@ ozi, no one is saying you shouldn't give it a try, just that you might end up trying to please your parents.

what is wrong with pleasing ones's parents? Ive had a relationship broken up because her parents didnt approve of me.

@ nicetohave: Please just read part of my earlier post below:-

DE-KING:

trying to please your parents.

I boldened "trying" just for the sake of emphasis. You are not supposed to try to please your parents rather, you should please them when and if you have to, but not at the expense of your happiness. There's nothing with you trying to please your parents. Okay?
Hope I've clearified things.

I will not let my parents choose a spouse for me, their advice would be welcome, but not as in...like forcing me on the guy,like I must marry him or something even when I am not in love with him, they wouldn't do that anyway.

I would never let them choose for me, at the end of the day its my life and they need to let me make decisions for myself. Although the decisions i make may be mistakes, they need to let me learn from my mistakes.

that is a good piont to learn from ur mistake..but watch it ..u might make a mistake that could cost ur life

As well as i respect my parents, i dont think they are good enough to choose for me who i will spend a life time with. They are only qualified to suggest and not to choose.

Lai Lai ! whether it is introduction o! or forcing o! or anything like that! i will not let my parent shoose for me. i will bring him home, if they dont approve, they will try, in the end, they wont have shoice and we'll marry! shimple as ABC

i don't think that they are to mchoose for me whom to spend my life with but they can be of good help to advice and give opinions about my love life...........

cheekee:

i don't think that they are to mchoose for me whom to spend my life with but they can be of good help to advice and give opinions about my love life...........

i agree with u

There is nothing wrong when they choose. It is only wrong when they say you must marry the person they have chosen for you. I will be very glad to know who ever my parent recommend, after getting to know the person very well, then proposal may then come thereafter, if she possesses those qualities I want from a woman.

Choose my spouse for me? Now, that's just pushing it. They chose the clothes I'd go to church with, then choose my spouse for me? No way. I love them....infact, too much. But the love goes as far as to say that at whatever age, I'm old enough to make my own choices, then I can deal with the consequences of that myself...whether good or bad. In a nutshell, no way!

Naah, my folks no better. If they choose my spouse, they might as well run the rest of my life including the marriage

My parent wont even try it, i trust them. They are not the type though.
Even if they are, they know their child is very sick

YES!...... IF YOUR'E DAFT ENOUGH TO LET THEM !

Olorididan:

YES!...... IF YOUR'E DAFT ENOUGH TO LET !

that's funny!!!!!

I cant allow my parents choose for me.My mum will only tell me (as she has been telling my big sis) that i shd marry a guy i knw i'll be proud of,a guy good enough to live with and things like that.

Cheekee i love dat u bring d guy home and dey advice u on wat to do.

Thank u so much outkast

My papa and mama no dey for dat yeye.........

obum:

Cheekee i love that u bring d guy home and dey advice u on what to do.

yap!!!that's worth it!!!!!

actually what we should all understand is that, this particular man/woman that they've chosen for u is not somebody you really know and before you marry anybody you have to know the person to some extent.

to me in this case i will never allow my parent to choose a woman for me, because I'm the person that is going to marry and live with her, so i know the kind of woman i want to marry and already i have no reason to accept the woman they brought for me.

this is like interfering in your marriage,home and so on, because actually they will always want to know everything that is going on between both of you

wascoms:

actually what we should all understand is that, this particular man/woman that they've chosen for u is not somebody you really know and before you marry anybody you have to know the person to some extent.

to me in this case i will never allow my parent to choose a woman for me, because I'm the person that is going to marry and live with her, so i know the kind of woman i want to marry and already i have no reason to accept the woman they brought for me.

this is like interfering in your marriage,home and so on, because actually they will always want to know everything that is going on between both of you

True that!

its a bad thing but parents do it but they say honour ur fathere and mother so that ur days will b long

this will be my response: Mum, Dad if na joke make u stop am

loriann:

its a bad thing but parents do it but they say honour your fathere and mother so that your days will b long

I can honor them by communicating my feelings with them, and if they won't understand, I am an adult, even with parents, in God's eyes, so if my lack of acceptance of a spouse is out of spite, that will be judged differently by God. I think.

Hell no. I want to be able to choose my 'husband'.

erm, nope.they can't.i marry who i want to marry

Nope