Can your father or mother chose your spouse for you? If they bring someone to you and tell you that's the person they want you to spend your whole life with/marry will you do it or agree to that? What will you do?

If I'm not committed/engaged and the lady has the qualities I want and she consents to it, why not?

I am saying they can choose, but not force me.

Yes, ,if shes the same gurl i have been wanting to date

I read this story about a man who was courting a young Nigerian woman. So one day his father called him and he said "I have found the woman I want you to marry". Turns out it was the same girl he was courting, so he said, "well Daddy, you know what? I guess I have to respect your decision!" So they got married and the father was so happy about his son's "obedience". They didn't tell anyone the true story about how they met until after the old man had passed on!

So, if my parents choose a girl for me, I'll date her. I am very lazy when it comes to dating, so if my parents wish to bring a girl to me on a platter of gold, that will be very lovely. If I don't like her, I'll return her to my parents and tell them to go and look for another one. This is called dating without stress. However, by now my parents know better than to expect me to marry a girl I don't like just because they say so. It just can't happen.

Never! I will never allow my parents to choose for me because I will be the one to live with her so I should know what I like and what suits me.

Who wears the shoes know where it pinches.

Well Seun dat sounds very very funny to me, u mean u will sit down and expect ur Dad/Mum to bring a lady to u for marriage hhhhhmn. NAWA FOR U OH

no way

HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM NOT A IYAWO SARA

If in good faith, why not? I am no sissy but if in good faith, id accept

hmm, my parents choose my spouse for me? I don't even know how i feel about that right now but i'd definately rather choose him myself.
@ seun: you daddy/mummy's boy!!!
@omoge02863: what is an iyawo sara?

gift wife

am down with FOD and SEUN's opinion

Hell NO..my parents are not my type simple..they will find their type..for me

If i have mental Problem, YES they can choose for me.

If they are jobless and they think choosing a man for me is their new job -- They must be dreaming.

In short, NO they can't. Them chop winch?

When we say chosing, we are not saying "compelling" here o, in one way or the other friends, peers etc, have played a role in who we date/marry; and in some cases gone as far as impressing the person on us, so why not "our" parents, or is it because we think they are "outdated"?

nah, my parents can't choose noone for me to get married to.. I'm too stubborn for that kind of stuff.

why dosen't that suprise me
just kidding girl!!
sorry for going off topic people.

NO NO NO
Itz like u cant choose a wife for urself
or ur not man enough
hell no
uv gotta get a wife for urself or there's no wife

Choose for me, my folks are even more confused than i am with picking a man.
Except they pick like a whole lot of them and I'll choose one

thats a good start, like "a Mr Universe contest?"

hello nicetohave here we i am simply saying compelling u too, cos most parents want to choose and pinpoint who u should date and marry too, so they re also COMPELLING U TO.

exactly

[ thats a good start, like "a Mr Universe contest?" /quote]

ocho:

why dosen't that suprise me

if i catch u ehn anywayz it's d truth, my mom will prolly be like''she's been so nice for a long time now, i don't want any quarrels'' cos lawd knows i'll bring it to them.

yes, i can.

i respect my mama enough to trust her judgement.

We are talking about choosing which also means someone who would live with you for the rest of your life. Of course I wouldn't accept that because it's my life to live and I have to exercise the right to choose that God has given to me.

thank you Ozi, me too (after some bluffing though )

I will call the "chosen guy" and ask him if he's not even ashamed of himself to be chosen for somebody as if they are choosing Ileya Ram in the market.

that wont be nice, instead of doing that why not give him a chance to prove his mettle....all your parents have done is an "introduction", not force you to marry him.

My mom will probably choose a churchy, straight A, non-fashionable, family/church friend's son which is definitely not my type. But my Dad... i guess i'll like his choice because he loves good things but i'm sure NTA, BBC and CNN will all know how the guy came about.lol So NO.i won't allow them choose 4 me. !

[I will call the "chosen guy" and ask him if he's not even ashamed of himself to be chosen for somebody as if they are choosing Ileya Ram in the market./quote]

Ozi of course all of us respects our jugdement to trust her but not to choose your life partner for u for heavens sake, chose out of the many that come around and take dem to ur parents.

Hiya obum and de-king,

if my mum chooses for me, I won't just marry the him without getting to know him first.

it's just that i will keep an open mind, and not just reject her choice without meeting the person.

u see the older i get the more i realise that parents will only have the best intentions for thier kids.

they have had a lot of experiences, and will look out for things that a lot if youths think is insignificant.

they are more culturally and in some cases spiritually aware.

im sure a lot of us that are over 20, look back and remember times when we didn't agree with somethings we were told.

but now we realise with age and more wisdom that they were right.

see it's not like if u should just marry anyone they suggest, but you can at least give it a chance before saying no.