Safiaa:
Ubunja we don hear. You are way too damn defensive. Too much of everything is bad. Understand that.

ubunja:

stop attacking i will stop being defensive.
Porn is Good. Sex has so many risks
-STIs
-False rape accusations
-Unwanted fatherhood.

ubunja:

just tell me one STI u can catch thru masturbation

JacksonD7:


I said sexual disorders not STI. Being able to get an erection for porn, and being unable to get it up for your wife is a disorder.

Safiaa:
Good luck.

ChiefPiiko:
I have downloaded a browser to unblock porn websites, I intend to download a lot of them and watch over the holidays

JacksonD7:


You do realize that if you use that same data to download some ebooks, you can learn a skill that could give you side income in the next six months.

ok. i will respect the fact that you took your time to answer to my points one by one.
i will try to do the same minus the qouting.
u said my comment on wanting to save money by not dating is obvously coz im broke and i must get a job.
well right there and there u get the difference between women and porn.PORN DOESNT ASK YOU TO GET A JOB FIRST BEFORE SEX. and that is important to note.i have an erection NOW but i must first get a job to get it attended to its hallarious. Porn 1 women 0.

u also said i must not lose hope on women.what the actual fvck!!!!! so i must keep kissing a billion frogs to meet my right woman while getting used and herartbroken??wrong life strategy. porn never broke anyone' heart. Porn 1 women 0.

u then said porn degrades women how exactly does porn do that? what is porn? PORN IS SEX FILMED ON VIDEO. so how does that become degradation? and u fail to even realise there is gay porn that dont even invollve women which happems TO BE WOMEN'S FAVOURITE . u also forget that there is lesbian porn. where its only women. dude!!!! and worse there are companies run by women shooting FEMINIST PORN (whatever that is)..my brother go to Instagram now and see women porning themselves all on their own. so effective is this that porn companies are complaining that these vids from these women are affecting their business. its clear u just repeat things u read on internet sites that hate men.
u mentioned porn treats women like sex objects i can say Wrestling treats men as sex objects. why do u think its most loved by women who enjoy fit men in underwear. u seem to forget that women ARE SEXUAL OBJECTS. we all are.thats why SEX SELLS and we all want TO BE SEXY. coz it matters. porn 1 women 0.

u said 5 mins causes prematute ejaculation.? i say who set the time for normal ejaculation? by whose standards do we measure sex? by God's? but there is no verse on that? by women?but they are lazy and never do anything.its easy to requeat 2 hrs of sex when all u do is lie back like a fallen tree. men dont need as much sex as women are demanding from them.if i ej_aculate in 3 mins then take me as i am or kindly exit my life and leave me to my porn. Porn 1 women 0.

porn will always be better than these women addicted to Facebook likes and chained to instagram like its their life support. this currrent age is not for marriage.women have become sh_t.

ChiefPiiko:
Are you serious? I never knew this

JacksonD7:


Thank you for listing out everything wrong with porn.





Women need 20 to 25 minutes on average to feel satisfied. If you can't last that long, then prepare for a broken relationship. There's nothing healthy about ejaculating in five minutes.

Doctors have a name for it, it's called premature ejaculation




You sound like a bitter virgin with no plans for life. Not a nice way to live if you ask me.

ubunja

ubunja:

is that how u plan to get men to stop porn by calling them 5minute losers who are virgins with no plans for life?
women have already insulted us with those words and they got tired coz words are useless just like pvssy.
if porn users are virgin losers why are u attacking them. ITS MORE PVSSY FOR YOU. have our share of women and enjoy.
cheers

JacksonD7:


First of all I got to laugh, your post is indeed hilarious. You're right about the pvssy inequality, only 20% of men have real access to most women. While the rest go on wishing or twiddling their fleshly bits to porn.

Getting to the top 20% is doable if you decide to take action, but apparently you're satisfied with blowing your seed over digital beauties.

Sometimes it impossible to save a drowning man who's bent on suicide. If you think masturbating your days away is best, then knock yourself out. When you inevitably crash and hit rock bottom, remember someone warned you.

Until then the top 20% will be dining with the ladies you could have had. I can hear them saying thank you.

JacksonD7:


Get a girl, get a job, pick up a hobby. There are many things you can do instead of blowing your seed over digital pixels on a screen.

ubunja

nelsonebby:
one of my guy has a girlfriend and he still masturbate.

lol

JacksonD7:

Your guy needs help.

UNDERWEAR:
Our vaseline lawd defends the brotherhood!!
Ubunja come chop knuckle.
.

JacksonD7 u tried anyway, buh u met the wrong dude.

UNDERWEAR:
Our vaseline lawd defends the brotherhood!!
Ubunja come chop knuckle.
.

JacksonD7 u tried anyway, buh u met the wrong dude.

ubunja:

he didnt meet the wrong dude.
he just met a guy who called him out on his bullsh!t.
he is just another blogger doing PR work for the Golden Vagina.no truth in him just a deep desire to see women worshipped. men are walking away from women.no amount of shaming them or glorifying pvssy would prevent them from flying solo.
women have their cucumbers, dildos, sybians and vibrators- leave the man to the one toy they actually have: Their Hand.
chill.
demet

itzmarvyx:
Sexodus

Guide To Surviving Nofap

If you're reading this, I'm assuming you've hit rock bottom. Even if you haven't, now is a good time to consider turning your life around. The first step to overcoming any addiction is

1. To become aware of the fact that you're an addict

Some addicts live in denial of reality. Which is not odd, because the brain often find ways of rationalizing destructive behavior, especially when said behaviour is addictive. Denying that you're addicted isn't going to make your life anyway better, and if you're saying that porn is just a habit. Then remember that every addiction starts out as a little habit. A little today, a little tomorrow, and the next thing you know you're hooked. In order to solve a problem, you must first realize that the problem exists. So, make that realization.

2. Get rid of your stash

In the early days of trying to quit porn, I often put myself in a dangerous loop. I was under the delusion that trying Nofap with 1 GB worth of porn was a good idea, because that would make the reboot more challenging. In all those cases having porn served no other purpose other than offering a shortcut to a relapse. If you're planning to succeed on Nofap. You're going to have to keep porn and porn substitutes away from you. What do I mean by porn substitutes?.

These are materials which are technically not porn, but trigger the same response as watching porn. These substitutes can get you aroused and triggered to watch actual porn. For example, you've got no business whatsoever surfing bikini models on Instagram while on Nofap. Checking the Facebook profile of every cute girl on your brother's friend list is out of the question too.

Some hardcore nofappers even unplug themselves from the internet during the reboot period. So, if you've got a stash of porn hanging around somewhere on your devices. Get rid of it now!

3. Identify your triggers

Now that you've deleted your porn stash, and are probably rejoicing at all the free memory space you now have. It's time to embark on what I think is a crucial step of the reboot process. It's time to identify and catalog your triggers.

What are triggers?, you might ask. Triggers are stimuli, those things that you see, hear, feel or think about that gives you an urge to watch porn or masturbate.


Now, it's time for an exercise. Get some writing materials, and look back to the times you fapped, as many times as you can remember. What were you seeing, or thinking of, before you decide to look for porn or fap.

Catalog as many of these triggers as you can, and become aware of them. Knowing your triggers is absolutely important because, if you're aware of you triggers, then you can

4. Avoid the slippery slope

As I've said before on this thread, we don't fap out of the blue. Something triggers us and we act on that urge, and end up viewing porn and masturbating. Eg,

1. I'm bored

2. I go online without a purpose

3. I remember a porn site I saw last week

4. I tell myself I'll take a quick peek

5. 4 hours later I've visited 6 sites and downloaded 15 videos

6. Fap time

7. I bust a nut and feel guilty after

8. Dopamine kicks in powering the chaser effect

9. I fap again

10. The cycle repeats


Taking the example above, all I had to do to avoid the scenario pictured there, was to address the first step, the trigger. Boredom is a major trigger for PMO, and if I had spent the time engaging in a productive activity that interests me, I wouldn't have had the time to wander aimlessly on the internet.

If you did the exercise from the previous step and outlined your triggers, look at your list and devise ways to counter each trigger. If being bored urges you to fap, find a hobby that interests you and entertain yourself with it.

If you being alone at home all day cause you to fap, then you should get out of the house. Go visit friends, join a social circle, a sports club etc. Something that gets you out of the house and keeps you busy.

If you can take note of and beat the triggers of an addiction, then you can beat that addiction.

5. Failure is not the end

A lot of people picture the path to success as a straight road. The truth is, it's actually like a zig zag, twisted by the failures you made while walking down the path. Those who push on despite the failures, are the ones who make it to the finish line.

Between this post and the very first on the thread, I've relapsed and restarted the reboot process more times than I can care to count. I failed over and over again, I lost hope and I regained it. Despite all that happened I'm still here, and I'm counting my days.

During the reboot process, there's a chance that you might relapse. If you do relapse, you should know that it's not the end. Reset your counter and pick up from where you left off.

Relapsing once is not an excuse to throw your head in the air and binge for a month. That serves no purpose other then to set you back severely.

In the mind of many successful people, failure is only feedback. Of you failed at your reboot, then you should pause and reflect on it. Figure out what you did right, and what you did wrong. Correct you wrongs and go at it again.

***Extra tips***

As far as know, these 5 today the building blocks of a successful reboot. But, there are other strategies that could be used to make the process easier. For example you could consider a

6. Change of environment

Looking back at my life, I've found out that good things happen to me when I take a break and go on vacation. I started my last successful reboot streak a day before my vacation, and I'll say the change of environment helped.

You don't have to go on a vacation to utilize this. It can be something as simple as getting out of the house, and taking a walk when you have an urge. That gets your mind off fapping and kills the urge. You're not going to fap on the street now, are you?.

7. Learn a new skill

There's no rule that says that you can't complete a reboot, while you're unemployed, doing nothing all day, and living in your Mama's house. But, it's advisable to find some productive activity to engage yourself in, during the reboot period. Getting rid of addictions leaves vacuums in our lives, and it would be ideal to fill these vacuums with something positive.

What's that thing you always wanted to do, but never had the time to do. Playing the guitar?, writing a book?, roller skating, etc. Now's a good time to put some work in. As for me I'll be writing, drawing, and reading everyday during the reboot.

Once upon a time I used the internet to download endless porn, and fap my brains out. Now, I'm writing about PMO and using the same internet to the message across. Talk about a change.

Conclusion

So, that's it. 7 tips on taking on a reboot and surviving to the end. If you know any other tips, that can make a reboot sail smoother, kindly share them with us. Congrats to anyone who read this, and decided to take action and turn their life around. The road to your destination is rough, but if you persevere you'll get there. So, get up, gear up, and start your journey. And while you're counting the days, don't forget to make the days count.

Day 02

It's been two days worth of surviving nofap. I've had 3 consecutive days of strong urges, which I've managed to ignore. I did the final edit of my Guide To Surviving Nofap, and published it.

I've been writing daily, while most of my other projects are in limbo, but at least I'm making progress somewhere.

I might write an article detailing what to expect during a reboot. There's a lot of crazy stuff that happens;

Withdrawal symptoms

Headaches

Blue balls

Insomnia

Flat lines etc

Some of these happenings can make you feel like you're going through hell, but if you hold on they eventually fade away. See you tomorrow people, keep staying strong and moving on.

JacksonD7:
Nice points Jayk1, it's nice to see a rational thinker on nairaland. It's true that quitting porn, and doing something productive isn't an easy task, but it can be done.

The point you made about giving men perspective on handling women, is sound. I might be adding some tips on that, as I go on in this thread.