would U take da check on da first date

Free:

would U take da check on da first date

yes o, because i want to show him am a very independent lady and don't need his money

well there's no way im picking the bill on a first date irrespective of how independent i want to appear
i believe in rubbing a man's ego so let him pay
it makes him feel proud
He'll most probably feel like a fool if u pick the bill.
keep the money for later when u become friends and r confortable with each other
then u can work it out.

Well, If it is the Lady that asked me out I definitely would allow her pay but if it is other wise, then there is no way that can happen irrespective of whether she is independent or not. I foot the pay at least for that first time anyway.

Still me

iice:

Yes i could and would if he doesn't flip out. . .egos you know

YES O THIS GUYS HAVE TOO MUCH EGO, WHEN I WENT ON THE FIRST DATE WITH MY GUY, I TRIED TO PAY, HE TOLD ME I DIDN'T RESPECT HIM AND I FELT I PUT HIS PRIDE DOWN.

I will treat a man , no problem with that. Depends on the person too, i won't pay for an asshole.

Y I didnt ask him out

Well it really depends, if i feel like why, not? But nothing more attracting than a guy spoiling a lady especialy if he's the one that asked me out

y the hell will i pay for dinner whena a man asks me out on the first date. i mean he is the one that diverted me from my extremely busy schedule to sit down adn eat expensive, tasteless food that my cat could cook at home for free. and then to make matters worse u have to sit and watch himm eat and chew and talk about mundane nonsense, all this while u are trying to keep ur composure and try to look as interested as u can, pah, y the hell will i then turn around and pay for that.

just kidding that was pretty harsh, but honestly i wont pay for a first date and i will advice other girls not to, he took u out, so let me handle it. be pampered that is how it should always be.

Haha, no, he's got to pay lol.

@ PTNaija

may i ask why?

I would if i was actually interested in him, but if i am not then he has gotta pay for everything, in a case where he doesn't have enough money then i would offer to pay half, but you can be rest assured you will never see me again.

if we were actually dating then i don't mind paying for our meals when we go out on a date bcoz you can't just let the guy continue to pay, its unfair. if i was the one that asked him out then i would gladly pay for dinner.

Just thought i'd add my experience regarding the subject matter. I asked a lady out on a first date a few days ago and she paid despite my protestations. I didn't really mind. She insisted and being the polite gentleman i am, i obliged. It didn't cast her in a bad light in any way but rather highlighted her independence which i quite admired and suppose that any sensible contemporary man would.

@Free

It just seems right that the guy always pays for the first date. I'm just a bit traditional in a few things, can't help it. But I just don't see myself paying for a first date. Later on I will, but just not on the first date.

When a guy asks me out and i'm just getting to know him, i allow him to pay but if it's someone i've been friends with for a while and we're having a first date, I would pay for a date (maybe not the first) but i'll still pay for one of the early dates.

It just seems right that the guy always pays for the first date. I'm just a bit traditional in a few things, can't help it. But I just don't see myself paying for a first date. Later on I will, but just not on the first date.

yea i guess it "seems" right but i dnt think it shud really matter
evn if its the 1st or last date

I don't know, it matters to me though. Like I said, I'm pretty traditional in a lot of things, and that's just one of them. Some girls want to pay first just so they can establish their independence and stuff, and that's all well and fine. But being able to pay for a date, does not always signify independence. And I just think it's romantic if the guys pays (so I'm taking this from movies and things) but that's just the way I see it. I don't mind footing the bill, but I just don't expect to do it on the first, especially if he asked me out,

hmm i guess ur right,

4 my kind of person, no big deal.

Omo Eko:

yes o, because i want to show him am a very independent lady and don't need his money

i no mind take u out,

I will suggest I pay half if he disagrees, I wouldnt push it

hmmmmm very interesting, so how do i get 2 ask any of these Independent/Semi-Independent Ladies out on a date?

never met a lady who is ever prepared to contribute anything on our 1st date, infact they tend to see it as the last supper, eat and quench by ordering everything and anything

. . . . . thought so, expected response to my question. No girl will ever pay on the first date!

i once paid my half on a 1st date, but only bcz thre guy was a disapointment and i felt sorry for him.  that was the last time he ever saw me tho.

other than that i NEVER pay on any date, be the 1st or the 100th date.  i only offer to pay if it's his birthday but guys usually refuse anyway coz they also get a big expensive gift from me.  throught the relationship i also give them some gifts heere and there, like clothes, shoes, cologne, flowers, , yes even flowers, guys really appreciate flowers, coz most of the time, it's the first time someone ever given them anything, let alone flowers,

it depends if he asked you on the date i would be expecting him to pay

Yes I can do it and I have treated a man out on the second date. . .so it ain't no big deal to handle the bill!

I guess I'm traditional. I wouldn't ask a man out on my first date and I won't pay. My reasoning: men are hunters by nature. They like to feel as if they achieved something and used some effort to get it. More than likely if he is a good manly man, he will cherish the woman more and not take her for granted because she has consistently proven herself a diamond over time---worthy of the sacrifice; and not costume jewelry--too open and available. IDK maybe the men are becoming so unmanly is due to the woman acting like the man and vice versa. I am very independent and it's not about the man's money but it's beautiful to be cherished. Also, it's really good for a man to exercise his ego and work for something special---ME

Oh, that first meal is not a buy one and get (her) all deal. Over time and[i] consistency [/i] are the keys and it also proves a mans true heart and intentions.

yeah