don't remove the fact that sex is very sweet or why do u think people cohabit without waiting to formalize their union in a proper way. |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by Turbocharged: 12:17am On Jun 21, 2017 |
adadike281:I am not lazy at all. I can trek from Lagos to Imo state, I can also shout for 6 months if Arsenal win Champions League. |
Re: Man To Pay N800,000 To Marry Dead Woman As Wife by Psoul(m): 6:32am On Jun 21, 2017 |
eflintsone: Pls can you for at least once talk like someone that has a developed brain. Don't just talk because words are flowing in and out of your mouth. Before you tal reason beyond your scope and kw that others will analyze/diagnose you through what u say or write. It is a foolish question to ask if God asked anyone to marry the dead. It is also foolishness to expect to see every offense and their punishments written in the Bible or Quran. Even in your family, do u write out all the offenses and their equivalent punishments to ur family members. Sometimes your child will commit something and u chose to punish him/her by denying him/her a meal. Tell me where approved such punishment. Still the punishment is acceptable as a corrective measure. Bros, we have culture and most of them are used to checkmate activities of people. So if your cultures allows all thing, our do not. |
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