nwando:

My sister I doubt not that they go home.I'm only saying that those girls at home are no way better by any stretch than girls already living here.[/b]In other words an ashewo in Nigeria may be an escort in America but at the end of the day na the same money for hand,back for ground.

You may be right.  But it is ma belief that the ones in Nigeria are better a say. If you have relatives in Nigeria who are trapped--you will understand what a mean.  Who wants to come over to UK or America to come and do "ashewo" for God's sake?--when you have people to feed in the villages?   When you can go downtown and get better services from transvestites in [b]any rural city in America--not to talk of major cities.  Does it give a decent income?  There is no way the most sophisticated Nigerian prostitute can come over and compete with[b] a local ashi in [/b] America---even the dirtiest ones--with what?-----to service who?---fellow broke behind Nigerians?--They will just use them over here to make x-rated movies with their pets.   Abeg leave all that Italian talk ok? Na play them dey play for there.  America na #1 and the best in many things--the good, the bad and the ugly--you name it.

I went school with some call girls here with "clientele Rolodex" and I am talking of serious escort services oh, they need to get a baccalaureate degree to enrol in--not that kinds you pack in molue buses to go service Abacha them--with smelling armpits, nylon bags for overnight stays and cheap 4-strand weaves. That was how they were paying their fees.  If you see these girls? If they told you they were ashis--you will say ooooooooooooooooh noooooooooo!  I say fine oyinbo girls. Not hungry at all--for sheer living dangerously.  Na when a enter one motor see all the tools of work for her back seat I realize where a dey. ------Hey it was just a ride home from school ok? With all the drugs and violence involved over here?  A typical Nigerian can never survive that I say.  They cannot even perfect their most basic 419 skills without getting busted. Like most things with Nigerians generally around the world--they neither have the "discipline, stamina nor the liver" for such tasks. Na only mouth them sabi make. An America will look you straight in the eye and tell you to go to hell without shame. Just carry on with their business.  If you bother them too much--they shoot you to death. Gosh! I love them for that!

All you need to do is to take those boys and girls away from that environment--to have choices to empower themselves and you will see that it is not of their choice in most cases-poverty. 
Take most of those Nigerians out of that poverty stricken money for hand-back for ground socio-politico-enonomic environment and if they choose to keep the real "African values",  they would never degenerate to the ones we have here--which is "ashewo" by education and choice--not poverty. That is the difference.

@ Almondjoy,

How do i beat this delusion out of u?
I think i need 2 sledgehammers and a dry horse-whip to thrash this ugly-headed hydra in ur system.

You are still missing the point like a free throw shot.
Singles in the US/UK go to Naija and marry because of so many reasons and NOT ONLY because there are no better options ABROAD.

Don't get it twisted. . . .there are many crazy UK/US singles all over the place but it is wrong for u to say the ones in Nigeria will always be better than the ones here no matter what.

It is a bad investment for any UK/US single to marry from Nigeria only for the girl to get here and misbehave.
Thinking about it. . . . .I am sure the only reason u prefer marrying from Naija is to take advantage of those jobless and naive men.
Of course, with your exposure and money, any Naija based dude will always say AMEN to whatever u want but it is TEMPORARY!!!!!!!!

U will always prefer that ROYALTY to any US/UK dude who doesn't give a Bleep about what u are or represent!!!!!
What have u got to impress him that he hasn't seen before? Cars? A Condo? LV bags? Fake boobs? Blasted butt? What?

Dangle a quarter of these things to Naija based men and IT BECOMES LOVE AT 1ST SIGHT(that is the key).
U need to see the reaction of an average Naija geezer when they see your debit/credit card . .
The abject poverty has blinded these men they will get married to anything to survive. . . . is that TRUE LOVE?

Because awon Omo oraisa obinrin full abroad.

@ AJ

If I should be sincere with you, I don't think being abroad of anywhere else can influence the type of person you are. They way you act is not always the way you are. Those irresponsible guys here would have been irresponsible even home. Those are the types who like easy things and you know easy things can be got anywhere. In Nigeria it's even simpler.

However I won't make that mistake again as I have been there before: my ex was actually like this. He tried to make a fool of me by saying shits but tomorrow we shall see who go waka pass the other.

Besides when I want to chose a hubby I go send am to you girls (AJ, Islander and TOH) to interview. I trust your judgments.

Chacal:

@ Almondjoy,

How do i beat this delusion out of u?
I think i need 2 sledgehammers and a dry horse-whip to thrash this ugly-headed hydra in your system.

You are still missing the point like a free throw shot.
Singles in the US/UK go to Naija and marry because of so many reasons and NOT ONLY because there are no better options ABROAD.

Don't get it twisted. . . .there are many crazy UK/US singles all over the place but it is wrong for u to say the ones in Nigeria will always be better than the ones here no matter what.

It is a bad investment for any UK/US single to marry from Nigeria only for the girl to get here and misbehave.
Thinking about it. . . . .I am sure the only reason u prefer marrying from Naija is to take advantage of those jobless and naive men.

Of course, with your exposure and money, any Naija based dude will always say AMEN to whatever u want but it is TEMPORARY!!!!!!!!

You will always prefer that ROYALTY to any US/UK dude who doesn't give a Bleep about what u are or represent!!!!!
What have u got to impress him that he hasn't seen before? Cars? A Condo? LV bags? Fake boobs? Blasted butt? What?

Dangle a quarter of these things to Naija based men and IT BECOMES LOVE AT 1ST SIGHT(that is the key).
You need to see the reaction of an average Naija geezer when they see your debit/credit card . .
The abject poverty has blinded these men they will get married to anything to survive. . . . is that TRUE LOVE?

See who wants to teach his cloned fowls about true love?   My friend go get out your rusty snow eaten sledgehammer and your dry cow-hide or horse whip like your behind, and a sure await you with an "oozie"--to explode in any orifice exposed to fit the nuzzle!--I have ma pick already!

Since you are so bright,  please share your fantastic reasons why many go to Nigeria to get a spouse--since according to you it in not for your 'bad shag" histories over there.  According to you there are now[b] "MANY REASONS"---not just a "disgraceful shag history. [/b] Who cares what they are as long as the ultimate goal is to go to Nigeria and get a spouse--which I am in support of if you missed it. Please if you have a problem with the hypothesis--take it up with the original poster who started the thread ok?

Look kiddy, --your arguments here only further demonstrate the reason why people except your kind should to home and get a "homely" spouse.  You definitely lack the basic home schooling.  I find it hard to follow the vagabonian trend of your discussions here. The milk man has been paying for your education over there a think! You need a dose of reality, since you express yourself like your head has been buried in some that "london fog/smut" over there.

You are so wired wrong! ---I can't believe a actually feel sorry enongh for you to shed a tear or two for your pitiful approach to this topic.  It is serious enough for you to stay focused.  I think you have lost it.  I can only hope you can find your way home someday!

Goodluck little bro!

Reading one of ma ol' time favority poems:

A Little Boy Lost---William Blake

tRoOE:

[font= Garamond]Na wa ohhhhhhh the thread looks so messy now[/font]

As usual, what do you expect?

michelin89:

@ AJ

If I should be sincere with you, I don't think being abroad of anywhere else can influence the type of person you are. They way you act is not always the way you are. Those irresponsible guys here would have been irresponsible even home. Those are the types who like easy things and you know easy things can be got anywhere. In Nigeria it's even simpler.

However I won't make that mistake again as I have been there before: my ex was actually like this. He tried to make a fool of me by saying shits but tomorrow we shall see who go waka pass the other.

Besides when I want to chose a hubby I go send am to you girls (AJ, Islander and TOH) to interview. I[b] trust your judgments. [/b]

He he he he he he!  Don't be deceived.  Your environment can definitely change you.  Yes, it is simpler in Nigeria but why?--These people have no hope. I repeat--if you take them out of that environment--you will be surprised what they can turn into. You have already experience that with an "ex". You are young and there is more to come. Look around you, most people will rather go to Nigeria to get a spouse--that is a fact.  And according to "Professor Higgins Charcal"---there are "many reasons" which a do not really care about as long as the ultimate goal is to go home and get a spouse.  Ma preference anyday--if anyone is unhappy about it--a sure do have a cocktail laced with cyanide for a speedy departure.  No questions asked!

I repeat--any person not married withing 5 years being abroad becomes damaged good.--Including students. Married people are more focused abroad. The single ones just roam around like possessed souls looking for a final restin' place.

Yup!  When you find him, please send him over here so we can interview him ok?

thresa8:

somebody talk too damn much,its like a disease.

Thank you Mohadana-dimka-harvest-okoroamadi-pilas-kelon!

Please contribute to the topic at least before you play referee!

At least some diseases are not contagious or terminal like the ones you carry around Nairaland--after visitin' your favorite joints in Ijawland!

Illiterate MUMU!

Once again,



Goodbye thread--nothing to come out of retirement to discuss any more.  Off to bigger and berrrer things!  Always a pleasure to talk too much with ma fingers according to some illiterate moon-shinning alcoholics on Nairaland!

And goodbye chacal--it has been a pleasure knowing you on Nairaland.

almondjoy:

See who wants to teach his cloned fowls about true love?   My friend go get out your rusty snow eaten sledgehammer and your dry cow-hide or horse whip like your behind, and a sure await you with an "oozie"--to explode in any orifice exposed to fit the nuzzle!--I have ma pick already!

Since you are so bright,  please share your fantastic reasons why many go to Nigeria to get a spouse--since according to you it in not for your 'bad shag" histories over there.  According to you there are now[b] "MANY REASONS"---not just a "disgraceful shag history. [/b] Who cares what they are as long as the ultimate goal is to go to Nigeria and get a spouse--which I am in support of if you missed it. Please if you have a problem with the hypothesis--take it up with the original poster who started the thread ok?

Look kiddy, --your arguments here only further demonstrate the reason why people except your kind should to home and get a "homely" spouse.  You definitely lack the basic home schooling.  I find it hard to follow the trend of your vagabonian discussions here. The milk man has been paying for your education over there a think! You need a dose of reality, since you express yourself like your head has been buried in some that "london fog/smut" over there.

You are so wired wrong! ---I can't believe a actually feel sorry for you to shed a tear or two for your pitiful approach to this topic.  It is serious enough for you to stay focused.  I think you have lost it.  I hope you can find your way home someday!

Yet another ENDLESS STREAM OF PRETENTIOUS BULLSHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!

Blimey. . . . . do u have any thinking faculty at all?
Excuse me. . . . You don't make sense with your Epistle to the Romans kind of comments.
How can u write so much and make no sense? 35 lines of crap. . . i will be interested to see your grades in school!!!!!!!!!

People go to Naija to marry and reh reh reh. . . . Did they actually tell u they couldn't find a spouse because they are damaged goods?
Why are u misleading the public with your animal rants and acting like a deranged hippo?
Keep your lousy opinion to yourself and stop making postulations that u cannot really support apart from your derailed uncles.

Blimey. . . . . . You need to dig your head out of your stinking ass and learn from others.
This isn't about me age but ma intelligence. I have met oldies like u with little or no intelligence.
Home schooling? U dont even know what that means if its forced down ur throat cos u are a classic idiot savant.
Your views are so warped u sound like a broken record already.

I have lost the appetite to continue this debate.
Whats the point in arguing with someone with the brain power of a mutt.
Maybe u should get an ice-pack and lie down.
Your case is closer to dementia than delusion.

What a minger!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hmmmmmmmn AJ na Nwando,your posts sounds sensible to my ears.
looking around me,i can savely say that most guys come for a home made bride cos they believe they are better than the ones abroad.they claim,they are more obedient,make good wifes and mothers than their counterparts abroad.for like 70% OF those i know that came home for a bride,it worked out fine.whatever,i really think one can find a good and virtous spouse anywhere.its only a matter of looking in the right place at the right time.i believe so much in this AJs phrase,God cannot be decieved,he wud give you what you deserve ! the guys abroad that come home,shag,phock and roll with some little innocent girls at home(either cos they are poor and cant help it or they are just plainly stupid)cos they feel they have the dough,God wud surely give you want you deserve at the right time.likewise the babes.
all in all,one needs Gods help and direction to make the right choice.

so where do u stay in uk?

My case is different. I am a student here in the UK. I have a lady back in naija that I have dated for 3-4 years now. At times I feel she doesnt love me enough. She tells me are parents are seriously against marrying outside her tribe (Igbo of'course). Although I believe we are still in the relationship, I am not feeling her if you know what I mean. I am seriously thinking of having one of the naija babes here. should I stick in there or get out fast.

olorogu:

My case is different. I am a student here in the UK. I have a lady back in naija that I have dated for 3-4 years now. At times I feel she doesnt love me enough. She tells me are parents are seriously against marrying outside her tribe (Igbo of'course). Although I believe we are still in the relationship, I am not feeling her if you know what I mean. I am seriously thinking of having one of the naija babes here. should I stick in there or get out fast.

U need to get out ASAP.
Her parents won't budge concerning the inter-tribal schitzo.
She's being prepared for another suitor as we speak . . . Igbo peops are into this arranged marriage thingy.

On her traditional wedding day. . . Many suitors(3-12) will be lining up and she has to pour palm-wine for her chosen one.
How would u feel if she doesn't choose you on the appointed day?
The shock might set your heart racing. . . . .

Chacal:


On her traditional wedding day. . . Many suitors(3-12) will be lining up and she has to pour palm-wine for her chosen one.
How would u feel if she doesn't choose you on the appointed day?
The shock might set your heart racing. . . . .

you know this is not right,why say it ?
i really wonder how possible this seems even in wonderland.
a lady with more than 1 suitor on her T marriage day
@olorogu,if you feel your babe dont love you enough,talk it over with her.pour out your fears to her and get to hear from her too.you are a man,use your discretion jare ! goodluck

@ Ifyalways,

That was what ma Ibo friends told me.

People line up under a shed and the bride is supposed to pour the chosen groom some wine.
Are u in any way suggesting this aint true or what are u on about?
Ask around.

am not suggesting that it aint true but am telling you the truth dear.
it has no atom of truth in it.
hehe,the grooms lining up indeed
am not yet married but i witnessed lots of T.weddings and nuffin like that happened.
the bride is given the drink and asked to present it to whomever she loves and knows is her hubby that i think,only goes a long way to show that she is not being forced/talked into the marriage.she fit do small shakara,carry the drink waka go round b4 presenting it to the hubby but pls it always gets to the hubby,the man that is indirectly paying for eveything happening that day who even bought the drink we are talking of here sef?the hubby ofcos.
it is not true !

@ Olorogu - run before you waste further time. If you guys were together - i would say work on her family but the pressure that will be mounted on her back home will be too strong to bear. She will leave you especially if her love is not as strong as yours.

@ Ifalways,

What is shakara?

Besides, are u Igbo?
Help me understand. . . .I thunk it's the bride's parents that organises the traditional wedding and not the groom.
I have heard a lot about conventional Igbo traditional wedding so i know so much.
There are always many suitors around . . . .most of em even go through the parents without the bride's consent, . Its a joke!!!!

see wahala ooooo,we are gently diverting from the topic.
shakara simply means she is not expected to take the drink straight to the groom.shes suppossed to walk around with the drink and make the groom little bit tensed up b4 she presents the drink to him afterall good things dont come so easily.
yes,am an igbo girl.
the bride parnets organize the T.wedding yes,but the groom supposedly foots the bill. _{you know am not yet married so i cant say that for sure,dont want my folks around to come pounce on me}
the most important thing and that am sure of is this there is just ONE groom for the bride on the Traditional marriage day!

The groom foots the bill, pay the bride price and pay for the wedding/reception?
Blimey. . . . I feel for ma mate, Emeka. . . . . . .At this junction, he needs a NatWest loan to marry his Igbo chic.

I also heard if the bride holds a bachelor's degree the price increases.
Potentially, a guy needs about 20,000 pounds to marry an Igbo chic.
Something needs to be done to this culture. . . . .

chacal who said so?
am sure it was not me !

well,the igbo guys are not complaining so
at least in my place,am sure of this,the bride price of every girl ranges from N36.OOK TO N56.00K at most so what are you not saying
20,000.00 pounds even Bill Gates wudnt pay that much.infact,what was the topic again . . . .

@ Ifalways,

Of course, one would need that much.
Costumes, drinks, food and the whole shebang will def'ly cost 20,000 pounds at least.
I am talking about classic wedding not cock n bullshit wedding. . . . . .

In your village, brideprice costs 56,000 bucks. . . . thats 250 GBP!!!!!!!!
Blimey. . . . . . . One can marry 20 women in your village easily.
Where is your village again? Onitsha or Enugu?

you got it wrong dear,i saidjust thirty six naira 
yes so with just one hundred naira you've got for yourself three pretty brides.
welcome on board,we are expecting you ! 
its a town in ABIA state.see you soon 

@ Ifalways,

36 Naira?
Bloody hell. . . . . . .can i marry 100 chics?
Seriously, it has to be more than that cos all those old men would drink cognac and devour bush meats.

However, Abia State. . . . .I was told, is a dangerous ground for visitors.
I was told there are certain areas where people are clubbed to death and eaten.
Is it true?

no,that is it for real .
56 naira for graduates only

Abia state dangerous for visitors
where is safe for visitors then?
tell me,when are you coming down?one more thing,the list b4 the bride price is like 10 pages A3 typing sheet are you still game?

@ Ifalways,

I am not fazed. . . . .
Name your price!!!!!!!
I will be damned if everything drowns 20k pounds. . . . .
Is Oliver D'Coque still alive to lighten up the occasion?

thats the spirit.i say thats the spirit of Abia queens suitors
oliver is outdated now.he cant stand the force of flying rolls/wraps/bundles of pounds any longer.
we wud be needing like 3 to 4 stands for musicians,young breeds i mean,those are the only ones that can fly to grab your pounds when it comes flying nah.so for the musicians,we should be talking of :
Morrocco maduka;his renting fee is 100k for an hr
Warrior bros:renting fee 200k per hr
Orental brothers: 300k per hr

so where are we ?

Morocco Maduka, Warrior bros, Oriental bros. . . . .
Are they gangstar rappers?
Just gimme the bill . . . . . (plus your own commission)!!!!!!

Do the math and get back to me ASAP.

Chacal:

Morocco Maduka, Warrior bros, Oriental bros. . . . .
Are they gangstar rappers?
Just gimme the bill . . . . . (plus your own commission)!!!!!!

Do the math and get back to me ASAP.

you said you are a student? Are you a non-academic student union(NASU) member

ok in-law.
lets say twenty thousand pounds for mobility first.
errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrhm if along the line,there is need for more,trust you my in-law for more after all you are loaded.an ofesi in law no be moi-moi !
just make sure,you come along with convertibles,flashy ones for that marra on the D-day.if there is shortage of pounds,just in case there is,it can easily be sold off to one of the losers around
i forgot,there is the first ceremony b4 the real T.wedding oooh.its called iju ase! that one na anoda chopping tactics from these igbo ppl
once again,welcome,my wealthy in-law.
@faky,no he cant do that.why wud he waste his time on common calculus when hes got ppl that he can pay to do that.POUNDS speak and bullshit flys.

@ faketan,

Chacal? A student?
It's either u r dyslexic or hyperopic . . . .
NASU? try NASA.

@ Ifalways,

Why don't u get an office and run an agency as a wedding planner.
20k pounds for mobility? Are u shitting me?
Get serious. . . . . .Whats the exact value of marrying an Abia chic?
Surely, it cannot be more than 20k.