happney65:


Lol..Keep on running away from the truth..if the dowry is not up to that,so why is other requirements up to that?Paying 500K and bargaining in your words..What the fuckkkkk are you bargaining?Fowl or Ram?Issshhhhh...No wonder ladies from the south-east account for the highest number of single ladies in Nigeria..

This is what causes it

Diademk07:


Lmao. If you must know, we have an Ibo tenant in our compound and the wife has often told us about how her husband struggled to pay the enormous bride price requested by her folks. It's probably the reason why he thinks he can beat without repercussion because he already bought her from her folks.

You haven't answered my question though. Where were her folks all this while she was cohabiting with the said man? And how is it the man's fault if an adult chose to cohabit with him? These are all common sense.

Dayor100:
Bleep the useless culture

steppins:

They don't need to tell the man what to do. He knew the tradition and still he chose to cohabit with the woman.
He wants to marry an Igbo woman, but he's not willing to do what it takes. Even if he doesn't know, he should have asked. Ignorance is not an excuse.
I can't live with a woman from another tribe in my house and claim not to know their tradition.

Oyindidi:
where u see that one?

nonut:

See which one? The dowry? Traditional wedding and dowry ain't the same.

Diademk07:


Lmao!

You don't know the man is a fellow Ibo?

Anyway, all I see is selfish greedy folks with a dumb daughter who agreed to cohabit with a man! It's not the man's fault abeg, he never forced her to cohabit with him and she's an adult!

Oyindidi:
I said no to his question not topic

steppins:

His name is Chudi, he's Igbo. That's even the main reason why I don't pity him.
He knew it was something that was prohibited in Igbo land and yet, he allowed the woman to live with him.
Cohabitation is an insult to igbo families. People will ridicule the family because of it. It simply means their daughter cannot get married properly like others.
The man got what he deserved.

steppins:

First of all, I don't know how this is any of your business.
Secondly, marriage rites differ from state to state.
The 500k is for places like Mbaise, mbaino and some areas in Imo state.
Even at that, sometimes the bride's family sometimes takes most of the responsibility.

Diademk07:


And the daughter is a kid not to have known all these before choosing to cohabit with the man?

My main problem is blaming the man when their daughter is the one to be blamed and where were the folks when she was cohabiting with the man? Did they chastise her? No. Did they drag her out of it? No.

But now that she's dead, they want money, right? Abeg.

happney65:


He paid that much in Ebonyi state and that is a fact..I am saying it is wrong to charge that much because a woman wants to become your wife..Is she being sold?Are you selling your daughter,or sister?Shioor

steppins:

Go and marry an Igbo woman and blame the dead daughter.
You live with another man's daughter without their knowledge and when she dies, you take the corpse back to them. You dey try.
Even people who have maids or apprentice in their homes or shops, seek permission from the family or a relative, no matter the age of the person.
Marriage is something between two families. If you cohabitate in your region, Igbos don't.

steppins:

He lied. You can't pay up to that, not in Ebonyi.
In some parts of Imo state, yes. But not in Ebonyi state.
That state is the poorest state in the East, so how can the poor people in that state pay up to that amount?
Most of their people are the ones who hawk on the roads, sell food in small shops and do other minor jobs you see igbos do.
How the fûck are they gonna get 500k for marriage?
Tell your friend to take that fake story and shove it.

happney65:


He is yoruba,he lives in lagos not ebonyi..Thank you

Diademk07:


How did he know the lady's house if the family weren't aware of them being together? You mean the folks didn't know their daughter gave birth to 2 kids already? Lmao. There's no way justifying this, this is pure greed from the folks.

One poster even talked about his uncle doing a lot of things for his wife's folks and they were all smile but as soon as she died, they changed face as if they never knew him as well as requesting millions for her dowry. The question is were the folks blind at the time the daughter was cohabiting?

steppins:

I won't go back and forth with you anymore. It's a complete waste of my time.
Like I said earlier, go and cohabit with an Igbo woman and see what happens.

steppins:

I won't go back and forth with you anymore. It's a complete waste of my time.
Like I said earlier, go and cohabit with an Igbo woman and see what happens.

Diademk07:


Well, I don't cohabit with a woman and won't because that's unethical.

However, any woman that chooses to cohabit with a man is culpable of the blame, not just the man alone. Moreover, the lady's folks have no say if they know of it and choose to keep quiet until she died! So what exactly are they requesting the bride price for? To raise up the dead woman?

I would only fault the man if the woman's family didn't know about the affair before she died.

jhydebaba:
See culture in this 21st century


Whatever rocks their boats.



I aint touching any Igbo lady not even with a 100feet stick


Call me Afonja, na we we.

ojun50:
Wht if it was the man that die with out paying the bride price of the woman nd he had children. So wht will happen to d woman

Emanodimo:
Well, I am in support of the lessons learnt from such culture.
I have a live scenario where a lady was thrown out by her Uncle in Lagos. The boyfriend harboured her. In the lady opinion she doesn't want to contact her family to avoid blame games.

No doubt, sex is involve.
Both are Igbo.

In the event of death of that lady, what will be the likely consequence? How such will be treated in such culture?

happney65:


Means you guys sell your women isnt it?

Amarabae:
oh you know now that south south is not an ethnic group?
Ok in ur urhobo, if a man is with a wife and they have kids without paying the dowry, if the woman dies, how do you people handle it? Bury her like that?

Statsocial:
I hope the church fights against this sort of tradition.

Amarabae:
why do you guys love to rob in biafra in all your comments?. Is this nightmare or what?
It is our culture.
We love it.
WE ARE IGBOS. Proud and Bold.
if you don't like it, you know what to do at a transformer.

Blackfire:




Don't mind some of them... Too much pornography is confusing them.
To marry an igbo lady or live with one is more than sex..

Guy go and see there family for bride price and idoyen nmayan.


Life is more than sex.

adadike281:
Lmao! OK now. as long as u are not lazy in all aspect

eflintsone:
now answer this "did God ask any of his creatures to marry the dead ?? "