Obalende:


Exactly. Man hating is a serious issue in Toronto and the whole of Ontario right now. And most girls don't check wat they are being taught....

Most decent men don't condone sexual violence. Most guys will defend the ladies against such.

It's true females get endless attention from guys asking them out and trying to sleep with them though.

Daboomb:




Go and get a husband. Olosho! Weyrey!!

Your own case is beyond discussion.... you are a lost, bitter soul so l wont waste my time even debating you.
We know many people like you, eventually, the "hate" burning inside you gradually destroys you fromn the inside and you die-bitter, till the end.

tosyne2much:
Who should men also consult when they are being faced with the same sexual abuse?

Daboomb:




Go and get a husband. Olosho! Weyrey!!

Your own case is beyond discussion.... you are a lost, bitter soul so l wont waste my time even debating you.
We know many people like you, eventually, the "hate" burning inside you gradually destroys you fromn the inside and you die-bitter, till the end.

naijaboiy:

I don't condone sexual violence. As much as I like sex I won't bother any woman who is not willing to go down with me that moment.

We will have problems if you try to use sex as a tool to manipulate me. But I will never force a girl into sex. Never!

And this goes beyond respect for women or whatever. As a man you need to control yourself too, when you show that you can't do without sex you turn into an emotional slave and fall for the whims and caprices of a woman.

If a man respects himself and practices self control, he won't have to "rape" a woman and he will get respect from that woman too. He's gonna win both ways. Self control and respect will benefit you first before it benefits your partner or any female you are in connection with.

I wish every man can learn this.

Tittos:
There is an increasing number of rape cases in Nigeria. However it's shocking to find out that most rape cases are never reported. Also statistics show that a huge percentage of rape cases especially in minors are pepertrated by relatives or close family friends. Nigeria has a society still placed bulk of the blame on rape victims thereby making it difficult to speak up. Studies also found that the majority (76.1%) of the victims that sought help at a hospital did so within 24 hours of their sexual assault, but forensic evidence was not gathered because rape kits have yet to be introduced. This then makes it difficult to prosecute the perpetrator for lack of evidence.

These have made rape victims silent about their ordeal. Thier silence becomes dangerous as it can lead to depression and phobia. Most rape victims are not even aware when they begin to tow this path.
However these three women have taken the fight against rape and sexual abuse to a new level. Enlightening the public about rape and sexual abuse and harassment, helping victims and working hard to combat this ugly crime in Nigeria.

Chi Umeasaka

Aunty Chi has she is fondly called is a life coach, OAP and the producer of 'Teen times with Aunty Chi' on inspiration fm. A victim of rape, she has dedicated much of her life helping victims of abuse and counselling them. Her work earned her an appointment with the Abia State Governor as an SA to the governor on matters related to the girl child. She still shuffles between Lagos and the East and provides life counselling and guidance to youths in general and victims of abuse.
Ig @9ineteenchichi
Contact-08077567379

Blessing Timidi- Very passionate about her work, Blessing has canvassed the length and breadth of Nigeria helping rape victims among other Sexual Reproductive Health and Rights and seeking justice for them. She has spoken on many platforms and strongly campaigns against victimisation and silencing of rape victims.
IG@blessingtimidi
Contact-08052657061

Antonia Ojenagbo-Toniabruisedbutnotbroken is the ig handle of this bold and beautiful woman that usually spots a honey blonde hair. As her name suggests Tonia herself has been a victim of rape and abuse and has gone ahead to turn it around, empower herself and help those who are suffering same fate. She has a support and counselling group for abused and rape survivors where victims come together to talk about their travails, advice and help each other in the process of healing. She is also a certified group counsellor for troubled teens and believes in the power of counselling and collective healing as these helped her too.

IG @toniabruisedbutnotbroken
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Daboomb:



Spot on!
This is what needs to be preached and taught.

Boys and Men must exercise a high degree of self-control at all times, especially in sexual matters and not allow some manipulating women to turn them into objects controlled by a punanny.
Men should be able to look at a naked woman and say: Phuck-off, I dont need you or your sexual orifice.

But they would not teach or preach this because these feminazzis know that ones men develop that will-power to 'turn it off', they become FREE and cannot be manipulated anymore.
The Women lose Power over their male counterpart.

ApostleJSuleman:
consult me, the people's Apostle

Obalende:


She has good points though... there is toxic masculinity stemming from the male ego... this ego sprung up when you started insulting her instead of addressing her points.

I think feminism will do a good job of curbing toxic masculinity....

naijaboiy:

Errr...she's actually married bro.

Daboomb:



Spot on!
This is what needs to be preached and taught.

Boys and Men must exercise a high degree of self-control at all times, especially in sexual matters and not allow some manipulating women to turn them into objects controlled by a punanny.
Men should be able to look at a naked woman and say: Phuck-off, I dont need you or your sexual orifice.

But they would not teach or preach this because these feminazzis know that ones men develop that will-power to 'turn it off', they become FREE and cannot be manipulated anymore.
The Women lose Power over their male counterpart.

Imagine a world where every man can control his sexual urges and dictate when and where he actually wants sex.

We will be able to tackle this rape issue very specifically because it would only turn to those men who rape minors or as a result of robbery. There wouldn't be any case of boyfriend rapes girlfriend or something like that.

And most importantly the power to manipulate men will be lost. They gonna be bitter mehn

Daboomb:


Having a "designer Toy" at home, decorated to show your friends and called it "a husband", does not mean you are married or even happily married.
There are Husbands and their are "decoration Husbands". (Ever hear that song, Man-shortage?)

Just point to one happilly married owman who does all th nonsense she posts on Nairaland and l will cosnider shutting down my account.

You cant be happily married and still be a Man-hater!
The two dont go together.

Facts tho!

naijaboiy:


You just spoke my mind bro. Who should the male victims speak to?

All these biased misandrist hiding under the cloak of feminism to champion their hate for men. If they really wanted to fight it they should not focus on one gender alone.

These ones will end up brain washing the victims and make every man look like a devil in their sight.

There should be equality for all rape and abuse victims, whether male or female. Simple

naijaboiy:

Imagine a world where every man can control his sexual urges and dictate when and where he actually wants sex.

We will be able to tackle this rape issue very specifically because it would only turn to those men who rape minors or as a result of robbery. There wouldn't be any case of boyfriend rapes girlfriend or something like that.
And most importantly the power to manipulate men will be lost. They gonna be bitter mehn

Daboomb:


Now, to show you that there is an inherent tendency for men to spring to the defence of women, without thinking properly or being objective, l want you to show me where l quoted her FIRST and INSULTED HER. (Since you claim l insulted her first).

Be reminded that she was the one who quoted me FIRST and used an insulting word (Asinwin) at the ned of her post.
I then replied her accordingly.

Its typical, "toxic masculinity" to feel you just need to defend a woman (No matter how irrational you come across).
I understand the syndrome but unfortunately, women dont even appreciate it nor value such men... they see you all as "the same".

I am waiting.

naijaboiy:

Imagine a world where every man can control his sexual urges and dictate when and where he actually wants sex.

We will be able to tackle this rape issue very specifically because it would only turn to those men who rape minors or as a result of robbery. There wouldn't be any case of boyfriend rapes girlfriend or something like that.

And most importantly the power to manipulate men will be lost. They gonna be bitter mehn

cococandy:

Nothing sensible in response.
And as usual he tries to slut shame me into keeping quiet.
That only works for women who are ashamed of their sexuality. I'm not.
Find a better well reasoned comeback.

I fvcked your father BTW while your mom watched and stayed submissive to him.
Now that my level of oloshoism has been established can I hope for a reasonable response from you? I won't hold my breath though.

Daboomb:



Spot on!
This is what needs to be preached and taught.

Boys and Men must exercise a high degree of self-control at all times, especially in sexual matters and not allow some manipulating women to turn them into objects controlled by a punanny.
Men should be able to look at a naked woman and say: Phuck-off, I dont need you or your sexual orifice.

But they would not teach or preach this because these feminazzis know that ones men develop that will-power to 'turn it off', they become FREE and cannot be manipulated anymore.
The Women lose Power over their male counterpart.

Obalende:

hmm

Obalende:

lady it seems you are a product of the US feminist system. Its all well and good... Truth is we men need the ladies to help us curb our toxic masculinities... that is the truth.... this is real female empowerment.... how many men could you help? Please help us.

However, I would do well to recommend to you to guard against the hating strain of the movement.... as long as you balanced you are good.... you may have been brought up taught men are evil etc..... its good to review ones beliefs from time to time.

Daboomb:


I think the Blame lies squarely at the door steps of we "Fathers".
We dont train our male child to see sex as an "fleeting feeling".... like having a Lollipop or Ice cream.
You may want it but you must be able to say "I wont have it now". SELF CONTROL
We must tell our Sons that putting it in and psushing it out doesnot change you, make you better or even make you happier.
Its just an "intense feeling of a few seconds" that can destroy you for a whole life, if not properly managed.

Most importantly, we must tell our Sons that "You are not yet a man, if you cant say "No" to anything and everything, even food".
My own sons know that their "test of manhood" is when they can deny themselves of that which they desire most, at any time.
When anyone matures to that stage, then you have almost everything under control, including those that think having something between the legs, make them superior.

cococandy:
I'm sorry if calling out the obvious truth strikes you guys are man hating.
Maybe just maybe you people wouldn't have so much bullshit to be called out on if you did the right things?
Just saying

cococandy:
You're the one with lack of self control and somehow it's the women's fault?
Are you a brainless goat?

I don't think anyone is stopping you from teaching young men what needs to be taught. But are you? No you're not. You're looking for where young girls are getting help to derail it.

Devil's first son

cococandy:
If men are so concerned about each other? What's stopping you people from looking out for male victim of rape or forming your own rape prevention organizations instead of trying to come in the way of help being offered to females?

It Shows it's not about getting help for men but about preventing women from getting help. You guys never remember anything until women want to do it for themselves then you're all like 'what about men?'
All in a bid to derail the course of women's wellbeing.

Pocohantas is right though. Where did the thread specify that it's all about females? But your wickedness towards women will never let you see that. You saw help and women in the same sentence and your vile nature couldn't let it be.

Stupid things.

cococandy:
Sounds like a good start

But at the end you yet again revealed your deep problems. Helplessness at the site of a vagina. It is well

If men are so concerned about each other? What's stopping you people from looking out for male victim of rape or forming your own rape prevention organizations instead of trying to come in the way of help being offered to females?

It Shows it's not about getting help for men but about preventing women from getting help. You guys never remember anything until women want to do it for themselves then you're all like 'what about men?'
All in a bid to derail the course of women's wellbeing.

Pocohantas is right though. Where did the thread specify that it's all about females? But your wickedness towards women will never let you see that. You saw help and women in the same sentence and your vile nature couldn't let it be.

Stupid things.

Daboomb:


Olosho, Gerrof my mention joor.
Bitterness is eating-away and destroying what is left of your miserable and it shows in every line you post.
Frustrated animal forming "women defender"!

I said l wont come down to your gutter-level and l hope the person defending you has seen a snippet of who you are.
Ill-mannered, uncultured, frustrated and bitter loser.


L-O-O-S-E-R!

Obalende:

Why would a man want to prevent a woman from getting help? I cant think of any reason.... you make this sound personal/ gender war... typical US strains of the movement.... I dey tell you....