Papiikush:


It doesn't work. It didn't work during our time when our parents will collect all magazines then punish us.

We will see these things in movies (pirates) or go collect from friends and hide somewhere far away.

I think once you catch your child watching porn just let him be.

Call him later, sit him down and have a father/son discussion. It is time he gets trained on sex education.

You can't cheat nature Cuz he is becoming a man

first Person to talk sense...our culture at times make tinz worse...

When that happens, talk to him, be open n discuss all things without hiding. Tell him how u fought ur own wars n won. Ask him if he wants out of porn and how he intends to do that. Follow him up on his plan. Ask him if he has a gf, encourage him to socialise with girls.
I did that with my last brother and it works, he still report to me on such issues if he is having a challenge. Be open about it, between the two of u

jejemanito:
I collected the phone - an android phone - and told him it is for less distraction purposes. But he needed a means to communicate with his parents so I gave him an old Techno java phone plagued with memory card issues

Guess what? He figured out a way to still use it to download UCbrowser then a batch of P*rn

Na for there I weak.

What happened to Nokia 3310 phones?

NobleAngell:
It's a terrible addiction. A spiritually-inclined addiction, you gotta pray him/her out of it. There are also effective physical approaches too, like bringing the child in the midst of people more cos they tend to keep to themselves a lot and they want to always be alone. Socializing with the right company can help them a lot.



If the above tips don't work, drag him to the nearest olumba olumba church for correct flogging.

Pray for him?I see. Now I see why Nigeria is like this..Shioor

sexybbstar:
I think you should collect the gadgets with him, like phones, laptops, etc and monitors the kind of movies he watches.

Give a rule on the type of TV station, programme or channels he can tune to.

I hope this works.

Bad advice... You just gonna be breeding a thug

Vivipop:
@jejemanito
Educate him on the beauty of sex. Tell him that it is normal for him to want to do whatever he did(having porn videos) at that stage of his life(puberty). Also teach him that women aren't for pleasure and he should respect them. Take those away from him and advice him to focus more on things that really matters, like his school and the sorts. Make him understand that there is time for everything and he is still very young to have those.

#mytwocents.

Best advice on here. He is at an age where he will be curious, he shouldn't be persecuted. People think sex education will just naturally come when you become an adult . The harsh reality is that most learnt stuff off the media (whether wrong or right). My Dad tried to give me a condom talk when i was 24 lol. Thank goodness i followed a good peer group.

Papiikush:


It doesn't work. It didn't work during our time when our parents will collect all magazines then punish us.

We will see these things in movies (pirates) or go collect from friends and hide somewhere far away.

I think once you catch your child watching porn just let him be.

Call him later, sit him down and have a father/son discussion. It is time he gets trained on sex education.

You can't cheat nature Cuz he is becoming a man

U on point man. Most of them porn addicts coming here to form holy holy... Smh

jejemanito:
No

dude,just educate him,punishing him is the solution

Omoluabi16:
Kai. At 14?? Pornography destroys. it will destroy his mind and physically. Get him motivational books for adolescents that can get to him, speak to his parents. Take him for deliverance, let him become active either in church or a sports club.Get him a video game if you can. Pornography is the devil's industry.

Which kind deliverance ,deliverance from the spirit of porn ..when he has a smartphone .. If una call 10 pastors after d deliverance with internet everywhere ,he will still watch porn

Buy am plenty vaseline

Nothing you can do about it, just get condoms for him and tell him about the dangers of std.
Its his time to flog you ve had urs so step aside.

tripoli007:


Which kind deliverance ,deliverance from the spirit of porn ..when he has a smartphone .. If una call 10 pastors after d deliverance with internet everywhere ,he will still watch porn

Bro, total freedom is not avoiding evil, but looking evil in the face and rejecting it. Give him a toy phone and he'll still find a way to watch it. You have point tho..the phone is a big barrier.

I THINK THIS WILL SERVE

hw fa leave am na nature of all boys when i be he mate I Don even dey finger girls

Guy! The best way to deal with such issue is to take away all his gadgets through which he can get to have an alone time with this video. Beating can't solve this matter, let him know u are watching him, but pls don't condemn him OK.

We have all at one time gone through similar issue, just that at that time porn wasn't accessible like it is now

Let him be. He's growing up

Hmmm, he has the knowledge already so there is little or nothing you can do about that.
Educate him on sex,age to do it, the risk involved, diseases and safety measures.
Then u can look for something to scare him from getting involved in sex until he Is old enough to know you lied. Hehehehehe

children of now adays like konji...
maybe he use it to mastubate.

so just seize his fone for while.
but why did u go through his privacy at the face place.he didn't lock his phone right.

just take it easy with him.he is growing fast n sex education is important .

me too started like that .then later I change.
I read many sex magazine when growing up.from hints,hearts,tickle and better lover..

so its turn by turn.
na his turn to learn.

jejemanito:
I collected the phone - an android phone - and told him it is for less distraction purposes. But he needed a means to communicate with his parents so I gave him an old Techno java phone plagued with memory card issues

Guess what? He figured out a way to still use it to download UCbrowser then a batch of P*rn

Na for there I weak.

lol..dis one mak me weak..

NobleAngell:
It's a terrible addiction. A spiritually-inclined addiction, you gotta pray him/her out of it. There are also effective physical approaches too, like bringing the child in the midst of people more cos they tend to keep to themselves a lot and they want to always be alone. Socializing with the right company can help them a lot.



If the above tips don't work, drag him to the nearest olumba olumba church for correct flogging.

I can't but agree with this.

sexybbstar:
[b]I think you should collect the gadgets with him, like phones, laptops, etc and monitors the [/b]kind of movies he watches.

Give a rule on the type of TV station, programme or channels he can tune to.

I hope this works.

Good. He should not be allowed alone. He already started masturbating. He needs counselling.

here's the deal. . .


don't play the parent or the accuser. .nah, the last thing you want to do is make him see as another figure to avoid. . .

so. . .

settle down with him and watch the whole damn video with him. . .

as you watch. . .

explain the reality of the porn to him, make him see the lies that those porn portrays. .the seeming enjoyment it advertise. .explain to him like an expert. .buh

more to this. . .

show him the real deal. . .like the process of finding love. .wooing a bae, prolly his classmate, take him out, ask of his crush, ask him to try and talk to the bae, if he feels shy cos he would. .break the ice to him, tell him that those porn is killing his confidence and creative mind. . .

well. .

this is a process. . .

3 or 4 years down the line, he would stop

. .for now, watch him grow and be a friend.

that's all you can do my brother

Omoluabi16:
Kai. At 14?? Pornography destroys. it will destroy his mind and physically. Get him motivational books for adolescents that can get to him, speak to his parents. Take him for deliverance, let him become active either in church or a sports club.Get him a video game if you can. Pornography is the devil's industry.

Gbam but that deliverance and devil thing, me no get oh.

#freethinker

jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

find same on by 14 y/o borders laptop. I was so confused didn't know what to do or tell, like you I kept on looking for smart way to confront him but....

With kids you have to scare the crap out of them....tell him if he doesn't stop....something really will happen, like may become gay or not have hormone disorder

jejemanito:
I collected the phone - an android phone - and told him it is for less distraction purposes. But he needed a means to communicate with his parents so I gave him an old Techno java phone plagued with memory card issues

Guess what? He figured out a way to still use it to download UCbrowser then a batch of P*rn

Na for there I weak.

it's an addiction. It's demonic. It will take the grace of God. Can he be busy always. Don't leave him alone. Give him torch light phone instead. He alone has to make that decision to stop. He needs counselling... if he is a child that listens, he won't be on the path for too long.

jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

Or he's doing that because he's bored

Wow am learning.

deepwater:
OP the first thing you have to do is to sit down and watch those videos completely yourself, you have to be very sure of the type of problem your cuz has got and donot generalize.

Please check if the videos are MILFs series, GAY (bisi things), transgendered, Lingo, CamelToe, Interracial, Biracial, Lolicon, Spanking nad whipping, facesitting, snuff, Japanese bondage, Gore, Scat, Preggo, Extreme fetishism, Fisting , Anal, Tentacle erotica, Funtanari, etc

OP You see, there exist a cluster analysis on porn viewers, this is divided into three:
1. Recreational Users : averaged about 24 minutes of viewing time per week
2. Highly Distressed, but Non-Compulsive Users: actually watched the least porn, averaging about 17 minutes per week
3. Compulsive Porn Users:This group reported watching the most porn, averaging close to two hours per week, and they were the most likely to say they go out of their way to make time for porn, such as by rearranging their schedules to do so.

You have to really take your time to study your cuz and come back, this issue is a very sensitive one, deleting those assembly files of MOJO has helped nobody.

What happens if himself gets caught up in d web?

lol, and watching porn Leads to masturbation

[b]Op I don't see any reason why you should stop him from watching porn, see when i was just 12 those days when iPhone was bird, no such thing as Internet browsing, no cafe's no smartphones. I had not even 3310 but guess what, I had porn collections hidden in very secret places at home. Even with the strict parenting I had, I know say if them catch me na die but I still get am!! Today am a young man, I watch porn when I like! If I like! It doesn't affect me in anyway, infact I watch porn with my girlfriend sometimes. The addiction dropped drastically as I got older, now i spend less than 3mins a week watching porn and I have no single collection on my phone. What that boy needs is sex education, he needs to understand the risks involved and how to protect himself. If you take his phone he will find another way, infact if he returns home na vex em go use download more than he had initially. It's just nature, he needs advise not flogging him or taking his phone. No matter what you do you can't stop him from watching his MOJO! You can only delay him but when he gets to school he will watch it or borrow a friend's phone for the weekend and hide it from you. [/b]

Some people are funny . He has porn on his phone like most guys filled with testosterone and he is demonic. What about rapists and pedophiles aren't those guys demonic?. How can you class a 14 yr old in the same bracket with those criminals ?.

Also some people are taking the word addiction out of context, just because you do something you are not proud of does not make you an addict o. Masturbating when you feel like does not make you an addict.

Addiction is a condition that results when a person ingests a substance (e.g., alcohol, cocaine, nicotine) or engages in an activity (e.g., gambling, sex, shopping) that can be pleasurable but the continuation of which becomes compulsive and interferes with ordinary responsibilities and concerns, such as work, relationships, or health. People who have developed an addiction may not be aware that their behavior is out of control and causing problems for themselves and others. taken from Psychology Today

jejemanito:
Now this is someone that knows exactly how I feel about using our "parents" style

It doesn't work!

It does work but with the right combination and not in all situations. Kids nowadays are like mutating malaria parasite that don't respond to chloroquin again but with the right combination, you can still achieve your aim.


Use the 4ps formulae

Preaching
It involves both spiritual preaching and brainwashing. let him know the spiritual and psycoligical dangers of it. You are older an well read than him. Go online and read more thing that he can relate to. you can even link some things that are affecting him presently with it.


Prayer
This doesn't need explanation.


Programming
You need to remove things that can lead him to thinking of porn from his reach. Things like gadgets. Program his mind towards films that don't have erotic themes. Possibly season films with good story but no erotic themes. If you can get him hooked on games of any kind, video games board games. Addictive games that is popular with boys his age.

Part of programming is to also have him around girls rather than boys. Yes girls. You and I know no boy would want to be caught with porn by girls his age. You can even threaten him that you will tell the girls that he watches porn.



Finally Punishment.
A little punishment once in a while won't be bad. It doesn't have to be severe. Just a knock on the head will do and make sure to follow it up with threat to tell someone anytime you catch him with such.


Advice:

It is better you curb it now that he is still young young before he graduates to masturbation. I tell you that is the hardest addiction to kick at this time and age of free nudity.