I've been an addict nairalander, posting for the first time, pls I need advice on what to do because I'm confuse, might be lengthy pls bear with me.
Where do I even start?
In summary I've been dating this guy and we are to go for introduction by September, I served in Delta state while he was working in Benin, when I passed out I stayed with him for a while like a month plus before I left for Lagos to be with my sister she's kind of heavy and need me around. He was transfered to Akure I still came down with him before I left.
The main issue here is he called me sometime last week to come and help him pack completely from Benin to Akure but I told him to seek permission from my big Sis, He did nd she told him she also have to ask my mum if I'm allowed to go,,obviously mum refused on d basis that he has not come home and I already stayed for awhile with him, he should be patient and do the right thing.
He was upset I didn't come, in a nutshell now he isn't picking my calls, not returning them nor replying my messages, seriously I'm going out of my mind,the last time we spoke was on Tuesday and kept saying me I refuse to come he'll get his revenge.
Pls is this how to revenge? His silence has been eating me up, my Sis she's also worried but don't want to get involve, I speak with his mum daily is it proper I tell her? Pls I need advice, I know its deliberate act but I'm emotionally down, can't think straight, help me fellow nairalanders, should I go,I'm tired of this,tanks a lot, insults are welcome.

He's not good for you

His actions doesn't speak well of him.

He threatened you with a "revenge" for not coming to assist him park his things in a state you're not even at.. Please look well o.


You sef wey go spend a month In the house of a guy thats not married to you, Na wa for you

Don't know wat to do

Airforce1:
He's not good for you

I'm tired oh been begging

He never loved you a first cz if he truly do I see no reasons for revenge, though have seen a relationship where flimsy excuses ruined such relationships...
My sister if you to be a friend I will advice you to calm down cz he will surely come back to you!!!

He is acting childishly for ignoring your calls in the name of revenge..... I advice you explain everything to his mom in other to reach him through her.

I don't usually comments on such sh!t, BT let me just try. God damn it, he is a f#cking kid for acting that way. God damn it

Op
to tell you the truth i didn't read all that

I think you should be calm about this, he will find his way back to you.


He's only acting like a kid.

the nigga needs space

Can you kindly give him the whole universe

Give him tym, he wld definitely come around.

Nickymezor:
Give him tym, he wld come around.

Yes he will surely come around

Gee! Congrats you got yourself a man-child. But Op seriously, is your family a corporation? What's with all these permissions?


BTW, It's ok for him to be disappointed but not to be a baby about it. Your ma said it all, he should do the right thing if he wants it so bad. This is one of those signs you see before marriage and ignore, later you'll start seeking 'nother round of advises.

ochobaba:
He never loved you a first cz if he truly do I see no reasons for revenge, though have seen a relationship where flimsy excuses ruined such relationships...
My sister if you to be a friend I will advice you to calm down cz he will surely come back to you!!!

I'll do just this, I'll let him be.

tosyne2much:
Yes he will surely come around

Hez just acting up... He will re trace his steps eventually. OP, jst relax.

2dice01:
the nigga needs space


Can you kindly give him the whole universe

Yes I can, I will, won't bother him any longer, tnx a bunch.

Nickymezor:
Hez just acting up... He will re trace his steps eventually. OP, jst relax.

Most grateful, I'll do jus dat, let him be, I pray he re trace back.

Airforce1:
He's not good for you

His actions doesn't speak well of him.

He threatened you with a "revenge" for not coming to assist him park his things in a state you're not even at.. Please look well o.


You sef wey go spend a month In the house of a guy thats not married to you, Na wa for you

Airforce?

austyn0:
He is acting childishly for ignoring your calls in the name of revenge..... I advice you explain everything to his mom in other to reach him through her.

I'm feel he might get upset for involving his mum, I might just give it a try, if he doesn't speak to me by Sunday.

Aderola15:


Airforce?

Abi?? I know I caused it for staying awhile u knw how d tin be naaa, aniway I need help now.

liz4eno:
Most grateful, I'll do jus dat, let him be, I pray he re trace back.

Alright. I do hope so too

tosyne2much:
I think he's only acting strange due to his disappointment for not being available due to the circumstances beyond your control. Though, his attitude is not borne out of whether you offended him or it, he's only acting cold due to his disappointment for helping him when he needed you most

I will advise you to keep pleading with text messages if he refuses to pick your call, and I trust that, with time, he will forgive you.
if things remain unchanged, then you can beckon on his mom and explain to her

Please disregard any advice that you should dump his ass and do everything to get your man back

Forgive her, forgive her you say? What's her crime because I'm yet to see any from her post?

liz4eno:
Yes I can, I will, won't bother him any longer, tnx a bunch.

good...

When he comes around dont do too much shakara o

VargasVee:
Gee! Congrats you got yourself a man-child. But Op seriously, is your family a corporation? What's with all these permissions?


BTW, It's ok for him to be disappointed but not to be a baby about it. Your ma said it all, he should do the right thing if he wants it so bad. This is one of those signs you see before marriage and ignore, later you'll start seeking another round of advise.

The "man- child' got me laughing, but seriously we r in love but this side of him I can't tell.

liz4eno:
The "man- child' got me laughing, but seriously we r in love but this side of him I can't tell.

I guess this isn't the first time he's up to this?

Aderola15:


Forgive her, forgive her you say? What's her crime because I'm yet to see any from her post?

Maybe because I don't know the right word to use sha

tosyne2much:
I think he's only acting strange due to his disappointment for not being available due to the circumstances beyond your control. Though, his attitude is not borne out of whether you offended him or it, he's only acting cold due to his disappointment for helping him when he needed you most

I will advise you to keep pleading with text messages if he refuses to pick your call, and I trust that, with time, he will forgive you.
if things remain unchanged, then you can beckon on his mom and explain to her

Please disregard any advice that you should dump his ass. And please, do everything to get your man back

Can't thank you enough, just what my sis advice, I'll still try and plead, he was like its the house we starting our lives together in, and I wasn't even there to arrange it to my taste, he's really upset.

VargasVee:


I guess this isn't the first time he's up to this?

Seriously first time attitude, he knows how much our communication mean to me, especially with the distance.

Sleekfloyd:
Op
to tell you the truth i didn't read all that

Lol tnx aniway

liz4eno:
Can't thank you enough, just what my sis advice, I'll still try and plead, he was like its the house we starting our lives together in, and I wasn't even there to arrange it to my taste, he's really upset.

Give it a trial till Monday.

Mind you, tomorrow is another month, so I will advise you use that as an opportunity to blow his mind with a fascinating new month message. You should know the right thing to compose

2dice01:
good...

When he comes around dont do too much shakara o

e fa hear, na small I go do, missing him we can talk for hours but now